My daughter wants to have a party with about 10 or 15 friends. I will be supervising. She asked if it would be ok for my boyfriend (he lives with us) to take his 2 younger children, ages 7 & 9, out for pizza or to a movie etc. so she can have her party without the little ones bothering her and her friends. His kids come to visit every weekend, and this is the first time she has ever asked for some privacy. Since this is a very special birthday, do you think its ok to ask him to take his kids out for a while? I know if I had small kids of my own in the house I would make other arrangements for them on the night of the party to go somewhere else. My bf is extremely offended and is angry that my daughter would suggest such a thing. Now I am stuck in the middle between ruining my daughters birthday party, and getting my bf angry with me. What should I do? Do you think he should understand and take his kids out to have some fun for a few hours while my daughter has her party?
2007-01-04 21:47:34 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Absolutely ask him.This is a big thing for your daughter..I know I have 2 teenagers 18,21 girls.This party to your daughter is like a kidney transplant.You need to supervise but they want their space and be glad she wants to share it with you at your house and not out running around.Your boyfriend will understand and if he doesnt I would rethink things.When its his kids turn you do the same thing if needed.Tell him she wants her privacy.My daughter has a 13 yr old brother and she didnt care if je came down at the end or got some food and left but to have them running in and out is like a devastating thing to a teen.Parties to them is who they are and who comes and what they wear..Its fine to say see ya for a few hours and maybe treat them to something special the next day for being nice..Good luck
2007-01-04 21:58:51 · answer #1 · answered by karen e 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend needs to be a little more understanding here. Turning 16 is a big deal for girls and really special. She should be able to celebrate however she wants. Besides you know how kids are at that age, all hyperactive, showing off and just doing anything to draw attention to themselves. Your daughter should be able to relax and enjoy it not wonder what the kids are up to. It's a perfectly reasonable request and personally I'd put my daughter's happiness before some immature boyfriends. You can always kiss and make up after the party and maybe have a seperate family celebration?
2007-01-04 21:57:52 · answer #2 · answered by Velvet_Goth 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Even if they were all genetic siblings i think many families would have the youngest children plan an event outside of the home so that their was no interference for the party. It is certainly not a matter of something offensive. Actually pretty standard in alot of families.
Possibly planning something for her to do with the other two on a seperate date that would be their own special "party" with her to offset being gone for her "big kid" party would help. They could feel included in her life and he would know that she cared about them and was not trying to cut them out of something.
2007-01-04 22:25:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is being selfish and inconsiderate. A girls 16th birthday is the most special birthday of her life, and she deserves to enjoy it any way she pleases. You may want to keep his childish actions in mind before you marry him. He's trying to make HER birthday all about HIM.
2007-01-04 21:54:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't be a big deal for him to leave he needs some alone time with his kids anyway. He should want to treat his kids to movies and pizza like you want to treat your daughter for her 16th bday. and it seems like you said she doesn't ask for much. so i would give her what she wants if shes a good kid specially for her bday!
2007-01-05 01:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by rmw 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong in ur daughters private party. talk to ur bf. everyone needs some private moments in their life.
2007-01-04 22:46:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋