it's hard when my boyfriend has a ton of girl friends that chase him around like puppies and always want to hang out with him and try to get with him. We've been dating for 5 months and I know he loves me, he's never cheated and I've never given him a reason to cheat on me but he seriously has about 70 girl's phone numbers in his cell phone that call him and want to hang out with him regularly - and he does. He rarely tells me when he hangs out with him or what they do. If I tell him that it bothers me, he gets angry and hurt that I don't trust him, but it's so hard! I don't want jealousy to ruin our relationship :(
2007-01-04 19:33:45 · 17 answers · asked by skyddsangel3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound clingy, needy and possessive. If you know he isnt cheating I dont see the problem. His whole world doesnt revolve around you and that bothers you. If you try to tie him down to just being with you, you will lose him. Your other option is to find a less friendly boyfriend.
2007-01-04 19:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetheart, you are not the only woman in his life. If he is serious about you, he would respect your feelings. You have a right to be concerned if he has that many girls that he feels like he needs to keep up with. It sounds like he is not ready for a relationship. I can understand hanging out with old female friends from time to time...and if he would ask you to hang out with him and her...that would be different. He is not allowing you to be comfortable if he is being secretive about who he hangs out with and where they go. 5 months is very early in a relationship...and many people still have their friends on the side until they actually develop those true feelings. I suggest you don't get too attached to this one.
2007-01-04 19:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by angie20k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I completely understand that you get jealous about him hanging out with other girls. But, you should take presidence over all the other girls in his life (besides his blood relatives). If you don't than, i know this might bother you, but maybe you should be the one to break it off. My mom told me never to accept a man who treats me any less than a princess and honey, he's treating you like the maid.
Plus, by breaking it off with him might lead you to a better relationship. Or even to help you find yourself. Don't be the codependent one.
Good Luck.
2007-01-04 19:59:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always felt that jealousy is like a poison that in time will kill a relationship.
If he has 70 girls he is involved with then you must be realistic and count yourself as number 71.
Give yourself a break and find someone who will be devoted to just you. Your courtship should be a glorious, romantic and fun time of your life.
2007-01-04 19:44:34 · answer #4 · answered by DeeJay 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah yes, the perils of dating a very good looking guy. Well, if you want him, you gotta beat out the other chicks that want to be with him. You have the right to be jealous. If he was understanding then he should know that his actions bother you. If it doesn't work out, try to find a guy that's average looking, I know for sure this problem won't happen again.
2007-01-04 19:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should respect how you feel. You deserve the full attention of your man - if there are 70 other women "hanging around", you don't have it. If you are not enough for him - you need to find a man for whom you ARE enough!
Men are generally arseholes!!!! Dump him, if he keeps disrespecting you like this.
2007-01-04 19:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by Michael, Count de Berçon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont worrie about your jealousy wrecking your relationship, one of the girls will do that. Is he gay? usually a gay guy has lots of girl friends? I don't blame you, how would he like it turned around? He needs to be with you not those girl. Sounds like he is a little immature.
2007-01-04 19:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by openminded 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TRUST HIM!!
If these 70 girls are just his friends and you are his girlfriend and they know that, then you have nothing to worry about.
You think he is wrong but you must realize that one should not break old bonds to make new bonds...and so he has held on to his friends, be it female, because they have prepared him to pick you as that special girl, so don't let it get to you, infact, enjoy it, you should encourage him to be with his friends (male or female), this will help him grow with you, trust me!!
2007-01-04 19:37:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
turst is one of the many factors that u need in maintaing a relationship. trust him with all your heart now. yes, he may be often haning out with his female friends, but what matters is you're THE ONE he loves.
2007-01-04 19:38:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i think its natural for u to get jealous but try not to be possesive. tell ur bf about ur problems with his "girl friends" but when he get angry just tell him that ur love him and ur just worrying about losing him.
much luck
2007-01-04 20:46:54 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Ryan&&♫ Music= MY LiFE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋