Thank you for all the responses I have gotten so far. To answer some of your questions about his son and him thinking I am taking to long, he is 21 years old and he does have things already. Right after he made the decision to stop trying to recessitate him, I gave him his fathers cross I was wearing that he had asked me to wear for him since he couldn't while he was hospitalized. I told his son that his dad wanted him to have it and I put it on him. He also has some of the RC Trucks that we had at the funeral on the memorbilia table. He never gave them back to me and I haven't asked for them back. I recently gave him 2 of his fathers guns that had belonged to his grandfather. What he wants is for me to let him pack up all the RC Trucks and parts and just hand them over to him. He thinks he should get all of it and I paid for most of it. I plan to give him some, but not all, as I will need to sell some of it, which he doesn't want me to do. He feels he is intitled to it.
2007-01-04 15:46:15 · 4 answers · asked by fran 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The Pope is "right on the mark". I read your previous question pertaining to this matter and I do understand you were with him for 7 years and loved him dearly. However, this was the boys father for 21 years...let him have the stuff, especially if you are going to sell some of it? What is that..you said you loved having his things around you in the first post, but you want to sell it? If you need money, sell something of yours, not something his son has a sentimental attachment to. If his son goes on to have children, he can also pass some of these things down and learn their grandfather loved these things. As much as I feel for your loss, I have to side here and say pass the stuff onto the son. While you were in a relationship with this man, you were not married and really not legally entitled to his stuff. I am all for keeping sentimental things in the family, and why harbor harsh feelings or cause a rift between you and his son...you knew him for along time too and you wouldn't want to hurt him. If the RC trucks mean that much and you are going to sell some of it anyway, that isn't right. How much can it really mean to you if it's off to the highest bidder? Like I said, if you need money, sell some of your own items.
2007-01-04 17:13:01 · answer #1 · answered by P H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you paid for, take. The things that are sentimental to his son, give to his son. Harsh as this is, you weren't married to the man and it was the boy's father. If he remembers his dad loving it, or it was a major part of his childhood it should go to him. If there is no significance of the object, you should take it.
2007-01-04 23:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by The Pope 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when my Dad passed away, I really only wanted a few sentimental things....but when you say you need to sell it, how badly do you really need to sell it, maybe it would just be better to give it to the son and not create an issue over it?
2007-01-04 23:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the pope, you weren't married and the child is entitled to all his dad's things.
2007-01-04 23:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋