i am very possessive of my husband, so it leads to lot of problem in the family ?

Question

my motherinlaw & myself have equal love towards my husband, this love is creating lot of problem in the house.tell me the good solution for this problem.hearing towards my motherinlaw my husband is always irritating me without understanding my position.guide me what to do for this.

Answer 1

Make two portion of your husband & each lady take one piece each, poor husband I feel pitty for him. You ladies wife & moms just treat husband as a personal property not allowing the other to have him, after all he is a son as well a husband & he has to love, care both you ladies , he cant leave either of you but you ladies make his life misreable with your possessivenes. Just compromise between yourself & your mother in law let both of you share his love & care equally & stop treating him like a baby.

Answer 2

Step back a second and think. He married you for who you were. You've now not only change what you look like physically, but also how you are dressing and acting. He has a right to his feelings because you are making a change, that he doesn't like. Would you be happy if he started shaving a hitler mustache? Or shaved his head bald, or got a mohawk, etc? EDIT: I'm sure he's happy you've made changes in your health, but changes in your dress style, and enjoying the attention from other men isn't necessarily a positive thing. He should feel good if you feel good about yourself, but if it requires you dressing more revealing and in tight clothes for you to feel good then there's a bit of problem internally with you. You should feel good knowing you are healthier, knowing you look better, and not feel the need to flash it around. Just to add though, the picture in my avatar is me, currently 43. I'm about 50 pounds lighter than I was 4 years ago, and a lot more muscle on me now. So I understand where you come from, but also know that enjoying and appreciating attention from others leaves you far more open to flirting with others, and all that comes after. Its a somewhat slippery slope, so you may wish to consider not being as revealing in your dress, not so much for your husband directly but for your relationship security overall.

Answer 3

THe problem is that for most indian wives the man is the centre of their universe, whether it is son or husband. When you say equal love, i think what u mean is that you both like to fuss over him and care for him. I think the problem comes from the fact that daughter and mother in law cannot be friends, most of the time its not because of the man its because both sides are unwilling to be friends. With friendship people are more willing to compromise and understand each other rather than just a being an in law which can put you in an adversial position.

Answer 4

don't worry, same thing happens with me also. but i never try to say anything against motherinlaw, because i know then he will irritate, when my hubby is with u try to talk with him abt.ur future plans, abt. u, his job, never talk abt. family, u just love him more u can, give hm physically as well as mentally support. try to talk with ur husband less when sitting all together. i m sure he feels bad, and must ask u , than u can discuss openly the matter with ur husband.

Answer 5

You cannot possibly have equeal love to this man! Remember he is YOUR husband and, at the same time, HER son! Your love towards him is totally different! You will always end up having him in your bedroom, alone. Talk with him about the existing tension and figure out how to manage it. Do you all live under one roof, for example? If, yes, then it would probably be better to live separately. You and your husband in one house, and the mother in-law in her own house- probably with unmarried children of her.

Answer 6

learn to share him ! and the love u have for him is different then the love his mother has for him ! try to understand that he is her son before u came into the picture and u will understand this when u have ur own child especial a boy and u are facing the same thing with his wife . u have to always put Ur self in her shoes to see that its not easy for her to hand him over to u ! try to be understanding of her and make her see u want the best for him and u care for him don't compete with her , u cant win ! a wife can be replaced but a mother ..never

Answer 7

sometimes its difficult for a mother to let go of their child,even if that child is a man.
The mother has always taken care of the child from birth until the child has their own family and letting go can be hard.
Why dont you try and sit down with your mother-in-law and talk about the things you and your husband have done since you first met,places you have been etc and let your mother-in-law tell you all about his mishaps as a child,together you will laugh and see that you both love this man equally and that no-one is trying to take over or take him away from the other.
I wish you luck

Answer 8

First of all you can't possibly have equal love for him. That is her child. A parent's love for their child is one of the most powerful forces on earth. It's because of that love that she will be protective of her son and will be wary of people who could potentially hurt her child. He will always love his mother, you'd worry if he didn't! He needs time with his mother too without you getting jealous, that puts him in a very awkward position. Try and be a little more understanding and maybe get to know your mother in law...you never know, you might even get to like her.

Answer 9

This is the same family drama where the poor husband/son does not know whom to support or what to say. Both the women are aggressive and strong and claim their pound of flesh or more of the husband/son. I would definitely not like to be part of this love triangle.

Answer 10

Wife is always wife. You do think about your husband and your mother -in- law. They also have their own affections towards themselves. You never bother about that. Ultimately your husband is good thinking man, never cause any problem.