Does anyone have any experience growing up with emotionally abusive parents?

Question

If so would you mind sharing some of your experiences, how you coped, do you still talk to them? I'm so sad right now, I feel very alone, I just thought it might make me feel better if I knew other people could relate. Thanks

Answer 1

yes, I was emotionally abused for years by my mother. My father was never there. She played head games with me and worked to alienate me from everyone in my family. She would make up lies about me and then call everyone she knew to tell them how horrible I was (I was 6 when this started.) She would talk about me while I was in the room and I was never allowed to defend myself.
She would tell me every single day that I was lazy, selfish and that I liked to hurt her. She often threatened to send me to foster care. She called me a liar and would beat me for the "lies" she claimed I was telling. She would often beat me repeatedly because I would not admit to "lying." She would tell my siblings not to talk to me.

I am now 37 and she still makes up lies about me. She has managed to turn my entire family against me. I am not invited to family gatherings. My aunt talked to me last year and said that I needed to "beg my mother for forgiveness"....although she can't seem to explain exactly what my sins are. She TELLS them that I talk badly about her, however NONE of them have ever heard me do this. Do you think they could put that together? Nope.

Ok...so that is the basics on my life. I am totally FINE today, but it was a long road. I had to spend a lot of time in prayer and I made a decision that I would not become bitter. I refuse to allow this to poison the rest of my life. She had me trapped for the first part of my life, but I am free now. I don't invite her to my house, I only talk about surface things with her. I have let years go by without speaking to her at all. I picture a wall around my heart and she is never getting in there.

I have no idea if this helps. God bless.

Answer 2

You are definitely not alone.

I cannot tell you in detail about my experiences but to give you an idea, I was 3 months pregnant and the constant abuse from my inlaws caused me enough stress and trauma to experience a miscarriage from falling and rolling down a series of stairs because of unconciousness.

My husband and his sister both grew up watching their mother be the victim of physical and emotional abuse from their father and their mother inturn inflicted emtional and physical on her two kids.

I have been at the receiving end too but no more. I used to take my kids over to their place but they would start figthing, cursing, throwing things at each other and banging everything around the house and my husband used to tell me, I told you.

Communicate with your parents. How old are you? if you are old enough then go away from home. be independent and get the shackles off your feet and run far away from them. If they had to learn and change they would have done yesteryears ago but they haven't, so they won't.

Thats what my husband and his sister did. Now the parents are feeling lonely and realises their mistake.

Answer 3

My mother was a drug addicted alcoholic, though they ment well my grandparents raised my brother and I. They were always on me about my weight and what I should and should not eat. Though I was on the swim team in high school and in Marching band as well as walking home from school everyday (a good mile and a half), they still thought I was fat (I wasn't though, I look at pictures now and damn I'd give almost anything to have that body back again). I know that they didn't mean to mess with my 15 year old brain at the time and help turn me into an overeater, but it still happend. The first thing I did when I went grocery shopping for myself was buy EVERYTHING I wasn't allowed to eat at home. I forgive them for what they would always say to me, but I am still fighting the repercussions.

Answer 4

Unfortunately, yes.
My father was an abusive alcoholic.
My grandmother is a bipolar mean mean mean person, who has split her entire family (7 kids, 25 grandkids) in half.
It sucks. Makes you feel worthless. The good thing is: you realize the entire world isn't like that; once you're 18, move to college far away & start your life over w/o a psycho negative person.
Realize that it's not your fault, and you can't do anything about it. You can never please these people and they'll never change. Be supportive to your siblings & whoever else is going through it. Spend lots of time w/ your friends & if you need to, talk to a psychologist.

I don't talk to either one; I did; gave them about 100 "last chances". I feel guilty about it sometimes (which is stupid), but most of the time I'm happier to not have to deal with them.

Answer 5

I'm 50. I stayed away from my family for 15 years before I started talking to my mother. (my father died) I have a brother who still won't talk to anyone, a sister no one can find, and another sister who just got out of alcohol rehab. We survived, but not very well.

Answer 6

hey sorry to here that but thats how my dad is lol and through years i have learned to ignore him. You know i am always doing something when he is yelling at me or something and that helps a lot and well find something you like that takes you mind off of things.
take care