ive been dating my boyfriend for a year and 6 months now and he is perfect. The only problem is when we first started talkn he was messn with other girls that would give him money and at the time that was fine with me because we were not a couple. Now that we are a couple we compromised and came up with the solution that he could keep 2 girls, but he couldnt give his number out anymore and i wouldnt check his myspace anymore or else he could break up with me. Well just recently i checked his myspace and found out that he has been giving his number out and usually i would tell on myself then we would argue and then it would be over, but since i told him he could break up with me if i checked it again im not sure if i should tell him or leave it alone and let the anger build up.....please help me? what would u do?
2007-01-04 22:15:20 · 15 answers · asked by Diamond 1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would never be in a relationship where the guy is allowed to keep two girls in the first place, but that's your choice and if it's ok with you (and I only assume it's probably not completely ok) more power to you. But what kind of guy keeps girls around just for money? He's a whore.
I think he's crazy to tell you not to check his myspace. It must mean he has something to hide. I imagine he argues about you not trusting him and makes it into a big fight when you confront him about the numbers, and you end up being the bad guy... right?
Honestly I think you should dump him. Tell him to come back when he's mature enough to have a real adult relationship and leave his MySpace fanclub alone.
2007-01-04 22:22:43 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica LeAnn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there !!!
Sweetie you should not have to go through this, not at all. This guy is not telling you the truth, he is cheating on you, so why feel bad about leaving him? just imagine what he would do down the road, you guys have been together for a year and a half, he should respect you.
In your shoes my dear I would let him go and stay alone for a while, get in touch with yourself. Find things to do that make you happy, like a hobby or something, Anything to get your mind off this two time cheating guy.
When you talk to him, be careful, guys like this are slick, they love to talk their way out of sticky situations, telling us everything we want to hear, then doing what they want to anyway.
Relationships were their is no trust are not worth going on, the foundation your relationship is built on is on shaky grounds, so girl, open your eyes and set him free, and set yourself free from this situation and future heartache.
Love light and peace
2007-01-05 06:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is difficult. Personally i would told him because only did it once and it looks like he has been doing it more times so you both are guilty talk him and say that you know that what you have done was wrong but he was too so maybe you guys can start over and this time give each other some more space like do what you like but just inform the other one
2007-01-05 06:20:57 · answer #3 · answered by SAgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit being a pushover! You didn't compromise with him--you caved.
Tell him to either stop messing around with other girls or you are leaving him. If he has interests in other girls what's the point of being commited to him?
2007-01-05 06:33:28 · answer #4 · answered by Mr_B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard of the phrase "Destructive relationship"?
What on earth are the pair of you doing, there is a fatal mix of no trust and no respect here.............where on earth can a relationship like this lead?
Let him f*ck around with other women whilst you find someone who can give you what you are looking for.
2007-01-05 06:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple by definition is "two" people not three. A secessful relationship is not built on misstrust and sneakiness. Get out before he really hurts you!
2007-01-05 06:20:13 · answer #6 · answered by jetratkat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better not to tell him or your relation ends. Don't let the anger build up. Forget what you have seen, but as per your agreement, what you were not supposed to see.
2007-01-05 06:21:13 · answer #7 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's still giving his number out then I really don't think that he committed to you. You should never settle for second best. tell him it has to be just you or nothing!
2007-01-05 06:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by chrisw_nutter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he is NOT the perfect guy.
There are so many nice guys out there waiting for a fair chance.
DUMP!
2007-01-05 06:19:20 · answer #9 · answered by bec.k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM!
tell him u break up with him if hes gonna be a ****!
if he cheats on u that means u tell him straight up
say these exact words: WE ARE DONE! or IM BREAKIN UP WITH U!
2007-01-05 06:17:19 · answer #10 · answered by LiTlE mIsSy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋