ok just wondering what you guys opinions are on dating a person that is seperated from their wife/husband..
Like for me, Id find it hard to accept the fact that they had been married - particularly where there are kids involved - I duno why - but Id just prefer to meet someone without a history like that. I totally realise that relationships encounter problems and dont work out - but Id much prefer to date a person with an uncomplicated background - what do you guys think??
2007-01-04 20:30:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Pls guys dont think Im having a dig at seperated people here - Im just wondering what the general cenus on it is - I wouldnt discriminate against a person because they were seperated or anything! xx
2007-01-04 20:35:35 · update #1
Wat da hell? Emmmm where in my question did I mention I wanted a virgin!!? You have totally taken me up wrong - I am not IN this situation - this question is known as HYPOTHETICAL.
2007-01-04 20:50:40 · update #2
I agree to some extent, though at the same time, you need to accept that everyone has a past, including you, and it's the person rather than their past that matters. If you want to be with a person, you need to try and put their past behind you and start again. Though at the same time, completely hypercritical, but I would rather not have a relationship with a divorcee who has children - unless I was in the same boat I guess.
2007-01-04 20:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by Wafflebox 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ifow he/she looks
-Is he/she mannerfull as per ur standards.
-Is he/she able to handle ur personality or he/she is jst a geek and dnt know how to behave.
-Is he/she honest/friendly
-Is he/she cares for u.
-What is his/her point of view on dating. Whether they do it for fun...like they date many at one time. Or they want to involve in one.
-Whether they give respect to the emotions...I mean when u date somebdy there is a certain level of emotional attachment. Whether he.she is able to recognize atleast a part of it.
-Last but not the least. Do u have some unlikings which u cannot not live with and u find that in ur date. If Yes then u will not date that person. Before answering this quetion re-confirm that the attitude u have is correct.
*****if the Answers to above question is in ur favor, u can date...
Now answer to ur question
"No u should not date this person, coz u have ur own ideology which u explained becoz of which u are recognized as an individual. U should not change ur idealogy as thats urs and thats genuine. There can be a level of uneasiiness when u want to involve with a person who was in relation because dont have the exp which he has...This will make a difference in the way ur though processing works and his. I will say no."
2007-01-04 20:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by HB2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always a more difficult thing to find, as we get older the chances of meeting someone who hasn't been in a major relationship or married is rarer. When I met my wife, she was 29 and had been married twice, I had been in a major relationship, but luckilly neither of us had any children. I imagine that would complicate things alot. Sometimes it has been tough to feel compared to someone else or in competition with other people, but the main thing to remember that your new partner is with you out of choice.
When I was 25, I had a two year relationship with an 18 year old, who had no real relationship history. Her immaturity used to really annoy me!
Is there a perfect? probably not!
2007-01-04 20:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by voodoobluesman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a difficult one - but if you really like the person then there history will not matter. I would prefer to date some one with out the 'baggage' but have been in a relationship with some one that had a marriage and children because I was in love with them.
It can be hard to come to terms with peoples history, and I would struggle to be in a relationship with some one that has such a strong connection to another person, but some times its worth it.
2007-01-04 20:36:12 · answer #4 · answered by The Dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a history - that's what made them the person they are today. Whether you can cope with a complicated history is another matter. I would prefer to concentrate on the person and not their past, but that's just my opinion. If they have 'baggage' it's up to you how you deal with that, but if you feel drawn to that person, you must find a way to resolve your own feelings. Good luck!
2007-01-04 20:34:30 · answer #5 · answered by Roxy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you should go for the Person and not the persons past. I say this because I am 23 and divorced and have a little girl. I see your point, but I messed up when I was younger and would hope that people didn't hold that against me. Everyone has a past, we should live for the future.
2007-01-04 20:35:40 · answer #6 · answered by Tree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are limiting your opportunities greatly. If you are looking for a virgin so to speak...good luck. All relationships are like a marriage. You give love, trust, and respect and want those qualities in return. Maybe you a afraid of comparison. Be who you are and that is all you can do. If it is a matter of precieved ownership, which many men suffer from, you will always have problems.
2007-01-04 20:40:24 · answer #7 · answered by Wat Da Hell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i meet someone of my age i expect them to have children or been divorced. I have no problem with that especially as i have a 14 year old daughter.
I think if you are in the mid 30s + age bracket you have to except that if you meet someone they will have extra baggage.
2007-01-04 21:00:17 · answer #8 · answered by Ding Dong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never date a woman with baggage ( emotional or kids )..... Why bother the whole point of life is to have your own kids.... not raise somebody else's .......
2007-01-04 21:35:00 · answer #9 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant help your past. if you had kids and met a guy you love him etc and he lost interest in you cos you had kids u would hate it.
2007-01-04 20:34:05 · answer #10 · answered by jamincoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋