My brother is 9 years oldr then me and I wanted a better relationship(we where never close but very nice(birthdays,get togethers)so I wrote him and he sent me a letter back saying he wanted nothing to do with me or the family and wont say why except after 10 years of embarrasing situations he had enough,.He was a cop in our town and my husband and I had a few fights early inour marriage plus my daughter was raped and he was the case leader.I think he is worried more about his image then his family(me).I tried inviting him and his family for christmas no response again..I dont even know what I did?
2007-01-04 21:06:20 · 8 answers · asked by karen e 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sometimes you just have to let someone go no matter how badly it hurts. You cannot make someone want to spend time with you if they don't want to. Once you've examined your life (as you have obviously done) and you've decided you have nothing to apologize for (and it doesn't seem you do), you have to just let them go. Perhaps some day he will grow up and realize what he's missing by not being a part of your life.
2007-01-04 21:58:17 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isnt a real lot you can do sorry! If he wants nothing to do with you then thats his choice. I would maybe write a letter that leaves it open for him to get in touch and put how all this makes you feel and that you don't hold any grudges against him. Maybe in time he will come round, especially if it is an IMAGE thing then maybe once he has left the force he will see the error of his ways.
I feel sorry for you! but don't loose hope!
2007-01-04 21:58:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother always taught me you cant make a person love you but you can make them hate you. I would say your brother has some issues to deal with. I would write him and let him know that whatever the reason is that you are sorry and will be there when he is ready to move foward. That no matter what the future brings it will never change the fact that he is your brother and i would every now and again send him a simple card maybe some pics but not be presistant in my invatations to meet up. I would leave that to him. And last i would pray for him.
2007-01-04 21:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by faithfullyyours 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no telling what he is going through in his own life right now, so just keep loving him as your brother and continue to be there for him. Maybe one day he will find his way back to his family. Try not to take it personally, although I know it is hard not to. Keep in touch with him maybe on his birthday or other special occasions just so he knows that you are still there for him. If he comes back it will be a new start for all of you, if not...he will have to live with the consequences of his decision. Good luck.
2007-01-05 01:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relatives are not necessarily family. I consider my friends my family but I have a cousin who I think of as a relative but not family. You tried your best so this isn't your fault. We can't force people to be part of our lives. You have a husband and children to love you, probably friends who are there for you- you have a family. Your brother is missing out but that's his own fault. Rejection is never nice but try and move on from it and worry about the people who matter, who actually care about you. It's his loss xx
2007-01-04 21:36:59 · answer #5 · answered by Velvet_Goth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a relative that wants to be distant for their own reasons.
However I chose to keep in contact sending letter and pictures of the children.
Once in a while I will get a thank you and short letter saying they miss me however because of other relatives they can not and will not be involved .
I hope one day they will all heal....however until then I will always do my part.....
Family is Family.......
It may be your brothers job it may be other reasons.....don't let it be heavy on your heart. Just know that deep down you care and that maybe one day he will come around.
Best wishes
2007-01-04 21:24:31 · answer #6 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it hurts when u r rejected by someone u love , i feel sorry for u but soemtimes we should leave evrythin on time
it the greatest cure and remedy
all the best
2007-01-04 22:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by may_minu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep on luvin him back
2007-01-04 21:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋