a while back I got very drunk and ended up sleeping with a girl I knew from the past who was always easy and I knew was available whenever I wanted. Unfortunately I did this while my girlfriend was away on holiday and it was in our house so I feel terrible. The thing is I can't even remember most of it as I was so drunk I didn't know what I was doing and felt sick for 3 days after. I don't even like this girl at all and had told her to leave me alone many times but she always persisted in sending cards, messages etc and when I was drunk and alone I suddenly thought it was a good idea to do what I did. I have told her to not come near the house , me or my girlfriend or she will be very sorry and she has said yes and I haven't heard from her since. I regret this deeply, am very happy with my girlfriend and live with her still and I just feel like she doesn't need to know cos why should she get hurt if it meant nothing to me at all and I was weak and drunk. The guilt gets to me sometimes.
2007-01-04 21:19:22 · 13 answers · asked by deltanova 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds to me like you made a stupid mistake, you're already aware that you made a stupid mistake, it's out of your system, it's not going to happen again, and you've suffered already for your decision. I'd say chalk it up, learn from it, move on and be faithful. Now you know that cheating doesn't pay. I don't see ANY reason to tell her.
2007-01-04 22:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by Stacey P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very rough situation to deal with! Did you get checked for STD's or did you take a chance on having contracted one and might now be passing it on to your girlfriend? How can you be sure this girl won't show up some day and let your girlfriend find out what happened? Can you live with that worry over your head? If you decide to be honest and tell your girlfriend and hope she'll forgive you, are you prepared for her to not be as understanding as you would hope? If you don't tell her, can you live with the guilt of what you did? If you tell her, do you plan to use your weakness and drunken state as your excuses when you know there IS no excuse for what you did?
These are questions only you can answer. This is one of those times when a single poor decision can change your future forever.
2007-01-04 22:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this would depend on how you want the relationship to proceed. You said that your guilt gets to you sometimes - so it is probably better to be honest with her. Otherwise, the guilt would color further decisions and actions. Besides, the truth always has this way of creeping up and it would be more hurtful if your gf heard it from someone else. Your girlfriend would be hurt and would be mad at you and probably throw things at you (so better practice dodging). If she loves you, she will forgive you. But (if she is the average girl) she will give you a hard time during the process which of course you have to endure.
And I think you also owe the other girl your apology. True, she was always after you, but you took advantage then to top it, threatened her.
2007-01-04 22:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by woman in the well 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, getting drunk is not an excuse, because you found your way back home and you were not to sapped to perform. Second, you say you knew this girl and that she was there if you needed her, then you say you hardly knew her at all, just because she was there if you needed her is no excuse, there is a word--NO--you can always use that one and turn around and walk away. Third, how would you feel if she had done that to you, would you feel better if she kept quiet about it???? You are responsible, so you answer the question. STD have you been tested???
2007-01-05 02:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 01:32:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she would be hurt. Have you been tested for STDs? If not, she deserves to know so SHE can be responsible and take the initiative to be tested as you have both endangered her recklessly and betrayed her trust. My sense is that you will eventually do it again, as you aren't taking responsibility now. Instead you are blaming it on "being drunk" and "not remembering". If that is truly the case and you are having blackouts, you are an alcoholic and she deserves to know how that is endangering her.
2007-01-04 21:24:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you really love your gf and as you say you don't even remember what and how you did it and that you do not love the other girl, why do you want to tell your gf? To hurt her?!! Let the sleeping dog sleep and die the natural death!
2007-01-04 21:24:45 · answer #7 · answered by Ebby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've gotta make sure you didn't 'catch' anything. If you did, you HAVE to tell her. But otherwise, is she the one you are going to settle down with... that would sway the decision.
2007-01-05 01:21:14 · answer #8 · answered by cams1mommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u shud be really hones and tell her the truth. if u really loveher and care for her. its better for her to find out from u than anyone else. it will hurt her but not as much as it will hurt her when its really too late
2007-01-04 21:25:41 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Ryan&&♫ Music= MY LiFE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would keep quiet. Ease your guilt by the fact you were drunk and not in control of your emotions.
2007-01-04 21:24:05 · answer #10 · answered by skindeep 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋