that are under this catergory as well.
I can come up with solutions so quickly when it's someone else asking for advice, anywhere...even on Yahoo!Answers but I find it hard to know what I want for myself??
2007-01-04 16:07:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is true for everyone, you are not alone. The reason I think is that when we answer others problems we are not emotionally attach to the problem, we look at it objectively and suggest really feasible answers. If others chose your answers as best and take your advice, it is proof that you are actually an intelligent and good human being. It is just that in case of your own problems, you are having another input: emotions.
I have tries it in past, detach emotionally first and then think of the solution. If you can do it, you have the solution. If you can't, you ask others.
2007-01-04 16:12:55 · answer #1 · answered by Infinite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy because you are able to lay aside the jumbled emotions and think rationally, whereas the person experiencing the problem has to deal with the emotions. When they're your own problems... you're the one dealing with the emotions.
Even by answering THIS question, I somewhat prove my point. I too have no problem figuring out what someone else should do, but I always have to ask my friend's advice for my own problems. And they always have great answers. And I know that the same thing happens to me for the same reason it happens to you.
But it still doesn't mean I can change that about myself. Neither can you, unless you learn to turn off your emotions, and that's really not what you're after at all, is it?
2007-01-04 16:17:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually we don't solve the problems of the world. We make suggestions. When it comes to ourselves, we are dealing with the specifics of our own life and we know that we may very well have to act upon the solution. Suggesting is a lot easier than doing.
2016-05-23 04:57:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel and I am sure that there are others that feel the same way...
There is a saying,'that you cannot see the forest through the trees', meaning that when you are in a situation, it is hard to see, a way out or a solution, but when you hear others and thier problems you have a a different view and you can be more objective...
Would it not be great if we could see our own solutions as clearly as we see others?
2007-01-04 16:12:44 · answer #4 · answered by Mechelle C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we are emotionally detached it is much easier to see problems and their solutions.
When it comes to our own problems our perspective is often clouded by our feelings. It can be very hard to accept what is rather than how we would like things to be, especially when it comes to other people and how they act.
Detachment and the ability to look at situations, circumstances and people for what they are rather then how we want them to be are the key to solving our own problems. Codependency, people pleasing and fantasy often prevent us from looking at our situations objectively.
Sometimes it helps me to ask what advice I would give to another person in the same situation. It is not always easy and it also helps if I write out the problem in the third person and then write a response to that person.
2007-01-04 16:20:54 · answer #5 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because we don't put as much thought into possible consequences when answering others' questions than when trying to solve our own problems. Also, we usually know more of the small details relating to our own problems, which might make our troubles seem more complicated and need more thought.
2007-01-04 16:11:11 · answer #6 · answered by Rach 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are all hypocrites.
or maybe your problems are just totally weird scary problems that no one can figure out.
what i would do, is treat myself like a stranger, and pretend that i was asking myself. post it on yahoo! answers, but instead of having anyone answer it, answer it yourself. ok well i know you can't do that, but just write it down then or something.
follow your own advice.
ask yourself what you would say if someone with a yahoo! answers question asked it.
get what i'm saying?
2007-01-04 16:10:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving advice is much easier than using your own advice for your own problems. It's like saying something is easier than actually doing what you said.
2007-01-04 16:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens with everyone.......even with me
While answering in Yahoo..... u r a 3rd person and can think broadly but when having ur own problem u r not
U r not able to think that way
2007-01-04 16:10:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's not you asking for advise.Truthfully you know the answers to any questions you already have. You just don't listen to yourself but don't worry we all go through it at one time or another.It's always easier to give than receive.
2007-01-04 16:13:35 · answer #10 · answered by tastyflow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋