two days ago my friend told me that he's gay, and i knew it but then he started to act so gayish and talking bout ppl that he met and started to interduce me to his gay/shemale/dragqueen friends and they're sooooo SCAREY and i saw one of them i thought he was i women and i don't know wut to do bout him should i be friend with him or not!!!!!!
2007-01-04 22:56:00 · 11 answers · asked by SO HIGH 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
God bless.
2007-01-08 16:31:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, does it really matter if he's gay or not? Obviously him hitting on you would be a roadblock in your relationship, but don't expect that to happen just because he's out now. There are millions of boy/girl friendships out there who respect each other and refrain from taking the relationship further. It seems to me like this would be no different. If he is truly a good friend, he will treat you as such and not enforce anything on you that could be considered awkward or uncomfortable.
As for his new friends, I would suggest that you remind him: He doesn't need to have gay friends just because he is. It would be perfectly fine for him to keep his old friends, and not branch out to others that might not be the right kind of people for him.
You in turn need to remember that he is your friend, and you have an unspoken responsibily to accept him no matter who he is, or what kind of people he is attracted to. This however absolutley does not mean that you have to become involved in the new people he is associating himself with. I would certainly not suggest breaking off a friendship with this person, simply because you know that if he had not been gay, you would not have so much as considered that possibility. If he pushes you towards interaction with his new friends, decline. Tell him that you are not a homophobic, but that these people have little in common with you and you are not sure how to communicate with them. Over time things may get easier, but for now just consider how much harder the situation is on your friend. Be loyal, kind and understanding, and karma will award you for your selflessness.
2007-01-05 00:23:42 · answer #2 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lose a friendship over something SO stupid. If that is the way he wants to be, let him. You were friends before he told you the truth. He hasn't changed, your thinking has changed. Gay or drag queen or whatever, are nothing to be scared of. They make the best of friends when you are down and out, they stick with you through thick or thin. Get rid of your fears and try to get to know the person. You may end up with more friends and wouldn't that be great. You can never have enough friends.
2007-01-05 00:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by Jodi C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are uncomfortable around his friends but you still want to hang out with him, then just hang out with him and not his friends. Just because you are friends with him doesn't mean you have to be friends with his friends. But it's unfortunate that you are so sheltered that you find people like that "scary".
If you are worried about him acting different, talk to him about it. Tell him that you are worried that he is trying to fit himself into a stereotype, or trying to change himself to fit in to his new group of friends.
And in the end, sometimes people change and drift apart. Not all friendships last forever. Though, it sounds like this all might be kind of good for you. You could learn a lot about different lifestyles.
2007-01-04 23:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think it's a bit nasty and shallow to not be friends with someone just because they have told you that they are gay. If you like him then you must accept him for who he is.
However, he must respect that it may take you a bit of getting used to and not force things in your face. But you need to tell him this or it will just get worse. Just tell him you accept him for who he is and it doesn't change your friendship but you do need time to get used to it so can he relax on keeping introducing you to all of his new mates.
2007-01-04 23:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can still be your friend even if you don't like/live his lifestyle. Be honest and tell him that you are uncomfortable with meeting these people. Tell him that you don't care that he is gay, that you had already figured/knew that but that you don't want to be involved with the "scene" he is introducing you to. There is no crime in that and if he is your friend he should understand. Good luck.
2007-01-05 00:44:08 · answer #6 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the guy thought you were a good enough friend to handle it... if you are uncomfortable w/some of his new friends tell him, otherwise grow up... either the guy is your friend or not a persons sexuality shouldn't play a factor...don't be a homophobe!
2007-01-04 23:01:19 · answer #7 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide, but he is your friend so talk to him on how you are feeling. He has told you about him self so he must trust you, so trust him and talk.
2007-01-04 23:00:16 · answer #8 · answered by lady_di_ar125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you like him for who he is or you don't. Obviously this is too much for you to handle, so it would help to distance yourself from him.
2007-01-04 22:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by shaldyr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a pass at him
2007-01-04 23:03:29 · answer #10 · answered by b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beware he might want to marry you.
2007-01-04 23:02:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋