My sister is getting married, she wants me to be her maid of honor, i absolutly can not stand the jerk she is marrying, she seems happy and they seem happy together.. im all about her getting married to him if they are happy. So, i cant stand him, is it wrong for me to stand in as the maid of honor if i feel this way towards him? and 2nd question..
My sister and i have different fathers.. her's passed away 2 years ago, since we were younger, her & my father have been just as close as her and her father, is it okay for my dad to walk her down the isle and our younger brother give her away?
2007-01-04 21:40:27 · 19 answers · asked by sc_rw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, as to your sister's choice of husband...I totally understand where you're coming from, because I had objections to my sister's choice of husband as well. (Apart from not liking him personally - which doesn't matter too much in the end, because I can just ignore him! - I didn't approve of the way he treated my sister. [He's very book-smart, so he has no respect for anybody else's opinions - including my sister's, which is what bothered me - but is woefully lacking in other aptitudes like common sense, and could therefore benefit from my sister's input. Anyway...]) I even went so far as to write her a letter detailing my concerns, but our mother a good friend of mine jointly persuaded me to not give it to her and to keep my objections to myself. They reasoned that my sister wouldn't listen to or agree with them and would wind up resenting me on top of it. I did keep my mouth closed and supported her as her maid of honor. I have no regrets about that decision. (In time, my sister did come to see on her own the things I would have told her about, BTW.)
As for the rest, there's no reason why your sister can't be walked down the aise by anyone she chooses.
Good luck to you both! : )
2007-01-05 01:48:49 · answer #1 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to spoil your sister's day, so if I were you just bite the bullet and make her happy and be her maid of honour. Just be there for sister and make sure that he is treating her right. I know that you don't like him but don't say anything to her, as you don't want to upset her.
It would be okay if your father walked her down the aisle and it would be okay if your younger brother did it. Either is fine, but it depends on who your sister would rather have. Why don't you all family meeting and ask the question and see how they all feel about it, after all there would be nothing wrong with your mum doing it or even having both your brother and your dad do it
2007-01-05 05:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the maid of honor, there to support your sister so yes, it's fine that you don't like her choice of husband. You are absolutely right; as long as she's happy.
As to your second question, the best thing about weddings are that there really are no rules. She is the bride and can do whatever she pleases and no one should say a thing. Your father can walk her down, a good friend may do it, or she can choose to give herself away, even YOU could do it :) Have a great time!
2007-01-05 05:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by September 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon - plse know that it is the happiness of your sister- the most important day of her life - as it shall be with you when your time comes . Her life is nothing to do with what you feel towards the man She is going to marry . Most often , we waste our lives over things that are simply not worth even an issue - in process destroying the family bonds . No-one is perfect , not you , not your sister ,not me either . Yes , be honored to be Your sisters matron of honor and Your father who has been just as close to you as to your Sister should walk your sister down the ilse
AND GIVE HER AWAY TOO- I honestly dont see the reason your younger brother should do this .I think your Sister would
feel honored and happy , >>>>>lets not forget >>>THER WILL BE SOME PART ON YOUR SISTERS WEDDING DAY THAT
WILL BE CRYING INSIDE - JUST REMEMBERING HER DAD
WHO HAS PASSED >>>>> JUST WISHING HE WAS THERE
>>>>> WOULDN'T YOU HAVE HON ???
There is enough harm and destruction in this world -
we need to extend our love to one another - most of all to our very own - family - lifes too short- Be happy and do what it takes to make your sisters weddind day a lasting memory for Her , You and every member of the family .
CONGRATULATIONS TO YOUR SISTER , YOU AND ALL THE FAMILY
2007-01-05 06:09:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember your there for your sister, it will be her day. Support her any way you can, without being run over. And yes, it is absolutely OK for your Father to walk her down the aisle if this is what she chooses. And yes, your younger brother can give her away.
I had 2 Best Men at my wedding and my father was the Minister.
I also had my bassboat hooked up to my truck outside the church, but that is another story. You might be a redneck if...
Any way, try to have fun, and look pretty and all that stuff.
2007-01-05 05:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by alcontch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong to stand in as maid of honour as she is your sister and although you cannot stand him you love your sister and should be happy for her, it is her wedding day. Yes it would be wonderful for your father to walk her down the aisle and I imagine it would make him very proud and yes that is very nice that your younger brother is giving her away.
Your sister sounds like a very sound person who is very caring of her family
2007-01-05 05:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may advise your sis about her fiance, but that's all... A bride needs all the support from her love ones / family at this stage. If you really love your sis, you should be very honored to be chosen as her maid of honor.
As for your dad, she is close, then he is the right one to walk her down the isle- she seems like a father to her anyway, they both deserve it. BUT still, it's the bride's decision- it's her wedding anyway.
Best wishes to your sista! Good luck, maid of honor!
2007-01-05 10:54:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be there for your sister and being her maid of honor is something that you are doing just for her. Here is the tradition for giving the bride away. Usually it is the father. If he has passed then it is the oldest brother. If not it is the closest male figure. Nowadays people do not follow tradition. Sometimes it is mothers, friends, cousins, etc. My son is giving me away.
2007-01-05 07:26:07 · answer #8 · answered by 2fine4u 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course its OK. What does your sister want?
The brother and your dad could even escort her down the isle, one on each side of her. It has been done before.
No, its not wrong for you to stand as Maid of Honor.You love your sister, you are there because she wants you to be, this is her wedding day!
:o)
2007-01-05 05:55:59 · answer #9 · answered by Wendy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your half-sister and her fiance love each other and want to get married, do not allow your dislike of the man to stand in their way. Encourage them to go ahead, but excuse yourself from being part of the process. If your dad is also happy with the impending marriage, he is the right person to give away the bride. Other family members who, unlike you, have nothing against the relationship should also be encouraged to be part of the ceremony. For all you know, you might one day overcome your dislike of this man and become the couple's best friend.
2007-01-05 05:57:45 · answer #10 · answered by Paleologus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋