Am I right about her?

Question

Ok so I dated this girl for a year and we were eabout to move in together. One day we're on the phone and she casually says, "This guy, Andy, at work has a crush on me." That's all, didn't bring it up again. Two week later she breaks up with him....ahem, actually says she "wants a break." And we were suppose to move in together in two weeks from the break. So three weeks after the break, in which during those three weeks she said 'I hope it's us in the end' when I called her, she is living with and dating this guy, you guessed it, Andy. A month or so later she calls me up and says she broke up with him bcause she was cheating on her and kicked him out. She started saying she loves me, sorry, missed me, thought about me even when she was with Andy. So we unofficially got back together, in that just talked like we did before, etc. She never said she wanted to go on vacation together. So three weeks after that she says she just wants to party, being single, etc, and saysI was never her...

...boyfriend again. She was just telling me how she felt---missing, loving me, etc. So she was saying she wants to go to the mountains together, calling me all the time, sayign she loves and misses me, and was talking about having sex and being intimate with me, and she said I wasn't her boyfriend again? And the she had the nerve to say that that wasn't leading me on? What do you guys think?

So about everything else, what do you think? Did she break-up with me to see how things would go with Andy because she was curious/flattered to his having a crush on her? And that's why she said 'take a break' so if the crush didn't work out she'd have me to fall back on, and with a 'on a break' if he didn't worl out she could say we never broke up. Thoughts? Girls would actually throw away a year to see where a crush would go?

One more thing: A month before the break we went to the beach, stayed in a hotel. We just got back into the hotel room in mid afternoon and I just a needed to go downsta

irs for a few minutes to check something and that I wasn't leaving the hotel. She, from the bathroom, said "no don't go, I don't wanna be here alone." I said I'd be just a few, said bye baby, and left. So a get back to the room and she's mad pacing back and forth. I say sorry...I love you. She says "no you left me and I told you not to." I kept apologizing trying to hug her, etc. Finally she forgave me. That night I told her what I was doing: Checking the time a gourmet breakfast opened to take her to. She said she wasn't THAT mad and was even trying not to laugh in the bathroom. A few days later, she was even telling her friends she over-reacted. So anyway when she wanted the break, one of her reasons for it was, "You left the hotel room." What do you think? Give me your thoughts on all of this!

By the way, it's OVER. I haven't talked to her for weeks. And the only reason I did weeks ago was cuz she said she wanted to be friends, but I said I didnt wanna and she got pissed and we haven't talked since. I've been dating since then lol.

Answer 1

poor u.. she got u twirling and whirling and confused... wrapped totally around her finger.. tsk tsk.. just walk out man.. no woman will stay with u for long if she knows that she can play u anytime she wants..

Answer 2

sounds to me like this girl is a wacko sh eloves you one minute then wants a break the next id say stop waisting your time with this girl she just was flattered i think its a big mistake what she did you never leave the one you LOVE for the one you LIKE ! It just never works out that way one always ends up regreting every minute of everyday and end up right where she should be alone but what can i say you live and learn im glad you have moved on i personaly think its best for you and your doing the right thing best of luck and hope all goes well with you enjoy life and dont settle for just anyone if you know what i mean .

Answer 3

ok first off,
a girl would throw off a year of a relationship for a crush either
the guy she's with isn't doing enough for her and she either wants to make you jealous or see if there's anyone better.

and after her break up with andy, she wanted you back correct?
she felt hurt and wanted somebody to stick with her and her choice was you. so you took her.

she should treat you better and stop messing around.

ask yourself this, do you treat her like she's everything and always try to make her happy?
if not, then that may be your mistake right there.
and the way she's acting, about the hotel thing, seems to be like testing you, to see if you would listen to her. care enough to stay with her.

to me she doesn't seem right.
she should not be confusing. if she wants something go say it, relationships are not build on up little hints she's doing.

but it all depends on you.
if you believe she's right then stick with her.
you'll find your answer.

if you guys were meant to be you will be.

Answer 4

Dude, you sound like a girl! Wake up (I guess you have, if it is really over). She keeps things going with you because you are safe. You are not what she really wants, but being with you is better than being alone. You are nothing more than a backup to her. She is scared and has been using you to make herself feel better.

Answer 5

I'm a women and I say cut her loose and thank your lucky stars you are not stuck (married) to her.

She sounds like a head case, keep dating else where good luck

Answer 6

THIS IS FROM A GIRLS PROSPCTIVE AND THE GUY BEFORE ME WAS HALF RIGHT JUST GO ON THERES PLENTY OTHER GIRLS OUT THERE BUT DONT DO HER JUST LEAVE ALONE DONT EVEN BE FRIENDS CUT IT OFF ALL AT ONCE.

Answer 7

I think she does not know what she wants and is just f__king with you. I don't know why girls play these games. You are right, just leave her be. If she calls you again, just do her and leave. Good Luck.

Answer 8

stuff her dude, she's not worth it, she's just seeking attention from u and leading u on as u say. Cut off all contact with her