The girls Fault?

Question

Why is it that when a man cheats on his partner with another woman (who was told by him that he was single) a slut. why do these women attack the girl when they should be angry at thier partner. I can't stand women like that! If the girl really thought he was single how is it her fault?

Answer 1

Hi Mellie,

It is not the girls fault.

Some of the rules in love and war are not logical and make no sense.

Bottom line is, these women who have been betrayed by their Man??? (Questionable status) go into panic mode and fear losing their male partner.

Although he may be a liar, a cheat, a bum and a loser, he is their liar, cheat, bum, loser, and they will fight to the finish to keep him from another woman as he is all they have.

And to top it all off, the rat probably lied to their partner and made it look like he was seduced and not at fault.

The final reason is called denial.

Before they see their dream man disappear in a puff of smoke to another woman, they will refuse to accept or believe anything other than the other woman caused all this mess and they will never accept any other reality.

I am a man and sad to say, some of my male counterparts wouldn't make a wart on a real man's behind.

Thanks for the opportunity to answer your question,

Darryl S.

Answer 2

Congratulations, you have learned the meaning of scapegoating. It's easier in some way, or perhaps more convenient, for the wife to blame the mistress for the affair.

For example, if the husband has "bright prospects" of having more money in the future, it would be advantageous for the wife to delay her nasty divorce surprise until the moment when she can profit the most by taking her husband to court and trading him in for half his worldly wealth, plus alimony. You appeared in his bed BEFORE it was maximally advantageous for her to strike, and therefore she blames YOU instead of HIM.

If your affair with her husband had occurred at a later time, the wife might have forgiven you as being his innocent victim -- but used you as a reason to strip her husband of money and property in a courtroom.

I am suspicious of the persistence of the "lifelong tradition" in marriages. It seems to me that, when women acquired political equality with men, the marriage institution should have been made more flexible in duration. Men can potentially have hundreds of children through promiscuous sex, subject only to competition by other men for the same women. Women can have only a few children (10-20), and the number of children doesn't depend on whether they sleep with one man or with a hundred men. Therefore, in reproductive terms, lifelong marriage shelters a woman, but it binds a man.

However, in a society run by money, what does the sheltering for women isn't the man per se, but rather what the man owns: his money, his valuable property. If the woman can keep that, while getting rid of the man, then she'll be plenty "sheltered" as she seeks another man to marry and, maybe, play the same trick on.

To a woman like that, other woman are bothersome because they interfere with her own "seduce and then barbecue" plans.

Answer 3

It's not her fault. Men are pigs. As for the woman blaming the other woman, I think it's because they don't want to face the prospect of being alone. If they blame hubby, they have to accept that he might be moving on. If the forgive hubby, maybe he'll stay. Of course, if he cheats once; he'll possibly do it again and the wife will have to wise up sooner or later.

Answer 4

i love this one, if a girl cheats she gets called a sla*g but if a man does it what does he get called? i think most women think its the girls fault like she done all of the work and hey the man gets away with it cos his a man and ofcourse men cant say no with them being a man and having sex on the brain etc

Answer 5

She wore the clothing purely so she could get the attention. i think of she is conscious she led to the whistles and the staring. in spite of the incontrovertible fact that, the lads could have greater self administration than to snatch if she does not choose them to. there is not any excuse for grabbing at somebody. That shouldn't additionally be a debate. human beings would desire to have self administration and be attentive to that purely through fact the temptation is there, they shouldn't supply in to it. If he have been to snatch at her and he or she pronounced it, it may be seen sexual harrassment. There could be no question approximately it. there is not something incorrect with looking, in spite of the incontrovertible fact that it may flow too far.

Answer 6

Cause people are stupid and they always want to blame someone else. If she blames him then she's admitting he's trash and is going to have to end things, but if she blames the girl then she gets to keep the thought that "he's a good guy, but she came along and screwed with his head." I guess it's easier for people to cope in that fashion.

Answer 7

Its the guys fault I guess maybe they feel insecure because they can't keep their man

Answer 8

I don't mean to be disrespectful or flippant, but If you really really think about it, I think you will understand that first public reaction. It would help if you could truly put yourself in her shoes, which up till then presumably included loving and trusting him.