rejection and how do i get over it, i still cry alone?

Question

i had this crush since we were elementary, until highschool until 2nd year college, i dont see him everyday, but he left special memories and i took it as a sign that he likes me too, but i was so wrong, i wrote and told him what i felt inside, he did not reply or anything, i was just so devastated by it
i ended up thinking i made it up
he told me loved me, but men do that
it was all a joke to him
but all i felt was real
im still crying whenever i remember it,
i dont like him anymore , its just that it cut my heart
what could i do to get back on track
i seem to have lost interest in relationships because of him

Answer 1

I had the same problem...it was my first time in college, my first class, suddenly he walked in, we locked eyes for a few sec. We made A LOT of eye contact, but never approached. I liked him for a year. I decided about a month ago to write him an anonymous poem, through his profile website. In the profile it said he was single.. was he even curious to know who I was?? No, he did not even said thank you!! I decided to reveal myself, and I wrote him a letter. Did he say thank you?? No he did not...what a jerk! I don't derserve him, he is not worth my time. I can't believe I wasted my time on someone who did not appreciate on what I did. At least a thank you, not interested. Don't worry, other guys will come. At least you know that he is not interested, new year=new start!! I cried also, so cry as much as you can...let it all out!!

Answer 2

Oh the heartbreak of "the first love". Have you ever heard time heals all wounds? Well, not all but most. That's a lot of time to spend caring about someone, but I'll tell you, the absolute worst feeling in the world is truely loving someone that can't truely love you back.

Just to be sure that you did not mistake his "no reply", and to make sure all your suffering is justified, go talk to him. Face to face. Tell him how you feel, tell him what happened, and what it made you think. Men don't think like women do. He might not realize that by not replying he has completely broken your heart. You should give him the benefit of the doubt before assuming the worst of him.

If the reaction is the same when you talk to him face to face, then say good bye. Keep the good memories, the old will fade with time. In the meantime, while your heart is healing, keep yourself busy. Very busy. The quickest way to get over a guy is to get a new one. That's not always the right way though. If getting angry helps, then get angry. Just be sure you can control the anger. Never let it control you.

Answer 3

First off sorry about what happened....

Now, sounds like the guy got scared! Lets face it, at your age you're pretty mature, able to write your feelings down and share them - he, well he is like 16yrs old maturity wise when it comes to deep personal relationship.... let me say it another way - take a 45 year old women, when she was your age she had the same maturity level as you do right now - now the boys are another story - this is true - when the 45 yr old man was your boy friends age he had the maturity level of a man about 28 years old today.... that is a fact.

Sounds like you're ready and he isn't - so don't worry about it! Be glad that you have the capacity to be in love and able to share your love!!!

Time for you to upgrade!!!

and maybe in a couple of years your life long friend and first love will grow-up and realize before it is toooooo late.... but remember sounds like he needs to be at least 25-28 before I would ever trust him.... be smart when he sees you dating cause he'll come running back to you...

Answer 4

Although this hasn't happened to me I really think the guy you liked wasn't all you might of thought. If you were ever to have a good relationship you need trust and a person who does that to some1 isn't worth it. You might feel crushed and every does when something like this happens just hang in there for some1 will show themselves as the right person, no matter what :)

Answer 5

Aww I'm so sorry, I've honestly experienced the same thing. This may be hard right now, but always remember that you're a beautiful, intelligent, independent, self-respecting girl, and one day a decent guy will respect you for that.

Answer 6

Having your heart broken is very traumatic, no matter the circumstances or your age when it happens!

You will have pain for awhile, and don't try to deny it. Just realize that it will lessen and that one day it won't feel nearly as bad as it does now.

And one day you will find true love with someone who returns your feelings.

Answer 7

WELL, IT SEEMS HE WAS JUST USING YOU, THAT IS JUST MY OPINION, BUT JUST MOVE ON IT TOOK U A LONG TIME TO REALIZE THIS BUT LESSONS R HARD, THAT IS WHY WE LIVE AND LEARN. GO OUT WITH YOUR FRIENDS, GO TO CLUBS GET CRAZY GO DANCING GET DRUNK , YOU R TO YOUNG TO BE IN SUCH STATE. YOUR ONLY YOUNG ONCE!!!!!!!!!!! I KNOW BEEN IN THE SAME SPOT WHAT A WAIST OF 4 YRS.GO HAVE FUN THERE R PLENTY OF MEN TO GO AROUND . I GREW UP AT THE BEACH IN DAYTONA , SPRING BREAK GREAT GO THERE YOU WILL FORGET ALL ABOUT IN 1 DAY OR GO TO CANCUN LIVE A LITTLE.

Answer 8

we should never let a rejection steal our future, and make us think less of ourselves, just because one person doesn't want us. life is long, and we are made to share that life with someone, if we let one relationship ruin it for us, we will grow old and butter, and when we look back on what we did with our life, we have nothing but a bunch of regrets, all we see is that we wasted our life, all because someone once rejected us.

Answer 9

IM SORRY FOR HOW YOU FEEL. IT DOES HURT WHEN
YOUR LOVE IS NOT RETURNED. IT FEEL LIKE YOUR HEART
WILL NEVER MEND. BUT IT WILL. IT JUST TAKE TIME TO
DEAL WITH WHAT HAPPEN. BUT AS YOU SEE THE SUN
WILL SHINE AND YOU WILL FIND THAT HAPPINESS IS
'JUST AROUND THE CORNER. SO TAKE THIS AS A LESSON
AND MOVE ON. TRUST ME IT WILL GET BETTER. GOD BLESS.

Answer 10

You will get over him - seems like you are still pretty young - you will find someone better - no use crying - get out and have fun