During Christmas, my girlfriend of almost 3 years, upsettingly told me that she feels that her feelings are different when we are away at school. She explained that when we are back together for a long school break, she has the feelings again, but she feels that lately the long distance has made her feel different than she normally does. Though she knew it would upset me and actually didn't want to say it, she felt that we should take a break, so she can figure out what she wants. She tells me she loves me very much and would want to talk to me every day like we always do, but we would not see each other. I don't want to lose her, but will this break possibly end our relationship?
2007-01-04 17:33:12 · 10 answers · asked by Ryan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's possible that it'll end your relationship, but on the other hand she might miss you too much and decide she wants you back. Honestly, you don't have much choice right now but to give her some time. Long-distance relationships are notoriously hard, and I think the distance is just taking a toll on her. School is stressful no matter what (I'm there too), and Xmas is usually an emotional time so maybe she just literally doesn't know what she wants. All you can do is support her, unfortunately. Don't pressure her, just let her take her time. Sucks I know but it's for the best. Let her know you're always there for her. For a relationship to work properly the 2 people need to spend real time with each other, LD is hard... I wouldn't be surprised if you eventually do break up. Sorry but I really don't have much better advice, like I'd suggest make a pact to see each other as much as you can, but realistically college kids don't have enough cash to drive or fly every weekend or so, there probably isn't much you can do to see her more. You already talk daily, what else is there?
2007-01-04 17:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by Principessa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i bet she met someone at school. she feels guilty with you on break and wants to see what will happen back at school. pretty simple stuff really. girls are all the same. if it wasn't such she would not try to define it so much but rather have a good time with you on break and then back to school. let her live with the guilt and you develop some friends and interesting endeavors. if she wants to be with you next break then consider it a bonus...if not, then you have developed your life outside of a stupid chick. believe me, she is not worried about your life while she is away so don't lose sleep over her.
2007-01-04 17:54:01 · answer #2 · answered by keepingitgoing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly indeed. Not what you want to hear though right? If she wants a break, then she's definetly having doubts and just wants to see what it would be like without you and if she can handle it. If you really love her, you better talk to her about it, cos the break thing I really don't think is a good idea if you love her.
2007-01-04 17:36:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid breaks are never good, nothing about being together can be worked out by being apart. Sorry, my boyfriend of 3 years and I had 2 'breaks' before were 'broke up'.
2007-01-04 17:36:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, I don't know her but I am a fellow girl. I suggest writing to her, maybe writing a poem at the end before you sign it with a glittery pen! That would be the best, so romantic...! A guy that doesn't want to break up with a girl, that's really hard to find. She would lose a great guy if she broke up with you.
2007-01-04 17:37:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, break is the beginning of break-up. =( But if you have been together for almost 3 years, then it may be different.
2007-01-04 17:41:10 · answer #6 · answered by 143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a hard one to say. how strong is the relationship now and before. what you need to think about i am very sorry to say is she may have found someone already. the best thing to do is give her what she wants and let her know you love her. if things slow way down for a spell don't freak out let it ride. if you love someone let them go if they come back they were yours all along if not they never were.
2007-01-04 17:39:14 · answer #7 · answered by nick d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a break usually means the end of a relationship, sorry!!!
2007-01-04 17:35:05 · answer #8 · answered by Kadi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on with your life. dont let her be in charge. she will string you along and cut you off. start ignoring her phone calls. let her become buddies with the answering machine. i did this and it worked. i got over the person and they were shocked. we are talking 20 yrs ago.
2007-01-04 17:37:50 · answer #9 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe
can you only need decide
2007-01-04 17:51:48 · answer #10 · answered by nagai.s.bala murali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋