A friend&his girlfriend have been together 6 years. Since April he has been working 5 days a week away from home&then goes home at weekends. Decided to take a break in October(13th to be precise) think it was more his decision than hers (and were going to re-discuss the relationship at Xmas)- he wanted kids she didnt -turns out he also wasnt sure what he wanted. He now says he knows what he wants, her. On November 3rd they met up. He said afterwards that his feelings are still there & he thought they would get back together as long as his ex was in agreement. The week after they met up again for lunch he bought up the question of there relationship, she said she did not wish to speak about it until after the New Year, he also bought the question up of her 30th birthday, but she said she did not want him to come to her birthday. Hav any girls been in a similar situation where they werent the ones who initiated the break but were the ones to say they didnt want to get back together?
2007-01-04 21:27:05 · 12 answers · asked by anais_24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im just assuming though, but do you think she wants to get back together going on what I have said?
2007-01-04 21:40:57 · update #1
Well, I haven't, to be honest. However, what strikes me about this situation is that she, having had the break from him which he initiated, decided that she doesn't want him back - he obviously gave her time to think about their relationship and she came to some conclusions he might not have been expecting. I suppose that's the chance you take when you initiate a break from a relationship!
If it makes him feel any better, you don't know what the future might bring ...
2007-01-04 21:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something similar happened to me...
My ex is in the Army, we were together almost 3 years. The last 6 months I have been under alot of stress with work and my family. Currently he is stationed in Germany and is coming back to the states in Febuary. When he got back, we were planning on getting married and then I was going to move with him to his new station in Kentucky. Everything was coming all at once and I freaked out and told him that we should cool-off for a while so I could think things over.
He seemed totally taken off guard and told me to take a few days and call him back. So 3 days later I called him and he seemed so distant. I told him my reasonings for what I said and told him I still wanted to work things out. He told me he couldn't put up with the drama and said we were over. I was hysterical...pretty much begging him to take me back. His response: NO.
I couldn't believe it, I was mortified. Now it's been a month and I can't say I'm over him...but I'm beginning to realize he wasn't the right one for me if he could give me up so easily.
In your case, I don't have the answer. But if you're not sure you want to be with her...I would think things over before you jump back in.
2007-01-05 07:42:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe yeah she didnt want the relationship to end but due to the fact they were only seeing each other on weekends with him working away and then was'nt seeing him at all has'nt really made that big of a diffence. so whilst he was having a few issues or a moment what ever he will say it was she was coming to terms with the end of the relationship it, getting on with things.
coming out stronger on the otherside ?
or maybe she wants him to feel how she did when he told her that he wanted to take a break bit nervous anxious, is this really it will we get back together or not. she's put the ball in her court?
2007-01-05 06:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by danielle s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard variations of this story several times over the years, two of my uncles (from different sides of the family, they did not know each other) are prime examples. In each case they were married, with children, told my aunts that they no longer wanted to be married and left home to live with - guess what - a younger woman!
Both my Aunt C and Aunt K were heartbroken, but picked themselves up and carried on as single parents. The younger women left the uncles for younger men, and - guess what - each uncle returned to his ex asking if he could come home. And each Aunt said "No thanks. I did not ask for this divorce and would have stayed with you for life, but now that I have tasted my freedom..."
I speak as a happily maried woman, but living with a man is a lot of work for a woman, men don't realise how much our lives improve once free of it.
2007-01-13 02:13:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it wasn't like quite that for me i was married for 5 years and for the last 2 we were argueing alot and my husband would go to his mates till 5am and sleep all day and leave me with our kids all the time so i asked for a couple of days apart so we could try to sort some of our problems out i went to stay with a friend with kids and a day later he moved his new woman in
he said he would never trust me again and would always be wondering if i'm coming back when ever i went a out
i guess thats the price we have to pay for trying to take a break to sort things out
2007-01-12 13:01:28 · answer #5 · answered by nat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yer my bf went to live in cattrick then while he was away i thought is there any point in this carrying on? then a month later he camebak to his old house and then he came to mine to see me but i jst didnt want to talk to him at all i didnt really want to carry on seeing him but then he carryed on being how he was towards me before he left and i knew that he was worth it and this was two years ago and were still together now he said that he would wait however long it took me to take things a step further if i wanted to. and i luv him all the same more than when he left.
hope this helped you *hugz*
2007-01-05 06:48:35 · answer #6 · answered by SimpleImmortality 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-01-05 05:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by Nats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lost interest after the first 100 words, sorry
2007-01-12 11:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah kinda but i no more people in that top of situation and they 're kinda sad cuz they dove him away.
2007-01-05 05:42:08 · answer #9 · answered by lovergirl1pe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...........she has tasted freedom and likes it!
2007-01-05 06:02:23 · answer #10 · answered by mike b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋