Theres this guy that I've had a crush on for almost two years. Out of all the crushes I've had, this one is totally different. All the rest have come and gone, but this one has always stayed. I think I might be in love with him because I can't stop thinking about him.
The first time I saw him was when I was in 7th grade, and he was in 8th. I instantly had butterflies in my stomach. Possibly love at first sight? We became friends soon after, and found out we had alot in common (i.e tastes in music, thoughts about life, dreams, etc) This year, when I found out that he was leaving for Japan, I was secretly heartbroken. I was planning on telling him way after he left that I liked him, but instead I told him the night before his last day at school. This was his reply,
'its always nice to hear that from someone, but i'm trying to avoid relationships at the moment because its very hard in times when you leave. not just using it as some crappy excuse'
I explained to him that I understood. .
2007-01-04 16:48:15 · 10 answers · asked by First L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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I explained to him that I understood, and knew what he meant (even though I really didnt) and said I only wanted to get it off my chest.and was originally planning on telling him right after he left. Then he said he didn't really have an answer to that, but there was no reason to make this awkward between us, he would still enjoy to have non-ignorant coversations about decent music, etc.
=( I'm confused, did I screw up? What did he mean? did he like me? hate me? think I'm annoying?
I miss him so much..
2007-01-04 16:53:40 · update #1
some people I talked to about this said that they thought he likes me, but I shouldn't get my hopes up too high. Others said he wanted to be with me, but couldn't because he was moving.
2007-01-04 16:55:18 · update #2
the last time I saw him, we talked for a litte while, and we hugged. It felt so..amazing. like the whole world seemed to have stopped for about 5 seconds, and it was such a meaningful moment that I never wanted to end (i'm not B.S'ing here, it was one of the best hugs I had ever gotten)
2007-01-04 16:58:20 · update #3
I'm totally aware by the whole 'long distance relationships don't work' thing. but the answer I'm trying to look for is 'does he like me or not?" what do I mean to him? What does he think of me? Should I ask him about it? Or would asking ruin everything?
2007-01-04 20:37:01 · update #4
anything else? =(
2007-01-05 20:58:19 · update #5
You are so young, and everything is so immediate.
Actually, he sounds like a nice responsible kid. What you should do is exactly what he suggested...still talk to him (having decent conversations) about music and such, like you always did before.
But do YOURSELF the favour of growing. No one ever stays the same. Especially at this time in your life. Grow and learn about yourself, and be the best YOU that you can be.
Who knows, when he returns from Japan, he may find out that his friend has a lot more going for her than she did when he left?!
2007-01-04 17:07:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anastasia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're lucky he was straight up honest with you. He could have just smiled at you and said, "That's nice." or something stupid. Plus I think it would be best if you guys didn't try to fet into a relationship. When he's in Japan he will be too busy doing other things to really remember you. ( I don't mean to sound harsh) I'm just trying to be realistic. Long distance relationships are TOUGH. Also, I just wanted to mention that you are probably not in love with him. That feeling that you felt when you first saw him and even now is typical for teens. I know, I've been "in love" with a lot of guys. Now I know it was really infatuation. Hope this helps some.
2007-01-04 16:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by gravytrain036 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like your freaking out,you should cool down first so which you would be able to think of approximately what you want to do.for my section,i think of you should tell her the style you experience,you realize to sparkling the air.yet of coarse timing is each and everything,such as you pronounced,in case you tell her in the previous your holiday to eire it could make issues uncomfortable,if she does not experience a similar way.on the different hand in case you do no longer tell her you may remorseful approximately it later in life,possibly you should positioned off telling her till after the holiday.the two way the determination is as much as you,love is rather like Russian Roulette,your the two going to take a bullet to the top or stay to work out yet another game.life is approximately taking possibilities,if it works out then this is great,if it does not then possibly she's only no longer the single for you(despite in case you have overwhelmed on her for like 3 years),time and love heal all wounds.good success.
2016-11-26 20:30:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm..the guy doesn't do long distance relationships..and you guys cannot hook up..anyway, a lot of people go through pretty much the same thing..but after awhile,you end up meeting plenty of other people..and your taste in guys will gradually change it up a bit..so..yeah..bummer. just stay friends and maybe he'll come back around; but i'm thinking its a lost cause and he'll just become one of those huge crushes you'll always remember. sure it seems tough & unbearable now...but give it a few weeks/months..then it will not be so bad.
2007-01-04 17:00:51 · answer #4 · answered by toolchicx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was being sincere with you. You're both young, he has a good head on his shoulders, and he's not interested in you, in that way, at this time. Mainly because he's looking toward the future, to get ahead. You can still like each other as friends, but that's all he sees you as, at this point in time.
2007-01-04 16:54:21 · answer #5 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he was just being honest with you, this isn't the time since he's away and long distance romances are difficult. He'll be back, and if you still feel this way about him, see where it goes from there. Be patient.
2007-01-04 20:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you, he just doesn't want to start something that could turn into something like a relationship so he's not going to go into detail about it.
I got almost the same answer from a guy once and I bugged him about it and he explained it to me like that.
2007-01-04 17:04:27 · answer #7 · answered by Lot's Wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can wait - how long is he gone for - if its over a year and he does not wish to contact you - you should move on - you will make someone else happy
2007-01-04 16:51:45 · answer #8 · answered by happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think his answer is accurate and he is saying the truth. Long distance relationships are not easy. I think he was being very honest and sincere with you.
2007-01-04 16:50:55 · answer #9 · answered by MG 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he likes you too, he just does not want to start a new relationship right now.
2007-01-04 17:20:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋