I'm 23, and met this girl through someone from work. Went out on first date, went very well (hockey game and then a couple drinks at a well lit lounge).
Found out from someone that she is going to her friends' house to watch the World Juniors' finals tomorrow. Thing is, this guy really likes her and i overrheard him saying how he was gonna try and screw her then. I also found out that she wound up making out with him a couple months back at a pub crawl. BUT here's the thing, he's definitely not charming, witty or all that interesting, everyone I know agrees she would never actually do anything with him while she's sober. Plus he's a loser.......
anyway, i'm just wondering, what do you think? i mean, i know for a fact i hang out with people i have "done" stuff with, though would NEVER do it again, even if i was super smashed, so i want to extend the same thing to her, should i be worried? i really like her and want to ask her on a second date, but do ya think?
2007-01-04 18:26:07 · 12 answers · asked by holyitsacar 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say defnitely ask her on a 2nd date - it seems like you guys had a good time on the 1st date. its not as if you guys ar exclusive yet, so i guess she can go to another guys place to watch a game, altho if you ask her out again, you two may end up seeing each other exclusively, and then youd have nothing to worry bout. I say trust her until she proves other wise - ie, trust that she isn't stupid enough to go for that loser. act secure and confident by letting her hang out with who ever she likes, nothing worse than an insecure guy who limits a girl he isnt even officially with yet. so go for it! a definite yes on a 2nd date :)
2007-01-04 18:31:14 · answer #1 · answered by supagrrrl84 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like her sexual mores more or less match yours so going by that alone yes. But there are a lot of other variables: how long ago was your first date? did you call her reasonably soon afterwards? Did she give any indication that she was into you? IF all those are good, then what are you waiting for?
I'd take her to see the game somewhere else away from your horn dog buddy! Don't know where you are but ESPN Zone is one of my fave places.
Good luck!!
p.s. I just reviewed the other answers and for god's sake don't listen to the "tell her how you feel" garbage! Play it cool and confident!
2007-01-04 18:33:38 · answer #2 · answered by srtamariagitana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not much of a dater but I would guess 2-3 days AFTER the first date. When you call her talk for a few minutes and then casually throw in what are your plans for this weekend. Once she replies then say whatever it is you got.
2016-05-23 05:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say if you like the girl ask her out again..if your worried about her being with that guy and maybe something happening... what you could do is ask her out after the finals thing so she is not stuck with the funky guy all night ...maybe you will save the day in that situation and earn ya some points...you sound pretty stand up so dont think pts are even necessary....way to look out for a friend...
2007-01-04 18:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by michele m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it - warn her what that other guy is going around saying and tell her its because u really care about her that u wanted her to know these things. Ask her if she would like to go out with u again b4 she gets into the paws of that 'loser'
2007-01-04 18:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by Tequila Sheila SA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too soon for you to attach expectations or meaning to what she does - you've only gone out on one date with her. Don't worry yourself about it, you have no control over her or the situation. Let it be and let the cards fall where they may. That will show whether or not you want to ask her out again.
2007-01-04 18:30:56 · answer #6 · answered by tureeza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You explained the situation very well. And YES ask her out again!! She may be looking for a wonderful person such as yourself. Best of luck to you both.
2007-01-04 18:33:13 · answer #7 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her your feelings.. and ask her on a second date before that guy gets to her... just go out and have a good time and tell her what that guy is trying to do with her and if she doesnt beleave you she will find out when he does do it and come running back to you for your honesty and respect.. good luck hope you do good
2007-01-04 18:33:14 · answer #8 · answered by runie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing you can do at these point to avoid be called a neg is keep calling her to find out if she is cool. matter of the heart sometimes crowds our judgement.
2007-01-04 18:33:34 · answer #9 · answered by hip2bmary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, ask her out again. She's probably hoping you would anway. Don't worry about that loser. He's got nothing on you.
2007-01-04 20:00:23 · answer #10 · answered by chelow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋