Say you met on an on-line dating site and hit it off in e-mail and on the phone. When you meet that person should you feel an instant connection or is it something that builds over time?
2007-01-04 18:17:14 · 11 answers · asked by FOSisdead 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some times it's instantaneous and some times it takes a couple of dates...when you are more or less attracted to a person physically and see they have a compatible personality with you, the first date will tell you if there is any chemistry. However, on first dates, there is usually nervousness and pressure to make the date work..so first dates may not actually bring out the personality of the people. On second and third dates, the couple will start getting comfortable, relax and actually start showing off their true personality...and this is usually the time you learn bits and pieces about a person which makes you admire or not their personality and attitude....if u've been talking on line, I'm sure there will be a lot of pressure and expecation on the first date..so may I suggest that you do not put too much focus on the chemistry on the first date..if you guys clicked thru e-mails, it means you have a lot of things in common..so give time to spend more time with that person...
2007-01-04 18:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by nirvana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends. If you don't feel a connection right away, i think that's ok, cuz honestly online dating is new and not exactly natural... like you know the person but you don't. My personal story I talked with a guy online for a couple of months (friend of a friend, we were lazy to meet in high school lol)... we met and we didn't instantly connect.. the date was nice, though. I decided that it was unrealistic to always expect fireworks right away, especially in such an odd situation, so i gave it another chance... we ended up dating for about 2 yrs. So long story short, a connection is good on the first date but nerves and the weirdness of meeting someone you've only know via email and phone is kinda odd so it affects the situation... give it a couple dates. Hope this helps.
2007-01-04 18:25:33 · answer #2 · answered by Principessa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to say that it was either there or it wasn't--so if I didn't feel it instantly on the first date, I wouldn't go on a second date.
Then, last year I met my current boyfriend online. I found him attractive, but didn't feel any chemistry and decided after our first date that I did not want to waste time on a second one--even though we talked for 5 hours and had a lot in common.
I ended up hanging out with him for a month or two as friends and he grew on me, then I really felt chemistry with him.
So, if I find myself single again, I will definitely give the guy more than one date if there is any compatibility there at all.
2007-01-04 18:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In real life, at the beginning, like date one or two. But online is a whole other thing. Your expectations might be too high so give it a chance. I am kind of against the online thing because it sets expectations too high and is easy for the other person to hide things (like STDs, emotional problems, her irate husband, etc...)
But chemistry, soon as you meet you can tell. You should be able to maintain decent, flowing conversations with her by the second date at least. If you still find it hard to talk to her, then there is no chemistry, no matter how hot she is.
2007-01-04 18:32:31 · answer #4 · answered by Joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure.....I was on a site from sept.-nov. and we emailed quite a bit (60 emails total exchanges!!) we hit it off REALLY well, and exchanged photo's.We never met in person tho, or spoke on the phone.
But there did seem to be quite a bit of chemistry--extreme amount actually.
I would imagine it would be pretty instant. But on the other hand, never met up so......it would be curious to find out if it's mostly fanstasy, or if ur intuition was correct.
I bet you'll get some interesting posts tho. good luck!
2007-01-04 18:22:36 · answer #5 · answered by Shuggah Pie Sweets 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chemistry is just there. The thing that builds over time is trust and a lasting bond.
2007-01-04 18:21:49 · answer #6 · answered by Somebody Real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i felt an instant connection during my first date. <3
:)
2007-01-04 18:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by rock_on16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DATE ONE
2007-01-04 18:18:51 · answer #8 · answered by "Chanel-o" 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you dont feel the chemistry after the first date, find someone else.
2007-01-04 18:49:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the chemistry should work immediatly.this is quoted by many people but according to me it can take seconds, hours ,days,months and even years.but it must come with in our life to enjoy the life.
2007-01-04 18:24:00 · answer #10 · answered by deepak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋