There is this girl at myhusbands work who I have noticed seems to flirt with him alot. When I go to pick him up or take him to lunch she is ALWAYS nearby, and she stands abnormally close to him. SHe usually gives me dirty looks, and is always talking to him, and the two of them are always laughing. Today when I went to pick him up she was standing near him, and when I came up she walked passed him and hit him in the shoulder with her shoulder, hard enough to jolt him a bit. HE ignored it, but I thought it was extremely odd, as if she were angry at my presence. He shows no signs of having an affair. He is tentative, and affectionate with me, and other than smiling at her flirtation, I am not sure he would actually cheat. Her actions however, make me want to pound her. Is my intense anger at her flirtation, and obvious anger at my presence unnatural, or do I have a right to want to pummel this girl?
2007-01-04 15:55:28 · 11 answers · asked by rebecca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
since she keeps doin it somthing is making her keep doing it, she getting satisfaction in some way. im thinking your husband is allowing it to happen and she prob feels that she has a chance to break you guys up. You need to have a serious talk with your husband and dont yell or criticize, hear his side and be very alert at his body language and speech
2007-01-04 16:01:04 · answer #1 · answered by 23aisena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something sounds a lil fishy between the TWO of them. I think you have evry right to want to kick her booty! I would. But that is definitely not the way to go about this situation. Ask your husband if he flirts back with her. Maybe something really is going on and if he says that he dont like her like that or flirt with her then maybe you need to tell him to introduce the two of you... he he awkward situation I know but that is what I would do then afterwards then you can give her all the dirty looks.
2007-01-04 16:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to Jim and Linds. Tell your husband that as a woman, you know what she is up to and it is inappropriate behavior and you want him to stop it by 1. talking to her (and firmly, not all pitifully-like) 2. talking to her boss, because this is also very unprofessional. 3. if no one at work wants to do anything about it, as is often still the case with female/male sexual harassment, he can call your state govt to see if there is a human rights commissioner who can intervene. (I don't know what they might be called where you live, but you get the idea)
2007-01-04 16:20:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i ever saw an unknown woman smiling and laughing with my fiance, i would jump on her in a second. but that's me 8)
if it bothers you, talk to your husband about it. tell him you feel uncomfortable around her and her being so close to him and although you know that he wouldn't do anything, tell him how you're afraid her intentions are not pure.
this is tough because i've seen both cases of what could be happening, the innocent and the not so innocent.
2007-01-04 16:05:04 · answer #4 · answered by lilu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to confront your husband. tell him he may not be having an affair but the way he acts around this girl is unacceptable!! he's married and he damn well better start acting like it! he is the one who needs to put an end to this! he needs to tell the girl to stop behaving like a slut and grow up! tell him to end this or he's sleeping on the couch for a long time!! GOOD LUCK!!
2007-01-04 16:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all why are you pickin up ur husband and takin him to lunch..can he dont do these things on his own? and yeah kick her in the face! hes a married man n should respect that fact but if she cant i say u pull her hair out... i can help u just tell me where she lives...
2007-01-04 16:01:30 · answer #6 · answered by sandyscheeks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes pound her in 2 the ground
2007-01-04 15:58:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wud soon. Dont worry. Its an issue of timing and place.
2007-01-04 15:58:25 · answer #8 · answered by knightgown_2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't do anything, your husband needs to grow a backbone and deal with her.
2007-01-04 16:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by Jim V 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like they share some sort of "secret bond" -like not that he has cheated on you, but that he has shared intimate details of your relationship or problems that you've had, like "she" wants you to be jealous to make her feel better type of thing......?!?!?!?!?
2007-01-04 16:01:11 · answer #10 · answered by Virgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋