Did you ever wonder, is someone better out there... when you have an ideal partner ?

Question

I know someone who is just what I am looking for.
But I am now asking myself-- would it be right to go ahead with this?
Is the time right?
Is he the best, or is there better?

Does everyone think that?
And how did you deal with those kinds of wuestions?

Answer 1

Hi,

I think it's normal to have some doubts. The feeling i get from your question is that maybe you have more doubts than most people, like you say you found someone who "is just what i am looking for", then ask "is there better?", so that sets off a couple red flags in my mind, but obviously i don't know you so maybe you're just focused on your doubts right now rather than the positives...

Anyway, the only thing you can do now is try... lots of people seem perfect before you actually get to know them properly, so date him.. give him a chance, and see how it goes. That is all you can do. You have your expectations set quite high, I recommend relaxing them a bit... not enough to compromise your happiness, but going into every potential relationship with the idea that this person is ideal only sets yourself up for a fall. Ideal is a fantasy, no relationship is ever 100% perfect. Good matches still have fights no matter how much love and passion exists.

Just give him a try and if you're not happy, move on. Take things slow, get to know him, and then you can make a judgement on whether he really is what you're looking for. Good luck :)

Answer 2

I thought of that today. But when I really think about it, I remember the things that attracted me to him and what I loved about him when I met him and I see the things that really make me happy everyday and it's mostly what he brings to me. His phone calls, or his letters or just memories of us together. Yeah, I've wondered that and it's scared me, most times. I get mad and sad at the same time. I get mad of myself for being so mean...you know? Cause you feel your partner would never think what you are..but then I feel scared, scared that I might be making a mistake. And then sad because I feel that maybe it's the other way around and there might be someone better for them.
I deal with it by just thinking back or talking him on the phone and in those little moments when he makes me laugh, or smile or anything happy, I remember exactly what brought me to him. And that with his imperfections, I'd rather have him than any other "perfect" man out there.

Answer 3

Grass is always greener my friend always!
If you are unhappy meaning that if you are not totally happy with the person you are with then perhaps you need to be alone for a while because if you are with the ideal person and you are still wondering then maybe the doubts have to do with you and not with anyone else.
I left one person for another and was still not happy, I realized that it had nothing to do with other people but more with the realization that what I thought was ideal had changed.

Answer 4

Wn u have an ideal partner, why go looking out for someone that does not exist?
Buddy ! a bird in hand is worth two in a bush.!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Grab her before she too starts to have second thoughts abt u. All the best !

Answer 5

As soon as you sell your shack for a nicer home, someone buys your shack and turns it into a palace. Discuss your concerns with your partner before letting go of something potentially wonderful.

Answer 6

know one really knows what is writing for us... just don't think to much cause you might end up making the right decision... i do believe there's someone better for all of us but, the only problem is that we rush it that no one ends up with none of them... i guess is not meant to be...

Answer 7

if she is just what you are looking for, why still look for better.