How do I punish my Two year old?

Question

My Two year old daughter bite and pinch's me my mother and the cats and dog..if I put her in a time out she just smiles at me and thinks she's funny. I'm not sure what to do! I've told her no! and attempted to reason with her and sad to say I've spanked her but she just laughs at me when I do that someone PLEASE HELP!

Answer 1

My son went through a phase where he wanted to pinch our dog or us (but mostly the dog). He wanted our dog to pay attention to him, but didn't know how to get his attention any other way.

Punishment didn't work because it didn't solve the problem. He needed to learn how to ask for attention. I taught him that if he wanted our attention, he needed to say Mama or Daddy. It was a little harder for our dog, because he considers himself to be my dog.

I spent a few days working with my son and dog so my dog would obey a few commands from my son. It was worth the extra effort, because the pinching has pretty much stopped now that he knows how to ask for attention nicely.

You have to remember that two years have a lot of feelings they don't know how to express any other way besides "I"M ANGRY and I'm going to pinch/bite/hit until you fix it". You have to be patient and teach them how resolve a situation before it gets to the pinching/hitting/biting part.

If you spank them or put them in time out, make sure they know why. When you tell them why, try to be calm and matter of fact, like you're saying "Your milk is on the table". Otherwise, they will learn they can get you angry/flustered/irritated.
It is really hard, but hang in there.

Answer 2

I do not agree with any of the answers you've received. First, I would talk to her doctor about her problems. There might be a real psychological problem that needs to be addressed by a professional.

Then, take a parenting class to learn how to discipline young children. The class will teach you a lot and talking to the other parents will help also. Ask your doctor about a class.

I agree with Cheri Kee who said her 2 year old son was pinching them and the dog. She said that he was trying to get attention. I think she's right! Her advice was good. But I'd do the other things also ... talk to her doctor, take a class, etc.

Never lock her in a room. NO HITTING AT ALL! A time out seems to be the best idea, but the way you're doing it is not working. Again, ask her doctor for advice.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I have always been told that in order to get your point across, you have to do to them exactly what they are doing to you. So, this means that you must bite her back everytime she bites your mother, dog, cat, etc.... the same with the pinching. I don't think it takes but one time for them to actually get the point. It worked for me when I was growing up. I live in the south so, I have seen several mothers use the same technic and with very effective results. Even the day cares around here do this. This might sound like abuse but, in reality it really isn't. If you don't teach her, another child will, possibly leaving a horrible scar behind. She could even possibly get some kind of disease or sickness if the skin is broken. You don't want to bite her back too hard but, hard enough to get your point acrossed. You really need to do this before she starts school or day care.

Answer 4

If spanking results in laughter, best to back off that route. My first daughter I had to spank a few times, and she responded. The second one didn't respond to spanking (except like your kid), so I quit that route, and when she was about 4, started grounding her for her indiscretions. And I wouldn't unground her until she came to me with a sincere look of regret. Now, she immediately apologizes with sincerity, and is much better. It takes a lot of time and patience though.

I would just keep the time-out thing going, that's not a bad route. Make sure she isn't getting any attention, nor having fun, except to color or play with stuffed animals. Our time-outs were basically sending the kid to the room. And don't let her out unless she apologizes. The first few times, you may need to keep her in her room for an entire day, or longer.

Like your daughter, my 2nd daughter is stubborn. You have to be more stubborn. But biting is wrong, and if she does that, take all her fun activities away, keep her in her room until she apologizes. No privileges, no dessert, no TV, nothing.

It might take a few years, but if you do it right, she will come around.

Answer 5

Younger children should be put in a time out for a period of time that matches their age. Your two year old should have a timeout for 2 minutes. Have a designated timeout area like a chair or a carpet. My mother put me in a chair that faced the corner (Very effective for me) this might help you too if you feel your child is just making faces at you. A corner is also effective because no matter where you are, a store, resturaunt, etc, there is always a corner. This helps you stay consistant and swift.
Before you give them a time out. Warm them once and thell them you will punish them. As soon as they do the bad dead again take them right away to timeout. You are the adult figure and you have to stay strong. Consistancy is the key. Never sway or give in. Do not feel like you have to "reason" with your two year old. After the time out get down onto her eye level tell her why you put her in a time out. Keep a firm but calm tone. For example "Mommy put you in a time out because you bit mommy. We don't bite in this house. Do you understand?" And be done.

Good luck! Remember, stay strong and consistant.

Answer 6

I truly believe that time-out will work if used correctly. I am a huge fan of Supernanny, and she uses variations on time-out. If you've never watched the show, it's on Monday evenings on ABC. In general, you have to make sure you squat down to the same level as the child and give her one warning. If she repeats the behavior, get back down to her level and tell her in a calm, firm voice (your tone should not be pleading or angry) that she is going to be put in time-out for that behavior, and put her in a spot (chair, stair, corner, etc.) that has been designated for such a purpose. She should stay there for 2 minutes per year of age--4 minutes in your case. Do not even acknowledge the laughing and smiling as that will only make it seem like more of a game. If she moves from the spot, silently put her back and start timing over again. When she has completed the time, get down to her level, remind her why she was in time-out and require her to say she is sorry. Then, give hugs and kisses.

Believe me, I wish Supernanny had been on when my kids were little. I'm sure I would have been a better mom.

Answer 7

Find a spot like a special chair that is the naughty chair she has to go in the same spot every time no tv no talking and for every time she laughs at you that adds on 2 minutes to her punishment i know she is young but talking to her will go a long way if you keep doing it she will learn if she gets up from that spot put her right back do not talk to her and and continue that until she stays for the set amount of time

Hope that helps

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Take her favorit toy away. Next time she bites you ....and she will
Cry and scream to the top of your lungs...shock her...remember
she knows you and she knows how to get you to do the things she wants you to do...change that now.
Fall on the floor and cry real tears, Screem It hurts it hurts...that will shock her...then tell her daddy or your mother on her and show him what she did and then Point your finger at her and say in a loud voice...She did it. Have them along...have them love on your and say they are sorry she did that to you. You just keep on crying...until she comes to you and says she is sorry...if it takes a while maybe they can say in a sweet voice "come tell mommy you are sorry. Give her a hug and kiss it so it wil stop hurting."
Then tell her you hurt mommy. Don't do that again. Give her a hug and kiss.
Now word of advice...if you tell her you are going to do something do it. If you tell her she can not watch that movie/play with something...do not let her do it..let her see you put it up and that she can not have it for the rest of the day, when she throws herself on the floor in a fit...step over her...I mean step over her...not around her...just laugh and walk away... then tomorrow when she wants it remind her why she could not have it and tell her if she does that agin you will take it away again

Answer 10

i had the same problem with my daughter, only she was hitting. and, just like your little girl, mine would laugh when i said "no" or told her to stop. i found, the best way to get her to stop, is not to give her any attention when she does it. if she laughs when you correct her, she is looking for a reaction from you, weather its positive or negative. when she's biting and pinching, instead of telling her "no" and putting her in a time out, make a suggestion like "lets go play with your toys instead of biting grandma, she dosent like that, it hurts" once she sees that she's not getting a reaction out of you, she'll eventually stop. my daughter usually hit me when she was excited, or wanted attention. she dosent know how to express herself yet, so teach her how to control how she feels, weather its excitement, or anger. i hope this helps, two can be a fun age, you just have to think like a 2 year old sometimes i guess