a friend introduced me to him, and he says he likes me, but why i'm so reluctant is cos i've been burned a few times and i want to be careful with this one. i do like him but i want to look uninterested so he would keep trying to get me,like playing hard to get. when we first met, he promised to come everyday and he did. then i visited him two days ago. he tried having sex with me but i refused, but he really tried very hard.he later dropped me off at home and since then i haven't seen him, thats like three days now.and i don't know what happened,is it because of my refusal or its something else thats wrong?i'm confused and i really miss having him around
2007-01-04 20:08:28 · 15 answers · asked by Datari e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump him. He only wants sex.
2007-01-04 20:10:04 · answer #1 · answered by tarzan428 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats really cool.
try telling him that ok?
it seriously couldnt hurt. heres why...if it turns him off?
BINGO you dont want him and yes he'll be just another burner.
...you can count on your friends to lead you to more guys like him.
Maybe he just wants to get laid? That is pretty obvious. But you will have to tell him you are no game and have issues and fears.
Funny that you let your bad past ruin your present. Just learn from it and move on.
The key is to be honest, upfront. Don't horse around unless you wanna get horsed with. ok?
How can the guy respect you if you aren't up front?
You girls have a nasty habit of trying to leave clues to every little thing. No man short of a stalker will get into you so much that he will be interested in reading all your little clues. This dynamic exists because you don't know the stalker exists. Or its a guy you aren't overtlly interested in. Thus the paradox.
If you want to be respected you will have to speak up, even about your fears. Every now and then you might be faced with a decision that seems like a leap of faith. When this happens to you guess what? You are just setting yourself to be used again.
Ultimately its probably also unfair to the guy even, because if you dont give yourself a chance to be open and up front then what is there to respect in you? Probably you have had a guy that did you in attempt to open you up no? But then found when there was just more layers of fear in you finally gave up in disgust and felt offended. See how this cycle works?
Its about you. You are and always were in control of your life. Get a grip. If you need a stalker, I am available.
2007-01-04 20:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by jorluke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you obviously like her but you stop cause she has kids, and you actually care so you also don't wanta move to fast! I THINK i got what you said... ok well stay with her if you have sex right now it may destroy you but also it may make you but wait a little bit longer really no girl wants a guy who don't care(well it's a proven fact) but yeah stay with her you sound like you have your head on straight really.
2016-05-23 05:18:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it, but it sounds like his motivation was sex and when he didn't get it, he moved on. If he truly like and respected you, he would continue to contact you and wait until you are ready to have sex. If you contact him now and want to "make it work", which is likely is what he is hoping after lavishing a lot of his attention on you, he will expect sex and may dump you after getting it. As your "friend" set you up, talk to that "friend" and find out more about him, his behavior and THEIR motivation for setting you up.
2007-01-04 20:12:55 · answer #4 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't over react. He may have just got busy or something. or maybe he felt you werent into him, like you said your playing hard to get. give it a few days. if he does come back do not have sex with him, if that's all he is after he'll be gone for good if you do.
2007-01-04 20:16:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right; he liked you, just for one thing: SEX. Playing mind games is something that we men like to do; and do it well. Do not give in to the pressure. If he wants something real; he will apologist and wait as long as it’s necessary to show you that he’s truelly care and wants a LTR.
2007-01-04 20:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by Angel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
since you are playing hard to get, it might discourage him.
cause a guy can't stick around forever.
and yes also about the refusal, he might think you hate him after that. because he would know..some people get very mad.
if you want him at least show it sometime.
call him back.
2007-01-04 20:13:29 · answer #7 · answered by CAT. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should take your time stay strong if he realy loves u he will come bck 4 u he shouldnt rush into staff like that because 1 day u might regret
2007-01-04 20:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by LOVERGIRL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I can see it, he just want to have sex. Dump hum before you get hurt, or something else...
2007-01-04 23:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by Jo-Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its easy for me to say, but talk to him. Men are mostly insecure (I know I am one). He may feel embarassed at his failed "attempt". Why not arrange something like a meal and just talk.
2007-01-04 20:13:17 · answer #10 · answered by just my opinion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋