My boyfriend who lives in the same city as me, thinks seeing me once a week is enough quality time. He's a great boyfriend other than this issue that we have. I feel 3 times a week is ideal. That gives him 4 days to spend with friends or alone. I know there isn't a right answer but he thinks since we talk a few times a day on the phone and see each other one-two nights (which most times he falls asleep during) is sufficiant. I feel he has too much power in this relationship and how can I get some of the power back? And how much is enough?
2007-01-04 16:04:32 · 8 answers · asked by farrenbrooke1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In a relationship where two people really care about each other and enjoy being together, there shouldn't be a definite number or limit. It's good and healthy for couples to spend enough quality time as well as time apart to do their own thing and be with friends and family. It can be an issue when one wants more than the other. You two need to talk about it and maybe come to a compromise where the both of you will be happy with.......... Good luck!
2007-01-04 16:15:34 · answer #1 · answered by artutina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I see each other about 2 times a week...sometimes less, sometimes more. We both have separate lives and don't do everything together. I have my own hobbies and he has his and then we have things that we do together. Don't make a schedule to see each other unless you work opposite shifts and you pretty much need to. Take the time you have alone as a blessing to do things that you enjoy.
2007-01-04 16:10:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thinks that he can get you whenever he wants you. I don't really think it's an issue of control, but it's more about valuing you enough. Do you always say yes when he decides on that 1 day he wants to see you? Make yourself unavailable sometimes! guys love independant women who are busy and happy...it makes them feel lucky that you're making time in your life for them.
once you make yourself more of a treasure, he'll see your value and he'll want to spend more time with you.
However, if this doesn't seem to work, then he just isn't interested in you enough...in that case, you deserve better!
2007-01-04 16:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by julka323 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that ..like you said 3 times a week is good. Once a week doesnt really seem like a relationship..nor does it give it lots of time to grow. Try telling him you'd like to see him more and maybe plan something to go do instead of sitting at home (that way he wont fall asleep) go to a movie, museum, art gallery, theme park, out to dinner! Maybe even something simple as the park :)
2007-01-04 16:09:11 · answer #4 · answered by g00dapple 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a two way street - there should not be a power thing - you could try to ignore him sometimes too
2007-01-04 16:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think once is enough... I'd say at least 2 times a week!
2007-01-04 16:07:19 · answer #6 · answered by ~♥Jade♥~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never enough in your heart...2 or 3 times a month, face to face, that's enough, indeed~
2007-01-04 16:08:13 · answer #7 · answered by chloe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyday min:a look and a smile
max: 2hrs
2007-01-04 16:06:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋