i love my boyfriend, and he loves me back, and i know he does. weve been going out for 4 months, and he asked if i was ready for just touchy stuff. i wasnt sure what to say, but i love him, so i tihnk im ready for that. should i?
i also wanted to ask when i should feel ready for sex with him. i know hes ready, but am i? like, im 16, so, its ok if i feel ready, right??
2007-01-04 16:35:40 · 18 answers · asked by Huh? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i love my boyfriend, and he loves me back, and i know he does. weve been going out for 4 months, and he asked if i was ready for just "touchy stuff" (i dont know what the hell to call it witout actually saying it..). i wasnt sure what to say, but i love him, so i tihnk im ready for that. should i?
i also wanted to ask when i should feel ready for sex with him. i know hes ready, but am i? like, im 16, so, its ok if i feel ready, right??
2007-01-04 16:41:29 · update #1
Please, listen to everything I have to say because this is crucial. The age of 16 is too young to be having sex, but nowadays sex at a young age has become the norm. Also, since you and your boyfriend love each other, sex is almost inevitable. It's something that happens out of curiosity and most importantly out of love.
Educate yourself. This is a must. Obviously you have access to a computer. You can find endless information on the internet. The key words here are Sexual Education. Educate yourself about STD's, HIV, STI's, Birth Control, Birth Control Methods, and literally everything you could possibly read about. I would advise you to wait until you're older, but nowadays that's hard to do. Before having sex, I can't stress this enough: Sexual Education.
The last thing you want is a pregnancy or std scare. Trust me.
If you don't feel like you're ready then wait. If your boyfriend loves you like he says he does then he will understand.
Goodluck. :)
2007-01-04 16:47:26 · answer #1 · answered by Tommy_Turrican 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i went through the same thing with my boyfriend! (I'm 16) But i'm proud of you! you've been together for 4 months, and you haven't been that intimate yet? good for you! that's kinda hard to control in teenage relationships. In my case, we got intimate pretty quickly because we started making out the first week of our relationship. But i kept wondering if we were getting too close.
If you feel comfortable with him, and if you both understand each other very well, then it's fine. But don't have sex with him yet. No matter how fast the intimacy level goes up, you have to think it over really well before you have sex. Of course, i'm not gonna warn you about being safe and condoms because you probably know all that stuff.
But think about it this way. You may be ready for sex mentally and physically, but think about your relationship with him. Will it make things drastically different if you see each other so completely and nudely? it might change things, and you don't want that. Will it make all the mystery go away? because that's the last thing you want. Does he love you enough that he'll still pursue you even if he has gotten the furthest with you? (guys call it a home run). If you're sure that it won't ruin anything and if you love him with all your heart and it feels right, then it's not a bad thing. But if you're happy without it and if you like the place you're in right now in your relationship, don't do it. Wait until it's perfect!
2007-01-05 00:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by julka323 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If fine to be ready at 16. I was. Just make sure you really are ready, and your not doing it just for him. If you do then you may regret it later. If your questioning if your ready or not then your probably not.
When you do decide to have sex make sure he goes slow and doesn't rush you. Make sure you use protection, at least a condom but better if you use a condom AND birth control. If you don't want your parents to know your going to be sexually active then tell them that your period is irregular and your family doctor will put you on birth control. That's what I did at 16.
The main thing is to make sure you are ready. You need to be positive you are! The last thing you want is to have sex for the first time for the wrong reason and regret it later. I've seen so many girls do that. Don't make that mistake. If your boyfriend loves you the way he says he does, then he will wait for you to be ready.
Good luck! Make sure you use the proper protection!
2007-01-05 00:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by Positively Pink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care for your boyfriend, and you really feel like it's the right thing to do, then do it. But, don't do it because he might be pressuring you, because that is not a good reason to start getting touchy. I've been dating a guy for 4 months, and I'm almost 16. I love him with all my heart, and I care for him very very much. I feel ready to be intimate with him because of that. So, if you feel that way with your guy, and you feel ready, then go for it. And make sure to be on the pill(or some other form of birth control) and that he's wearing a condom. Also! Make sure one of you knows how to put on a condom properly, because if not, it could cause problems later.
2007-01-05 00:39:55 · answer #4 · answered by orlirox13 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See dear.. Few people just move ahead on their first date.. few people wait for an year.. so its not we who can decide.. we can only suggest.. i would ve loved to know if he s the first guy in ur life or how attracted u feel towards him.. See if u both love each other seriously ( which is difficult at 16 but possible), go ahead.. it may be too early but i guess it ll make ur relationship more intense n u both ll be ready to share anything and everything with each other.. It ll be like entering a new phase with him..but if u r not ready, don jump into it just because he wishes for it.. take ur own time, listen to ur heart.. Good luck!
2007-01-05 00:45:50 · answer #5 · answered by sneha 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darling you need to read this book boundries in dating by John Mcloud. You are not ready for sex at sixteen. You have to consider the consequences.
teenage boys and men children think with a diffrent head than women. That is hormones talking about sex. True love waits.
There is std. when you go to bed with a guy you . they are passing little critters on to you from every woman oor guy they have been with. Guys like to talk to! They get with their friends and brag! What if you get pregant? you have sentenced yourself to a life of poverty and your baby too, not to mentioned the effects it has on your body and stretch marks. you have to think about the future. What if he broke up with you? How would you feel. That first time is special and you can never get it back!
If he loved you he would wait till he was a man where he could take care of you and put a ring on your finger. Men fall in and out of love easy! You can be hurt so bad here and ruin your life ! Go talk to the school guidence couselor or a trusted adult. Please read that book! My daughter thought she was in love with this guy at school. She slept with him. got pregent ! Guess who went off to college and a new girl. it happens all the time. guess who is raising her baby. Me and her. She dosnt go out with friends, all our money goes to the baby! are you ready for the consequenes of your choices. If you protect yourself by saying no ! you are covered either way, and if he is the right person he will only love and respect you more . If he is immature and maybe a nice quy but not the right one. You would had saved yourself him a lot of heartache. Usually it is the woman who gets hurt ! Take care. God bless
2007-01-05 00:51:15 · answer #6 · answered by tennessee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Bri,
I was almost 17 when I first had sex. I was ready too.
If you think you're ready to try something (whatever it may be), you are the only person who can decide any different! :)
It is certainly OK to feel ready.
2007-01-05 00:40:38 · answer #7 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The touching WILL lead to Sex, and if you think you are ready for a Baby I would stear clear of that..................... this is a strong decision to make and like the advice I was given when I was younger don't do anything with anyone you can not see spending the REST of your life with. Good luck.
2007-01-05 00:39:48 · answer #8 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having sex is a very emotional thing. If you can handle the fact that he more than likely won't be the man that you marry giving your age than go for it. But if you have to ask than your not ready.
2007-01-05 00:43:52 · answer #9 · answered by mia w 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
By the sounds of it you do not appear to be 100% sure. Losing your virginity needs to be something you consider for a while. I'm not saying you don't love him or he doesn't love you. The time has to be right, you know!? Take things slow...there isn't a rush. You will know when its the right time.
2007-01-05 00:41:38 · answer #10 · answered by ←Shea→ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋