I don't know why. It is not as if am an extroverted jerk that thinks putting a girl down is the route to their heart. Quite the opposite. I love hugging puppy dogs and all that sweet stuff.
But if I am, how do I fix this?
2007-01-04 18:20:06 · 21 answers · asked by Mardy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are asking a question more appropriate for a therapist in 6 sentences to the general public on the internet.
Come over and have a beer sometime and watch the game with me. Then lets go bowling sometime. Then ask me seriously, because then maybe I'll have a hint to your personality. Is it an issue you have in general? Are you just that way with women because you are nervous around them? etc. Its wide open to what actually is with you and perception of the adviser from there, but even with a therapist the answer is yours to decide and inside yourself.
the quip advise off the cuff though, generally speaking...
life is too short, so move on and find a woman that you percieve as percieving you as arrogant and likes you for it. Don't spend too much time quibbling over nonsense within yourself if there is an issue you have is it valid or not. Or maybe its just a perception that you have of others perceptions of you based on the way you read thier reactions to you.
etc etc etc etc etc
2007-01-04 18:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by jorluke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all understand what arrogant really means.The dicionary and a thesauras will be a good place to start. Perhaps it is a pride thing that is forcing you to be arrogant. If it is and it more than likely is the first thing I would do is get rid of it. You are no better then anyone else and no one is better then you. Generaly speaking everyone is exactly who they want to be otherwise they wouldnt be themselfs. Now of course there are the few exceptions to the rule as always.Some people think they have to be something their not and will do whatever they think is neccesary to be that. Some will wear so called masks or faces to portray that they are different then they realy are. One for morning and work, one for after work around the community and even one for the nite life. These people are confused about who they are and are afraid to be themselfs. Perhaps your ego is larger then you realy are and feel that you must compensate for it by being arrogant. Are you tring to be better then anyone else?. Are trying to showboat?. Are you trying to over express?. Calm down be nice to people and do not try to out-do or one-up anyone even yourself and you will notice the arrogance as gone away. You are only human and are definatly not any better then any other. None of us are. For proof of this watch people die.
2007-01-04 18:36:35 · answer #2 · answered by SeaJayDboss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only solution is to fake like you're not arrogant. This means not talking about how great you are or denigrating others. But eventually, if you date someone for long enough, they'll be able to figure out if you're actually a pompous jerk, so don't take the acting thing too far.
There's no fixing the root causes. Either arrogance fixes itself (pride cometh before the fall, yaddah yaddah), or you're just fuckin' rad. Hope that helps.
2007-01-04 18:24:35 · answer #3 · answered by Mike A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to stop seeming arrogant is to show ur true side to others and always think b4 u talk ! If u want to say something to a girl, stop and think about it first and decide what ur reaction would be if a girl said those same words to u ! Arrogance is usually found in people who are covering up their insecurities.
2007-01-04 18:26:07 · answer #4 · answered by Tequila Sheila SA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be nice, don't hug dogs! People will think you are wierd.
Play hard to get, shower and use deoderant, that's all I have for you. Try to be genuine, listen when people talk to you. Make time for people that you would normally think to snub or give yes/no answers to when they try to make conversation with you.
On the otherside of the coin, you may actually be being misunderstood. Think about past remarks, are most of the arrogant comments coming from people's first impression of you or are they well exposed to your true nature before making comment. If it is the former then you may need to reassess how you interact with people you just meet. If it is the latter then I would have no time for you either.
2007-01-04 18:23:02 · answer #5 · answered by Holli 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't "fix" it. Find a girl who loves you just the way you are.
A guy recently said to me, "If you're gonna talk smack, you've gotta back it up. I love backing it up." Arrogant? Perhaps. He was certainly an entertaining conversationalist though!
2007-01-04 18:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls like Jerks, Since Girls are Hypocrites.
They Don't really want a "Nice Guy".
2007-01-04 18:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop doing the things things that give people the impression you are arrogant. Ask your friends what you do that gives off that vibe, think about it yourself too.
2007-01-04 18:23:35 · answer #8 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bro just be yourself! you knew yourself better than anyone else. if girls think that you are arrogant, then let it be. there will be some other people who loves you as you are. so why would you worry about that? true love means loving the person of what he/she really is.
2007-01-04 18:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If three or more unrelated people tell you that you're arrogant, chances are that it's true. Just my $.02. By the way, people say the same about me, but I don't see it.
2007-01-04 18:21:58 · answer #10 · answered by hiclaude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋