first of all... if you give an answer like... "lose weight cow" or something smart @ss like that... i'll report you ;-) i want actual real answers
men... be brutally honest. --- how important are looks when you're looking for someone to date? i've always been chubby... and it's never really bothered me... but does it bother men? i'm not ugly... i'm actually very cute... just fat i guess... lol. i'm not obese or one of those people who can't fit through a door or something.... im just overweight. i'm 21, i have a perfect smile, beautiful eyes, great breasts, i love sports... mostly football... and i actually know and understand the game and can name stats, players, etc... lol. i dress very nice, always in nice clothes, usually heels. i'm not controlling, not clingy, not needy.... i'm just a simple fun loving southern belle! Would you date me?... or is the weight thing a problem?
2007-01-04 17:51:40 · 14 answers · asked by lost soul 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
look...it is tougher for heavier people. men and women. fact of life in a screwed up society. many can find their own world and be perfectly happy. your family will probably not tell you that losing weight would help. my sister has had trouble with men her whole life and she is heavier. she analyzes every freaking thing but i know the reason guys are shying away from her. if I tell her, she will go nuts and light me up big time. so, i let her be and keep the peace. Now, for you here is my advice. i just lost 50 lbs but did not tell anyone i was doing it. i just did it. people do react differently. my girl dumped me before this happened now i hear she is curious to see me. i am not letting her yet cuz i want to drop another 20 first...and screw her! anyway...i would suggest you just drop a bunch of weight. restrict you intake and workout. you are young, you owe it to yourself to try to be in shape when young. don't wait until you are in your 30s to try to get thin. give it a shot now and see if guys start falling all over themselves to get to you. a southern belle, cute, nice smile, loves and understands football? sorry to say but sounds like it is clearly the weight. don't be stubborn. if you really want to know if it is the weight, then take it off. besides it is good for your health and confidence. it has multiple benefits. good luck to you sweet thing.
2007-01-04 18:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by keepingitgoing 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's a person out there for everyone no matter how you look or how much you weigh. Don't get so worked up about your body. I have seen some really beautiful, cute extra large women out there! I must admit that I'm not into plus size women, but would I ever pursue a relationship with one? Sure! Why not? Like I said ... I have seen my share of very beautiful, cute ones, and by that I mean "relationship" material. Power to bbw's! Big Beautiful Women!
Would I date you? Nope, not because you're overweight, but because I'm happily taken. ;)
2007-01-04 17:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by Bobby_Bomberman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, by threatening to report people, you make it so no one wants to answer your question.
I can tell you that I have had much better luck dating since I lost weight. I have lost a total of 50 pounds. I had been dating online for about 6 months--had only a few dates. Once I lost the weight, I had more than I wanted.
I know it seems superficial, but if you think about it, you must be attracted to someone initially before you have a desire to get to know them.
Of course there are some guys who prefer chubby women, just not that many. Ask yourself if you are as attracted to chubby guys as you are to fit guys.
2007-01-04 17:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is someone for everyone. If you have confidence and don't feel insecure about your weight people will be attracted to you. I look around and wonder why fat women have nice looking bf's and I don't have anyone ( when I don't) sometimes myself . It's to each his own. Younger men may be more shallow and don't look past the weight but as you get older you find men look for more than the physical features. If I were a man I'd date you. keep your chin up and if you're unhappy w/ your weight then do something if not then don't worry about what others think.
2007-01-04 17:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
21 y.o. college guy here. Sigh..... I see stick figures around campus and cringe. And who wants to cuddle with a stickfigure anyways?
Maybe I am in the minority of guys my age, but I know I am not alone.
I like thick women, pretty faces, wide hips, long legs, thick thighs, nice breasts, voluptous, booty, some substance you know what I mean?
Sometimes I see these girls and in my mind I say to them, "don't change. You are already beautiful."
If you are cute then that is all that matters. To me, the face is all that counts. A woman can have flat breasts and weird proportions, but if she has a face I love and a personality to match, that's it, checkmate, I'm hooked. You sound like you would be a good girlfriend.
2007-01-04 18:06:55 · answer #5 · answered by Joe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone out there is waiting for you girlie... No your weight shouldn't be a problem it is really what is on the inside that counts!!! I have a family member who feels the same way. But she too is beautiful and someone out there is going to love you for you... not what you look like... Another thing don't let anyone ever talk down to you like you were thinking when you wrote this. You know you are a beautiful person and mr. right will think so too.. Good luck hun!!!!
2007-01-04 17:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by Sherman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im a little overweight also. i havent had any problem getting men before cause they look past that. a lot of guys said they like me the way i was because of my butt and breasts lol. they said the chubbiness fit my body well in a good way.
2007-01-04 17:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For most guys, looks ARE important. If they say otherwise, they ARE lying. The silver lining however, is that, yes, most guys are attracted to the typical "hot girl", but different guys have different tastes. Also, if a guy really likes your personality, they can become attracted to a girl they were initially not attracted to. Bottom line though, be yourself, be confident, and see what happens because you never know.
2007-01-04 18:04:52 · answer #8 · answered by Bucky for Prez 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your are my dream girl but I am already married. If I could have met you 4 years ago we could of had something. All of the things you said are just what I would want in a women. I wish you and my wife could be put into one person.
P.S. My wife is not skinny.
2007-01-04 17:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweety looks doesn't matter because then your looks fade when you be like 56 of something and all you left with is the personality.
So I'm not a boy but being chubby isn't all bad, (not bragging) but i'm slim and most boys don't like that, i even tried to eat a lot just to be like your size to have a little junk in my trunk..
Every girl get's insecure..
It's natural for girls.
2007-01-04 17:56:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋