Is it wrong God's eyes to do the following things...?

Question

1.Date a 16 year old when you are 13.(He is tattoes and braids and his ears are peirced.
2.Have sex outside of marraige when you KNOW the time is right.
3.Enjoy listening to rap music and have posters of celebrities. Some with men with their shirt off.


If so do you think I should change?

Answer 1

Even outside of religion it sounds like your headed in a bad direction. Care about yourself while you still can.

Answer 2

1. No, just use common sense when your with him.
2. Yes, because what if you get pregnant (yes this can even happen when you use a condom), he freaks and runs, and your left with a baby to raise by yourself. God meant for sex to be kept inside of marriage. The Ten Commandments say " Thou shall not commit adultery" and any sex outside of marriage is adultery.
3a. It depends on what kind of rap music. You should only listen to rap music or any kind of music for that matter that honors God. If I might suggest some artists : Grits, KJ-52, Thousand Foot Krutch, T-Bone
3b. Jesus said that if a man looks at a woman with lust that he has commited adultery in his heart. The same goes for us girls. Use your judgment on the posters.

I think that if these are the things your doing sweetie then you do need to change. And it may sound like your being lectured by some old person but I'm only 15 and I know what your going through sweetie. I have a friend that was having sex with her boyfriend and she got pregnant and he ran. I really don't want that to happen to you. If you want you can email me at [e-mail]. I'd be happy to talk with you.

Answer 3

God sets boundaries and rules to protect us, not to spoil our fun. Much the same way a loving Father sets rules to protect his children. His children, when they are young, may think he's being mean or unfair, but when they mature, they realize the rules are for their own benefit.

Sex outside of the boundaries of marriage comes with consequences. God wants to protect us from these consequences (ex: unplanned pregnancy, STDs, etc.)

Your parents are only trying to protect you because they love you. You may think the time is right, but at 13, the time is NEVER right.

As far as #1 and #3, that is up to your parents. They may not want you dating an older boy because your dad knows what's constantly on the mind of boys that age, and the rap music may promote a bad message. So, it's really up to them.

Answer 4

The time is NOT right for sex if you are 13!!!! But if you're referring to the future, ok.
Rap music and shirtless guys are no big deal.
Sex outside of marriage is very likely to happen.
The only thing I would advise against is dating a 16yo when you're 13... that's a little problematic, bec he wants sex and you're too young.
If and when you do it, DON'T TAKE ANY CHANCES WITH UNPLANNED PREGNANCY. BE CAREFUL!!!

Answer 5

1. Yes.
2. Yes.
3. Yes.
None of these things will matter to you later if you don't do them now. But you will definitely regret 1 & 2, and 3 leads to 1&2 and to other things that might be worse.
There are voices in our world that tell us to do these things, that tell us we will miss out if we don't. Don't listen to them. Remember that Evil always looks good when it is tempting you where you live. It's hard not to listen. But you can do it. God is on your side. Listen for His voice and He will help you resist. If you give in He is still there, and will still help you, but it is better to be unwounded than to recover from a wound. I hope you don't have to learn the hard way. Many do. Some don't make it. Right is right for a reason. Wrong is always wrong. Anyone who says otherwise lies.

Answer 6

I don't know about in God's eyes, but sure in your parents eyes.
You are to young dating a 16 year old one and you know it very well. It's okay to listen to crap I mean rap music and have posters with sexy guys hanging on the walls.

Answer 7

If you think its right you may proceed, but let me warn you, you won't be able to take the consequences.

Can you imagine having a baby that cries for food, for attention, that defecates and urinates everyday? Can you imagine being introduced to drugs by his friends? Can you imagine...sorry you can't imagine...that's why you're so INTERESTED I guess.

Well, some people only learn when they get severely punished...I suppose that's what you want.

Answer 8

1. no, if its not a sinful relationship and you have your parent's support.
2. Still a sin if its outside of marriage. Keep it zipped up until the (picking my words carefully) right person of the opposite sex comes along.
3 Does it cause you to sin? Does it lead to misleading thoughts? What actions are provoked by the music? If none, than it should be ok.

Answer 9

your decisions are yours you have to give an account for it but my outlook on them is this 1 you are to young besides he will want only one thing and will leave you first chance he gets after he gets what he wants from you 2 see 1 first you really don't know what you are going to get yourself into but to each his own 3 from my understanding of rap and other types of that kind of music they only view women as sex objects and promote violence but like i said to each his own if you can do the above things and still live with your decisions than i or no other can stop you remember once you lose it you can get it back you will regret it always he is not looking for long term right now he will break your heart GOD LOVES YOU AND ONLY WANTS WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU!!!!!!!

Answer 10

You are a normal healthy teenager. Lose the guilt sweetie. Just use common sense. Save sex for a few more years please. Always use condoms! It is better when there is love. Marriage is not necessary, but love and respect make sex so much better.

You are fine sweetie. Enjoy being young. There is no hell, that is a man made word.

Answer 11

Slow down, Shorty. You're way too young to get involved in sex. You don't want to be taking care of a child at your age. Condoms do break. Keep your legs closed and your head in your school books. Good luck.