Im trying to figure out if I should have sex with this guy.He has an almost 4 years relationship with his girlfreind and they live together. But he is my first love.He could have been mine 4 years ago but he didnt pick me.I had relationship with others for the past years. But now he's back in my life and want to have a sexual relationship with me.I know ,I shouldnt be thrilled. I know that I should already know the answer.But it appears to me that I have the right to have sex with him.I wanna have a chance with the love of my life,even it's just sex. I know it's wrong and the one who will hurt the most probably just me! Im still in love with him...it will never be just sex to me.Somebody please talk me out of it.Give me a good reason to not hurting myself again.
Im sorry if my english is not so good,explaining this situations.Im not native
Thanks
2007-01-04 22:17:54 · 13 answers · asked by curious girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just want to say how much I like this guy.I really do. I had a failed relationship before cuz I spent too much time comparing this guy to my ex bf. I always think that I would do anything just to have this guy back in my life.Now here he is......wanting something else different from what I do.I would be a liar if I say that I want him to fall in love with me.And I thought sleeping with him would do.Pathetic,yah I know..
2007-01-04 22:44:43 · update #1
Yes.He's still with his Girlfriend. And Im not a virgin..but close enough!!I was been with only one guy.Im 26!!Thats why I thought this "just sex" should be ok with me.Im being teased by him all the time that Im a Miss conservative.I feel like I have an extra credits to be a lil more ...easy.Anyway,thank you guys.I was crying earlier,I actually feel better even dont know what I should do next.
2007-01-04 23:02:37 · update #2
NO!!! He lives with his girlfriend, imagine what she would think if she found out. She could end it with him, and after four years, imagine how much that would hurt him. Do you really want to cause pain like that to someone you love?
Anyway, if he only wants you for sex, it would be ok if that was all you wanted, but you obviously want more. Having sex with him will NOT make him love you, and you will only be disappointed and hurt. If you believe you are willing to risk ruining his relationship and give up your own feelings just to have sex with him, go ahead, but prepare to suffer greatly for it.
Personally, i think you both want different things out of this relationship, and if you have sex, this will be unfair on you. He wont care about your needs or your feelings, because he is only in it for sex. I think you should hold off, at least until he breaks up with this girl he's living with, and is willing to try having a good, loving relationship, which is what you deserve!!!
You deserve to be loved and cherished, not used for meaningless sex, and you should forget about this guy until he is able to treat you right.
Don't give up!!!
2007-01-04 22:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by rosy p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it didn"t work then and he chose someone else,what makes you think he would do anything but use you now?Grow up and think of a lasting relationship instead of one just for sex.You are right about one thing you would be the only one hurting again . because he has what he wants at home or she wouldn't be there you would.All he is looking for is some strange or new sexual partner for awhile and when he is done with you he will go back home to her .
2007-01-05 06:37:10 · answer #2 · answered by Janio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dun Be a Fool !!!!
If he willing 2 give Up in a 4 yrs relationship So u would be the Nxt too, So dun fall into the trap lal !!!!
He doing it with his ex. he will oso do it with you wan !!!!
Sex is not a good reason for love or like !
He say he love u like u ,its a word only cos he now feeling lonely n he needs internal care only !
He doesnt loves u at all,He jus wanna have SEX with You tats all !!!!
If he loves you veri much he wouldnt have ask u for SEX !!!
So dun be a fool n jus give ur Virginity 2 Him !!!!
2007-01-05 06:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by jsdevils6611 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No if he wasn't good enough to pick you 4 years ago then he is probably the still like that and he doesn't deserve you, don't waste your time having sex that your never going to think of as just sex and look for a real man
2007-01-05 06:23:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make sex with him, he came back for sex only, learn to say NO even you love him. He must marry you first before sex . He will add insult to your injury when he will leave you again after sexual intercourse. Think Twice lady.
2007-01-05 06:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by jun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not entirely clear whether the guy your talking about is still living with his girlfriend or if that relationship has ended. My advice is take it slow, there is no rush to have sex with him.
2007-01-05 06:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by milwaukiedave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not the one for u anyway..though he was ur first love, they need'nt always be the one who wud remain ur 'love'..and if at all u have sex with him it is only going to be a momentary pleasure which is not the reason y v r living for....go for someone who is single and ready to mingle and who'll love u through out ur life..he may not be the first love but obviously shud be the last and final one, whom u can rely upon.......and wil not leave ur side
P.S: ur english is not bad at all..all the best!
2007-01-05 06:23:53 · answer #7 · answered by shanthicharuvil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years! say no and get a real relationship. he didnt pick u at first so make him pay and ruin his life 4ever or u can just leave
2007-01-05 06:22:45 · answer #8 · answered by LiTlE mIsSy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry mam,
now you are with some one else who inturn is true to you and in this situtation you should never think of any one else. that too your Ex should never ever get a chance to have sex with you.
2007-01-05 06:27:58 · answer #9 · answered by samp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has been with her 4 years you don't really love him its called lust and feeling left out back away
2007-01-05 06:22:18 · answer #10 · answered by Bob D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋