we've been together for 5 years we are not married but i jus found out two months ago that he was cheating on me i broke up with him and i told him to get out of my house but he is begging to come back i decided not to because im hurt i gave him my heart and respect and took it and threw it away last night he came over and asked me to marry him but he is still with the other women and he says that he loves me. what should i do????
2007-01-04 16:36:17 · 15 answers · asked by T3ARZ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's using you. Don't believe him. Ending a 5 year relationship will feel like a death, so grieve the ending of the relationship like a death, but then move on.
You HAVE to first look after yourself, because nobody else will. Don't let his whining and begging influence your decisions.
2007-01-04 16:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anastasia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Froggy
Sorry 2 hear your boy freind is a jerk. The answer is simple dont give him a chance there will b some 1 out there that will love u and never cheat on u. This guy want the best of both wolrds, u must b strong and dont give in . Trust me ive been married 4 17 years and iam 37 and would never cheat on my wife . With out trust u have no hope and this guy u cant trust walk away and start again u sound like a nice girl this will get better trust me. I hope things work out 4 u good luck !
2007-01-05 00:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by Daniel M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself.........Do you really need this? How many more heartaches can you take? Can you live with a lier and cheater for the rest of your life? He may have realized that he made a mistake and truly loves you or old habits may not die. What are you willing to risk? Don't be so easy on him. Give him time to prove to you that he honestly loves you and only wants to devote his heart to you. Make him work for it!!! Too many times, I see women give in too soon and forgive way too easily. These cheating men see that it's not that difficult to get back into your graces and take advantage of your emotional strings. They will learn to know the right strings to pull when they do something horrible like that again...There are more fish in the ocean and not all are sharks!!!!
2007-01-05 00:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by artutina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do in a situation like this, is to get out of it. Think for a moment. If he really loved you, he would not have cheated on you and would have already left the other women by now. My advice is to you, is that you leave him. I know it's hard, but would you rather stay in that relationship and constantly be in a state of mistrust? Or would you rather get up on your own two feet and find a man who is worthy and capabe of loving and treating like you should be? This "boyfriend" wants his cake and to eat it too. Trust me, there are men out there who trust worthy and faithful. Unfortunatley you caught one of the bad ones. If you do decide to leave him, gain support in family and friends. Go on outings, cut him completely from your life. Go out and mingle with different people and you will find the right one for you, but before you make any decisions, think with your heart and hard about it first. I wish you the best of luck!
2007-01-05 00:43:51 · answer #4 · answered by nothing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he tells he love @ wants to marry u but how about ur feeling.did u still care @ love him? Trials @ prob comes in all relationship, @ we have to survive as long as our happiness @ luv r concern.Now , ask ur bf to break up his another girl, @ promise u not to do it again .Not only in words but he has to prove it.If he can do it, maybe I suggest u to give him 2ND chance.5 yrs to be w/ r enough to know each others attitude ,likes @ dislikes.Sometimes also we have to find out why he did cheated u.I'm not saying its also ur fault but sometimes guys cant understand the nagging, commanding @ tantrums of girls like us. But if u really hate him or cant trust him any more maybe I suggest to go live w/o him.It u who will decide.good luck
2007-01-05 01:46:58 · answer #5 · answered by jeayuma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curb honey. Apparently he doesn't love you like he says or he wouldn't be with that other woman. You will be better off with out him. Eventually you will move on and find your prince charming and life will be wonderful. I wish you the best of luck!! You did the right thing by not letting him come back...
2007-01-05 00:43:02 · answer #6 · answered by made_in_heaven06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U already know what you should do yes people change but if you marry him and you know that the other girl is still around you are saying to him that he can have girlfriends and u will still be with him and sexually transmitted diseases are the #1 killer of women whose significant other gave to them
2007-01-05 00:44:54 · answer #7 · answered by trinavanilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand firm. Do not let him back...do not marry him. If he loved you he never would have cheated. And if he were serious about wanting you back and doing things right, he would have left the whore he was cheating with. Be smart, protect your heart!
2007-01-05 00:40:22 · answer #8 · answered by sammiejane67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey my mom always told me that if a guy can cheat on his girlfriend with you, then he can cheat on you with a girlfriend. in your case, he can (and probably will) continue to cheat on you over and over again. i dont personally know you but i do care about you and i dont think that anyone (male or female) deserves to be cheated on. i think you should move on and try to forget about him. God does everything for a reason. maybe the reason for this is to let you know that this guy was not the one for you. maybe your Mr. RIGHT is still out there and you need to go look for him.
**** GOOD LUCK ****
2007-01-05 00:47:13 · answer #9 · answered by * Miss Thang * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT go back, you are working on healing...don't let him ruin that for you. He obviously doesn't CARE-he is with the women that he cheated on YOU with. Screw him, you deserve better.
God bless you! :)
2007-01-05 00:38:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋