Hi everyone, I have dating my b/f 4 months now and we r living together. we started living together the second month we dated.
Ok, he is 30yrs and I'm 31yrs old, and I have never been marriage but he married twice (both short married) and have one child. he divorced about 2yrs ago. When we start dating, he was exciting and talked about "when we get married,.." , so I was kinda rushed him alot cuz i wanted to settle down. and Now he never talked about it anymore. Now he says he's not ready and he want us to take our times and will see. I'm agree with him and it's true that we have living together not that long anyways and need to get to know each other more. But I'm still little afraid about what if he will never consider to marry me later, or not open his heart to me 100%, and get tired of me easy cuz we r living together? And also I need your answers that how to open his heart more and more and accept me as his future wife?How can i do to let him get ready for me?
2007-01-04 17:44:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
as you said you don't know each other well. So you cannot blame him if he tell you this, first his marriage failed twice so for him he don't want that mistake again but don't lose hope maybe he will realize that you love him so much and think to marry you but give him time don't be in hurry, this good for you too. Make your love get stronger.
2007-01-04 17:53:19 · answer #1 · answered by kickers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, maybe you need to take another look at it: What is HE doing to make YOU to accept HIM as a husband ??? That is the way you should look at it. Do you see him making every effort to make YOU happy? Does he know what makes you happy? Does he at least make an effort to find out? What kind of care does he take of you when you're sick??? Do you think he will be there for you if you lose your job and will have nothing to eat and nowhere to live??? Are you sure about that? If you answer "No" to any of the above questions, you DO NOT need a husband like that.
So, other than concentrating on what you can do to become his wife, watch very carefully on what he is doing to become a good husband for you. If he is doing nothing, feel lucky you don't have him as a husband. Your needs and your wants are as important as his.
2007-01-04 17:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This problem started with the commencement of Live Together concept where no one wants to take the responsibilities and trouble to have a family. So boys have the advantage to roam from one flower to another to suck and taste the honey in various flower without loving them.
LOVE & in LIVE TOGETHER? Contradictory.
2007-01-04 18:29:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people make mistakes. thats how we learn. dont be jealous of his past. if he is growing and changing and learning then that he is taking his time now is a good indicator that he may be changing. If he rushes into marriage with you then dont be suprised to be ex#3.
that you are living with him already I dont think is so good, but who's to judge really. Just make sure you can back out if you need to...soon.
2007-01-04 17:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by jorluke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your own apt. dont say shiitt to him. just move while you both are at work of course you take the day off to do this. he wants to have a live in maid so to speak. you aren't good enough to marry then dont be his convient piece of butt!
2007-01-04 17:47:02 · answer #5 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop rushing him, he has been through 2 divorces already
2007-01-04 17:45:36 · answer #6 · answered by Purpslinger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave he dont want to get married now that he has his cake kliving with him what else do he need now
2007-01-04 17:47:18 · answer #7 · answered by trinavanilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to rush it. Try it for a year, first.
2007-01-04 17:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋