2007-01-04 23:07:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no, but I would talk to your Mom about it & tell her that
she want might to see a marriage counselor & stop doing what she's doing
Good Luck
2007-01-04 23:12:00 · answer #1 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advise would be to have a word with your mother and tell her what you know. I don't know the particulars, but perhaps you should leave open the possibility that it is not what you think and has a better explaination for what looks really bad. I would not under any circumstances tell your father. You really don't want to be in the middle of that particular can of worms, no matter what ends up happening. You could end up alienating both parents. This is part of their relationship, and their problem- and doesn't involve anything you need to be a part of. I tell you this as a former counsellor, working with families. Your relationship with your parents is that of a child and parent. Your parents marriage is a whole different relationship, between them alone, and not involving you, nor can or should it. Whatever has lead to an affair is a problem that they alone can deal with and solve, and it will be best done if you do not get involved. If your mother truly is having an affair, there is a lot more going on in the mix than you are aware of or even want to know about. Tell your mother what you know, and that you will not be covering for her. Tell her you disapprove of the disception, and encourage her to take the rest up with your father. Then butt out, or you will get burned. I'm sorry to hear you have made this sort of discovery. Sometimes ignorance is bliss, especially when it involves the follibles of our parents.
2007-01-05 07:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by The mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything happens for a reason, and there's a reason you found out about it. You need to be careful how you go about it--Your mom is liable to never forgive you. Do you think it's your place to tell him? Shouldn't she? It all depends on what kind of people your folks are and if your close with them. Maybe you could talk to your dad and just have him catch her himself..
2007-01-05 07:24:20 · answer #3 · answered by jakkibluu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom. I would not advise that you insist that she tell your dad. We all make mistakes and others are there to bring us back to correct ways. So, take it as your chance to bring your mom to right way. She might assure you that she's gonna stop her cheating ways.
But I strongly believe that you must not tell your dad. maybe to make your mom see how serious you take this matter. Show her this page (your question and answers) tell her that you needed advise but preferred strangers to family members for reasons known to you. Good luck!
2007-01-05 08:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss, there must be something amazing about you that God has chosen you for this. I know it sounds like something a priest or holy man would say, but this is fact!
I suggest that you Tell your mother FIRST, and then ask her to tell your father.
It is going to hurt him, you and your mom, but the earlier the better. If he has to find out, he might want to know for how long it went on, and he might blame himself for not noticing earlier and might wonder if maybe he could have done something. ...Might!
Also - If YOU feel compelled to tell him, let your mother know before you do.
Miss, whatever reasons your mom gives you, don't give in. She is your mother. We have always learned and passed down the following understanding:
You MUST respect God Almighty FIRST, and who next? -Your mother, and who next? Your mother... and then... Your father!
Your mom, has done something that is really bad, not for you, not your dad, but for her. Honestly your mom is in a lot of danger for doing this. A lady or man who commits such a thing is not going to be left alone in this world or the next. Your mom could not protect and guard what your father trusted her with - his heart, his honour, and his kids.
Remember this:
Your mother can never truly be forgiven, unless she asks for and receives forgiveness from the ones that she wronged- YOU! & YOUR DAD! But God knows best!
This sort of thing is quite humiliating, and she can lose you and your dad, she can lose the respect of her friends etc. but all that, in this life is the most servere of consequence for what she has done. And trust me your mom knows this, but now she has to make the choice of whether she will swap the consequences for her family's forgiveness - That is how God will forgive her, for making the choice of going to her husband and confessing. - But because she knew the consequences for her actions and still asked for forgiveness etc. God, in His infinite Mercy might NOT let her go through any of that, and your family will, if God wills, be back to happiness. Please explain this to your mom.
Take and Good luck!
2007-01-05 07:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by U2 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Id leave little clues. Im sorry this is happening to you, and that you were the one to find out!
2007-01-05 07:10:47 · answer #6 · answered by xo_mzbeck_ox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you yes but try talking to your mum first
2007-01-05 07:14:07 · answer #7 · answered by Christi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have clearly mentioned ...u'r dad lives for your mom........so it is really going to destroy your dad....and u don't want that...
talk to u'r mom and make her realize what is good for her and for the family in larger picture.....if required consult a doctor or a therapist.......
2007-01-05 07:17:44 · answer #8 · answered by sagitarius....25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her you know. then go from there.
2007-01-05 07:52:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋