I Have a friend that always talk about another friend what should I do.?

Question

She Sas things like thats why she got a retarted mother........
She needs to do her hair..........
Shes so ugly........
Which she does look at mess
The other girl is so sweet what shoukd I tell this jerk

Answer 1

Tell him to go take a hike or even ruder than that.

He is probably saying the same things about you to others

Answer 2

That "sweet friend" of your's is not at all sweet but a backstabbing sort who is a true friend to none, in my opinion.
I would probably say "Funny, that's what others are probably saying about YOU."
Then I would simply point out that no one has the right to talk c-r-a-p about others, especially if they do not know them well.
I might add, those who make such rude remarks are usually feeling inferior, and then ask what area her inferiorites are in.
If all that didn't work, I would finally point out I have better things to do than discuss others appearance or family.
--That Cheeky Lad

Answer 3

If you are real friends I would think you should be able to get her to understand that friends should make a friend feel good about her self. Be a friend, talk about your idea of friendship. Explain to her how important it is to trust your friends. If she still doesn't get it talk to her as a friend and strait up tell her that you don't like how she talks behind her back. Maybe you two can plan a get together and give your friend a makeover. That's what a real friend should do. Friendship is so important her home life,her mother is not something she has control over. I wish you luck!

Answer 4

Refuse to listen to her chatter when it is unacceptable by changing the subject.............that is the problem...too many people permit her to talk like that.....so she is very comfortable stating her opinion...if she persist say....that is not a subject that interest me.....

That gives her the feedback she needs

People who engage in this behavior feel putting down others make them feel better......too bad others did not correct her earlier because she will lose a lot friends over the years....get into problems as word get back to the person she talks about

Most likely she learned this from an adult when she was growing up.....

Good luck

Answer 5

Just say you don't want to hear that. Once she knows you have zero tolerance for that kind of talk, she will either stop it or stop calling entirely. Then ask yourself what you have in common with a person with such little class. Surely there are other things in the world to discuss rather than rude gossip.

Answer 6

People who bad mouth others bad mouth everyone, in my experience. She is probably saying negative things about you, to others. She is not your friend. Tell her you like the one she's talking about, and don't want to hear her negative remarks. Then make a point of spending time with the sweet friend.

Answer 7

Defend the girl that is being trash talked and really shove it down this other girls throat that she is mean.

But this girl is only trash talking because she is insecure about her self so feels the need to talk bad about someone else to make her feel better.

Answer 8

Just say, "I guess when I'm not around, you probably gossip about me, too. It's hard to be friends with someone who talks behind your back." The person will probably say "Oh no, I don't talk about you." Just keep saying something like, "It's hard to think otherwise." Or, "Here we go again with the gossip! Can't we find something else to talk about?" Just keep at it . Eventually your gossip will get your message.

Answer 9

Tell her to save her breath, you're tired of hearing negative stuff. Who died and left her Hall Monitor? And ask her what she says about *you* to others! (Better yet, ask other mutual friends...) If she disses on a girl you know is sweet, you can bet she's gossipping about you behind your back too.

Answer 10

Look her in the face and say, "Do you have the guts to tell our friend any of this?"

She'll likely get angry or say, "No."

With either reaction, you can very simply say, "If you don't have the courage to say this stuff to our friend's face, then I would rather you not say it to me."

Take yourself out of the equation, and avoid being guilty by association.