i ended my 6 year relationship with my fiance 6 months ago. we were best mates!
he has since moved back home to his parents. we met in uni. we are not from the same area.
we had bought our own place together but this has been transferred into my sole name.
i havent seen my ex since we split but i do miss him. we have only just started speaking again on the phone.
I dont want to get back with him and he says the same although he did take the split quite badly.
He wants to come up to visit me this weekend.
is it OK to be mates with an ex?
We were together a long time and we were best mates!
2007-01-04 20:39:35 · 18 answers · asked by XCuteX 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i aint seeing anybody else
2007-01-04 20:46:19 · update #1
i don't see the problem just make sure everything is understood between ya
2007-01-08 04:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by boredstupid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had this conversation a number of times wit mates and even wit my last bf when we were together and i don't think its possible. One person always wants more than the other and think they can handle it but it doesn't work out. Do you seriously think that he could handle seeing you wit some1 else if he took the split that badly??! I also think men aren't capable of keeping it in their trousers n will always try it on jus for the sake of it anyways. This info is jus from my own experience hun but i make a point of making a clean break now whenever i split wit some1. Good luck whatever you decide x x x
2007-01-05 06:51:49 · answer #2 · answered by Dolly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm,this might cause some problems.If either of you were to find a new partner,you would be jealous.I'm still mates with some of my ex's but some of them still want a little bit more than just friendship if you know what i mean.It's sad you were together for so long and it had to end,it's maybe a good thing he does'nt live in the same area as he'd maybe start hounding you for sex.I would say it's ok to be mates with an ex,but prepare to get hurt when he starts dating someone else.
2007-01-05 04:54:40 · answer #3 · answered by nanook570 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people find it a little to strange however I have been married twice and both myself and my ex's get along just fine we have all been there to help one another at the most horrible times in our lives and I'm very proud of all of us.
When there are children involved its very important to keep open a line of communication and united for the sake of the child,come to think of it any man I have ever felt love for and had a relationship with I still have their respect and they have been there still to this day and my girls as well who are now grown women
I will even go one further my 2nd husband had 2 other children after we separated to another women (what a bad person and mother she turned out to be) This women abandoned her kids and I am the one that is there for them, when help is needed and I love those kids as well,who would have thought?(No we are not on a sexual level just pure friendship).Every body is happy what more could we do I'm proud.
2007-01-05 04:57:37 · answer #4 · answered by deb m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should now move on with your life and let him do the same. However, I still try to be mates with my ex, we were married for 25years, I don't want to get back with him but we grew up together and I feel he is family, although be careful not to build his hopes up as my ex does every time we chat!
2007-01-05 05:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say yes! Most relationships were born out of people being friends first. Just because a relationship was tried and did'nt work out, why should the underlying friendship be discarded. You were best mates once, who knows, you could be best mates for life.
2007-01-05 04:53:28 · answer #6 · answered by hedgeybear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey you didnt do so badly.... You were not even married and ended up with the house..... Nice
And in answer to your question ..... No being friends with an EX is never a good idea... they hang around like a bad smell and block you from meeting new people.....
2007-01-05 05:10:11 · answer #7 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is okay to be friends with an ex. Im friends with all my exs except 1 which was a bit hard headed after he broke up with me. If hes still obsessed with you i dont think its a good idea cos an ex is still obsessed with me and sometimes he understands me wrongly and gets offended, just be careful what you say to him so he wont think you mean something else like if u say to meet up just as friends he might take it as a date
2007-01-05 04:58:33 · answer #8 · answered by Martina V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's ok - but extremely difficult - especially after such a long relationship (I've been there!) Bet you end up in bed together.
2007-01-05 04:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by Laura Lou 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IT is ok, as long as you dont still have feelings for the person coz then it becomes complicated
2007-01-05 07:34:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OF COURSE!!!!!
you have grown to be best mates cos you were together for such a long time.
2007-01-05 04:48:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋