ive done everything to get them to support me, respect me and be there for me and they dont show that to me and that pisses me off and im planning to leave my family and live on my own and ive been raising myself and have more life experiences than my family do, they are very self centered and judge too much. i just had it and really fed up, do yu think i should leave my family or what?? i have a bf and hes there for me but the problem is that hes leavin in 2 months for basic training for the army for 25 weeks and i will have no one to go to when im in need and how can i learn to depend on myself and not on others?? pls help meout
2007-01-04 18:30:30 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
also im only 19 and will turn 20 on jan 6th...soo, i reallly dont know
2007-01-04 18:31:48 · update #1
Well, you are an adult now, so if you would like to move out and live on your own you should. The thing about being an adult is you can create your own positive situation and make another family of good supportive friends. It's best to try and make it on your own, that's sure to earn the respect of your family - and by the time you are truly independant, you won't much care what they think. I do not think you should cut your ties with your family, just act mature and say you think it is time. However, don't expect them to pay for you and you shouldn't accept payment if they offer it. If you are not enrolled full time in college, you should do it.
2007-01-05 02:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by Tara P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Wouldn't Just Move Out With Your Bf,As That Is Just Not Smart Counting On Someone Else To Care For You..But If You Have A Job And Could Pay Your Own Way In Life By All Means Spread Your Wings And Fly.If Your Not Able To Stand On Your Own 2 Feet I Would Try Talking To Them And Find Out What They Don't Like That Your Doing So You Can Try And Change It So All Of You Can Live Under One Roof.Maybe What You Want Them To Respect You On They Don't Agree With.If That Be The Case Look Into It And See If What It Is Is Really Good For You..Good Luck!
2007-01-05 03:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by amber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you in college? Because if you are then you could spend more time in a college dorm than with your family for a while.
If not, explain to your family how you feel...that they're not respecting you like they should and if they still act the same you can announce to them that you're leaving for a period of time until they can learn to appreciate you more. But find a place first so you have somewhere to stay...anywhere like your friend's or relative's. Judging by your story, when you leave they should realize how important you are to them. Then if you still do not want to see them you should focus on saving up money and finding an apartment or something. i know that will be hard, but i hope you don't have to resort to that yet. You're so young after all.
2007-01-05 03:11:20 · answer #3 · answered by sickofitall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont leave your family, we all have our own ups and downs and sometimes feel like killing each other, but im sure there are some good times too, this could be a phase.
Also, i know its easier said than done, but try not to get agititated and frustrated, try to resolve the issue rather than adding fuel to the fire, if you can make things better, your family will realise this virtue and will support you and respect you.
remember- what goes around comes around, its a give and take, so spread out positivity and im sure u'll get it back.
2007-01-05 02:35:35 · answer #4 · answered by Vicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
respect needs to be earned.
i am sure there's more to the issue than what you say...
leaving may be a good thing for you - helps one grow up and fast !
2007-01-05 03:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by luckylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋