My older brother and I are really close. He is like my best friend and he has a new gf and he is totaly blowing me off but expects me to be there for him. Its not as if im complaining to him because im trying really hard to be happy for him because he really loves his gf. But it still hurts alot. I try ignoreing him but it doesnt work. He also lives in cali and I live over 1,000 miles away and we havent seen each other in a long time. When I say blow off I mean doesnt ever talk to me on im,doesnt call, doesnt email. When I was having problems last November he didnt even come and see me. Am I just complaining or is something really wrong here?
2007-01-04 18:06:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like you are a little lost without him. I know that must be tough for you, since it sounds like he cut you off abruptly when he fell for this new girl.
Try to find some other friends to do things with. If you need to communicate and he won't IM or email, write him a letter and mail it to him. Let him know you are happy for him but you are feeling a little sad he has no time for you right now. Let him know you will always be his sister and not to alienate you just because he has a girlfirend.
If he sees your letter and still doesn't contact you, then I feel badly for you ... but your life must go on. At some point, when he's secure in this relationship, and it isn't sooooooo new, I'm sure he will be in touch again.
Try to accept what is happening in his life and go on with yours.
I'm sure he still, and always will love you ... he's just caught up with his own life right now, and you have to be patient with him.
2007-01-04 19:15:02 · answer #1 · answered by GRNeyzNYC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amazingly enough, sibling relationships change a great deal over time.
I love my younger brother and he was always my best friend. But we grew up and had different paths to travel. We spent many years not seeing much of each other. Now we are both in our 40's, settled in our lives and are very close again.
There isn't necessarily anything "wrong". Your relationship is changing and it doesn't sound like it's easy for either of you. But, if he expects you to be there for him you may want to let him know how he hasn't been there for you.
2007-01-05 04:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by scorpio1913 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let Him Know How You Feel.Also Let Him Know That Your Very Happy For Him However You Would Like Him To Fit You In His Life To And That You Miss Chatting With Him.
2007-01-05 03:30:28 · answer #3 · answered by amber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother has tunnel vision with his new love. Don't get too upset that he's channeling most of his energy into his relationship. Just continue to try to stay in touch and in time you guys will be the same again.
2007-01-05 02:50:39 · answer #4 · answered by Mookie22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with that. speak to him when u need him. don't create a negative attitude that makes your relationship unhealthy. He just so happy with his gf but it does'nt mean he doesn't need you anymore. it's just he can't give you the time and attention just like before. it's normal with the guy to give most of his time to his gf but the closeness he felt with you is different and he keeps that for sure.
2007-01-05 02:35:55 · answer #5 · answered by prisoner_war 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with you and bro being close, but you sound a bit clingy. He's gotta live his life. Might be time for your to find another best friend. It's time for you to live your life too.
2007-01-05 02:17:29 · answer #6 · answered by msjuliet2005 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also have a brother and I know how they can be at times, but with us it helps to talk things out. Perhaps you should talk to your brother about it.
You also need to realise that now that he has a gf he will be spending more time with her - all attention will be with her.
2007-01-05 04:45:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I totally agree. I think you should talk to him about it. It's always easier said than done, but if you keep quiet, nothing is going to be changed. He'll be glad you told him. If you tell him years later , if ever, he'll be like "you should've told me!" haha
2007-01-05 02:09:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you its like you've been replaced by someone else when your family i would have to tell him about it because if you tell him in the future he will be like you should have told me you felt that way about it and then he would laugh if you feel like you've been replaced talk to him about it and see why it is the way it is.
2007-01-05 02:13:53 · answer #9 · answered by chongo89478 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~What is wrong here is your misplaced Oedipus complex. Spend more time with your dad.
2007-01-05 02:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋