i've been inlove with this guy for 2 years. i really love him and it hurts me when i find out that he has a new gf. he does alotta things to me that i dont understand. sometimes he would bump into me on purpose, when i happen to stand next to him in line, he would just start playing with my hair and trying to be playful( i think i really dont know), but sometimes he gives me weird looks or he "bumps" into my friends purposely just bcus i like him. what really have me wondering tho is: when he saw my friend at the mall, he started talking to her cousin(his friend) then he turned to my friend and asked her if she was my best friend(he even mentioned my name).
so im really confused
hes my first love and ive never fely this way about anyone before. sometimes i get hurt but i just cant find a way to forget about him please help me!
what shud i do? give up or tell him how i really feel? if i shud tell him how i feel... how or where do i get the courage to tell him?!!?
2007-01-04 20:54:15 · 17 answers · asked by ♥Ryan&&♫ Music= MY LiFE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
trust him....
luk trust is the main thing contributing 2 a healthy relationship...
sum guys just cant help being like dat..
if u think u cant bear it..tell him how u feel..if he really loves u..he'll understand nd do something abt it...but while telling him..b comfortable nd make him feel dat u trust him...
bst of luck wid ur love..
2007-01-04 21:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by liferocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a jerk; seemingly he knows what gets to you. When he's flirtatious he's probably trying to boost his self-esteem for the moment. Males often feel affection in the midst of absence, but then their emotion is based upon a situation which is undesirable to you, that of being separated. Find something you can redirect your attention to every time your tempted and frustrated. Anything might do. For example, when I want a chocolate shake and pizza, I drop and push out 50. By now I either don't want the junk, I just don't wanna push so I block the thoughts, and occasionally I've done so many push ups I deserve the treat! Tip: Don't just redirect to another guy. Another guy is fine, but start fresh with fresh energy in a new relationship. Save your fretting over this bozo for something self-oriented and constructive. It could be a healing process.
2007-01-04 21:01:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all: DON'T EVER SAY YOU'RE IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE YOU AREN'T EVEN THAT CLOSE TO. Never. It's just really annoying when people do this, I absolutely hate it, you're underrating love.
Anyway. It sounds like you're seriously infatuated with this guy. That's the term, INFATUATED. You actually sound pretty young from your question.
Here's my answer: You're infatuated with him. What I think you should do is tell him about your feelings. You're obviously not going to get rid of them without anything happening. You need to step forward in order to move forward, whether it be with or without him. Considering he has a girlfriend already, you better lower your expectations because all those things he's doing to you, could just be harmless teasing. Who knows but him? So tell him. But if you do, prepare for the worst. And if you think you can't handle that, then you must live on in silence. Ouch but yeah. You'll get over it, trust me.
2007-01-04 20:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him how you feel. Let him know how strongly you feel about him. How will you get the courage to tell him, you could simply tell him in private and feel less tense about telling him. Where, it doesn't really matter, maybe a place you two like to hang out. I think if he cares deeply about you too, then he will dump his gf. Don't worry, just know that he will never understand how much you love him unless you tell him.
Good luck.
2007-01-04 21:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really want him to know, and get these things over..
if you really so sick of hiding it, talk to him and tell him everythin..
well, it is just an advice since you asked. be yourself, fear no fear. it is better to tell him than keeping it all alone without him knowing it right? courage? well, you can get it from anyone. especially if you really really serious about that matter. just ask, and they will tell you the same thing ---> "there would be no change if you tell him. just tell him. there's nothin' wrong with that. it won't hurt. you will not loose anything."
anyway, how old are you?
2007-01-04 21:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by -yana- - 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't give up on something you never started. You have to tell him first and if nothing comes of it let it go. Be careful if he does choose you over his current girlfriend. If he is to easy to drop her for you he may be just as easy to do the same for another girl in the future.
2007-01-04 21:02:24 · answer #6 · answered by quel772o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it up.. this guy is way too "bumpy", his behaviour is erratic and you can do much better! he seems to be "testing the waters" and having some fun.. he is just playing with your feelings and trying to upset you because he KNOWS you like him or have something for him...
i guess u have to come across some losers before you meet the right guy..
it'll hurt but im sure u will get over it..
good luck!
2007-01-04 20:59:49 · answer #7 · answered by Vicky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she brags approximately him and u think of she would not deserve him. U adult men prob should not be bffs. U could merely carry close out with the guy plenty (because of the fact that u have an excuse to hold close out with him bc i assume if he's ur bffs bf he's consitered a "close pal".) merely be urself around him and he mite chosen u ovr her
2016-10-06 11:34:56 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must communicate with your friend your real feeling before some other gf does.Once he makes a decision it will be too late.
If you really love him, the love will trigger your courage to communicate with him. Give love a chance.
2007-01-04 21:04:24 · answer #9 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's bumping both into you AND your friends,i think theres something wrong with him. Wait for sometime..n just observe him.are u sure u 'love' him???? if u think u really do...tell him how u feel. most importantly find out if he's even worth it!
2007-01-04 21:04:26 · answer #10 · answered by tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋