how many people are still in a relationship with the same person they knew as as teenager?

Question

my question is in regards to a answer of someonelses question i was reading Guaranteed that a relationship at your age WILL fail.....they said that was to a 16 year old who wanted a bf parents said no heres my beef ive been with my wife now for 8 years been together since my parents are in thier 40's have also been together since teenagers so how many other people are still with the same person they were with in highschool?

Answer 1

I am, My parents are, My godparents are, My parents other best friends are. It works for some people. My parents went out on their first date in middle school. My mom says she knew she wanted to marry him but wanted to play the field a little first so dumped him and they dated on and off through high school and college. My godparents started dating in either junior or senior year and are still together and the most well matched couple I know. My parents other best friends got pregnant and married senior year of high school and now have 3 very well off kids and 2 grand kids and are happy as clams. They are my idols. They took an unexpected happening and made it into an extremely happy family. I'm getting married in about 2 years-ish to my fiance who I started dating in 9th grade. Someone just have better sense when they're young than others.

Answer 2

My husband and I met as teenagers. We got married after high school and have been married 17 years. A relationship at this age is not always doomed to fail, half of all marriages in the US end in divorce even when the people are by far older.

I think it can be said that marriage is work at any age. You need to grow together not apart. You need to communicate, etc. Some people aren't ready for that at any age.

At the same time I have to say I do not want to encourage teenagers to marry. I think that is why most people prefer to discourage it. Some of these same people don't have a clue either.

I can tell you that my husband and I are much happier in our marriage than some of our friends who waited until their late 20's and early to mid 30's.

My brother in law for one, he and his wife are so selfish. Almost like they lived on their own too long, just can't get the idea of being a 'couple'. I think they enjoyed the 'idea' of marriage more than the actual give and take a marriage requires.

Marriage is a partnership, I married my best friend, we can talk about anything. We dated all through high school, I think that helped too. We didn't rush into anything. Some teenagers are more mature than others.

Answer 3

My relationship doesn't have the longevity of some of the other answers here, but my husband and I met while we were still in school. We didn't start dating until early in my senior year of high school, and we actually got married pretty young, but we just passed our 6 year anniversary in August and are expecting our first child in two months. It hasn't been heaven, and there were CERTAINLY times when I wasn't sure if we'd make it through or not (due in no small part to circumstances provided by the Army), but here we are.

Teenage relationships aren't necessarily doomed to failure, but the chances are so much lower because people change differently, and if you can't change WITH a person, you end up not being able to stand them. Selfishness probably has a lot to do with it, also. Many people I meet are reluctant to adapt to others, thinking the whole world needs to adapt to them.

Answer 4

I started dating my husband when I was 15, he was 16. We are now 53 and 54 years old and still happily married. My dad did not especially like him at first, but now after 34 years, he is the favorite inlaw. I do not encourage young people to marry right after high school.. We went to college and married part way thru college. Got our degrees, bought a house and were able to support ourselves before we had children. I am glad we took the time to get done with school and be a "young" couple for a few years before we became parents.

Answer 5

My husband and I have known each other as friends since 4th grade (about age 9) and have been together as a couple since high school. We married right after college and have been married now for over 26 years. We have known each other for about 40 years!

Answer 6

My husband and I have been together since highschool, and our love is just as strong as in the beginning. We are married 13 years now, but have been together for 17 years, and have 3 beautiful daughters.

Answer 7

My husband and I meet when we were in the 7th grade. We were just friends. In high school we became closer friends because at the time I was dating his best friend. When my boyfriend left for the military my husband then became my shoulder to cry on and my best friend. He was giving strict orders from my boyfriend to watch over me. Well because we were spending so much time together we were becoming closer and we were both starting to have feelings for the other but I did not want to act on them because I could not stand the thought of losing both a boyfriend as well as my best friend at the same time if we broke up. When I graduated from high school I too joined the military but not to be with my boyfriend (by this time we had broken up), and there I meet my first husband and yes I was young, lonely and away from home the first time. When my time with the military was done my marriage ended as well. Coming home was the best thing I could have done and guess who was there for me to cry in his shoulder but the man that I have been married to for the past 12 years. He says that he waited just for me to be ready for him because if we tried to be together before it may not have worked out. We are both 37 and have been together a total of 15 years and have known each other for over 25 years. For us being so young, we have been in each others lives for almost a lifetime it feels. I have four kids two from my first and two with him, but you would never know that they weren't his other than looks. He is more of a father to them then there biological father could ever be. I sometimes regret not acting on my feelings when we were younger but it just wasn't our time. Now my parents are divorced after 20-some years of marriage and his parents have been married for 51 years and his parents were each others first love although I think they were married in there early 20's. His oldest brother was first married at 18 or 19 and he is now in his third marriage, his other brother married in his early 30's and has been married for 14 years. His sister just married about 4 years ago and she was in her late 30's. I am not saying that marrying young or old works or does not work. It's all in the two people that are marrying each other. You have about a 1 in a million chance of finding your one true love, I feel that I have and I feel that his parents have. If you don't find your one true love that does not mean that your marriage won't work it just requires a little more love and hard work to make it work. At our wedding we had this, "today I will marry my friend the one I laugh for, live for and love."

Answer 8

My wife and I began seeing each other in High School. We were married just prior to graduation and have been married over 31 years. She is the "light of my life". We have three wonderful children and one grandchild that we are both thrilled over. Our oldest is just over 20 years old and we both graduated from college. I only want you to know that a person must commit to the marriage relationship and be forever faithful to his/her partner to make the marriage work. We have both become Christians and that has enriched our marriage much more than you would ever believe. GOD has truly blessed us. Have a great weekend!
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Answer 9

Well...I 'm married to a guy I dated in high school, but we broke up for a couple of years and got back together around 11 years ago.

Answer 10

I have been since I was 16. We went to the same highschool and college. I think a lasting relationship has nothing to do with age and everything to do with communication and comprising.