So me and my bf been together for 3 1/2 years, since i was 15, for the last 8 mo. we have been in the process of breaking up,still tryin to hold on the the little bit of love thats left, so i packed my bags and went to hawaii to live and really think about what i wanted out of life... not promising to come back but not saying i wont. 2 months in to me leaving i find out i am 10 weeks pregnant.
so we talked about trying to work things since things arnt all about us...it worked for maybe a cuple days but i jus realized i just dont want to be with this man well i should say boy any longer, ive grown up and hes still the same person i met when i was 15.
there is no way we can work this out, there is no trust or respect in this relationship, i dont belive i can ever trust him again ive been trying for ever but he jus keeps giving me more and more reason to dis trust him
why wont he try to get his stuff 2gether not 4 me 4 our child? and should i try to raise my child by myself?
2007-01-04 19:57:38 · 3 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is/was a user(dont know for sure he is not doing it any more)
has never had a job( and dosent try, i have even filled out apps for him)
i jus dont want to take care of him any more
but i do still love him and if he really changed i would try to be with him again
2007-01-04 20:00:23 · update #1
OK first think about the fact your with child and that makes a women not think straight, so dont go one way or the other with out being sure of things. If he doesnt have a job, doesnt want to grow up, then move on. But he is scared to death right now, so maybe he needs a little time too. If you don't see him really trying then you have no choice but to move on. As for raising the child by your self you may want to talk to your parents or some other adult that you are close to and let them help firgure what is best for both you and your child.
2007-01-04 20:11:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there is no trust, there can be no real love, because love is unconditional.......you don't need a man to be a good mother and you don't have to think you will be alone forever....you will meet someone soon that will be what you and your child need.......besides, even if he did stay with you for your baby, how miserable would it be for your child to see how badly mom and dad get along, you don't want your child to grow up thinking they should be with someone they don't love or trust
2007-01-05 04:02:58 · answer #2 · answered by julia n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YA{!!!!! I did .
2007-01-05 04:00:47 · answer #3 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋