I want to marry in a Catholic church, my fiance has never been baptised, will this be possible...?

Question

or will he have to be baptised first?

thanks for vews but best check it with priest. he knows us both and i know you DON'T have to be a catholic to marry in the church (one has to be- I am) but he's never been baptised as a christian, which other peope i know who were married in church already were, though DIDN't have to convert!

Answer 1

First, find the church you desire to marry in. Each individual church has different requirements. Usually the Catholic church does require a baptism record from whatever church an individual was baptised in, no matter what religion. But before throwing up your arms in frustration, do talk to someone at your desired church and see what you can do. But don't stop there. Interview a number of churches as someone will work with you.

Answer 2

If you don't go to church WHY would you want to get married in a church? Is it just for show? This is a serious question. Even a priest or deacon would probably ask you that same question. Actually, the question "why do you want to get married in the Catholic church?" was a question in our Pre-Cana work book. If your answer is "because the church is pretty" or "because my parents did" or "because it just seems like the right thing to do", then your heart is not in the right place. I don't want to just give you the answer without you truly thinking about why you want to get married in the church, but the answer should be because a marriage takes 3. It takes you, your future spouse, and it takes GOD. The sacrament of matrimony cannot fully happen without God present. You should fully understand the church's views on marriage and Canon Law before entering into marriage through the Catholic Church. Now, to answer your question. My church only asked for the baptismal certificate. The packet I received from my church about the ceremony said that contributing members pay no fee and non-members pay a $500 fee to rent the church. There is also a fee for musicians, and a wedding coordinator. The officiant gets a donation, but consider the amount of time required to prepare you for marriage., If you have Mass, there are fees for alter servers, Eucharistic ministers, and Lectors (if needed). Catholics require some pre-marital counseling before marriage, yes. There are several options. You must talk to a priest or deacon about your personal situation. There is Engaged Encounter. It's a weekend long retreat that covers various topics for the couple to reflect upon and discuss. Issues that they may not have thought of before, such as communication, finances, values, the possibility of children, family, sexuality, etc. The Pre-Cana is a one day event that covers some of these topics as well. Or there is a sponsor-couple program. An already married couple in the church will be your and your future spouse's sponsor and meet with you over a period of several weeks about the topics. Some dioceses even require couples to attend a Natural Family Planning course. It's about how to plan naturally for a family without using contraceptives. Money is the #1 cause for divorce. It needs to be highly stressed.

Answer 3

Firstly you need to go and talk to the priest at the church where you wish to be married. I presume this is your local Catholic church and you are a church goer. Or perhaps it is your childhool church? The priest would have to be happy that you are a practicising Catholic before he would marry you, and he would have to be sure that your fiance was happy that any children you have will be brought up in the Catholic faith. I think your fiance would probably have to be baptised. If you don't want to go and ask a priest in the first instance why not see if you can find out all this info online? Good luck and God bless.

Answer 4

My husband and I were going to be wed in a catholic church, but chose not to for personal reasons, however, we did look into it...

I'm RC, hubby is C of E (well baptised C of E, - he doesn't know what he believes...) anyway, ultimately it's upto the priest who will be conducting the ceromony, my priest was happy to conduct the ceromony, and said the only way he wouldn't was if either of us had been divorced.

Good luck, I sincerely hope you have both the wedding and the marriage that you've always dreamed of.

Answer 5

I am getting married in March and my fiancee has not been baptised, but I am Catholic. We ARE getting married in a Catholic Church on March 10! All you need to do is submitt origional of proof of your baptism, conformation, and communion then you have to go to a Pre-Cana- Both of you. You also have to sign an "aggreement" that you will raise your children Catholic. you can do it!

Answer 6

Possible, albeit, not likely probable. Last I had heard not only did the Catholic Church require a conversion, but they required six months of marriage classed before the Priest would perform a ceremony; only way to know for sure is to contact your local parish to find out for sure what the requirements are, then see if your fiancee would be agreeable; however, in more cases than not, unless he really, really loves you, the answer will be "NO".

Answer 7

You need to check with your parish priest. If he wants to convert to Catholicism, he would be baptized. However, if you want a mixed marriage, that is possible in most cases. He would have to agree to go to pre-marital classes, and most importantly of all - he would have to agree to raise your children Catholic.
Make sure you have all these questions about religion, values, morals, and how you will raise your future children settled before you get married.

Answer 8

He will have to be baptised 1st. You will also probably have to attend the church services for a certain number of weeks.

Answer 9

As a catholic, who has just been through this, your fiance will have to confirmed first! You might also have to attend marriange councilling classes, provided by the church.

Answer 10

He will have to be baptised.

This also applies to the Anglican Church.

It does not hurt despite the fact that many cry when baptised.