Why are women so crazy ?

Question

I am 31....good looking very deep have a career, and a affectionate person to almost all people. A few of my friends have even sad " You care about everybody " I meet women and its always a nightmare...They play games..breakup dont know what they want. etcc....I always think every girl is trustworthy and I get played out...I am smart but I fall for this non sense every time and I always get hurt...I am thinking about making myself a shield and never allow emotions to play a role in a relationship again..and use women for sex...I can afford to buy them nice stuff and have a realtionship like that..In short I think I am becoming the person I never wanted to become. I would love to have one girl to love and cherish..But I am becoming to the point I view women as objects..I feel bad

Answer 1

Understanding women is like nailing Jello to a tree

Answer 2

If this happens to you every time, maybe you should consider that you are drawn to the wrong type of woman and start being more selective. It seems as though you are in a "rut" or "pattern" of dating women who play all the games and are unsure of their own needs. Are you dating within a certain age group? Younger women, especially in their early 20's tend to be more insecure and immature. Are you meeting your dates in the same places, such as bars? Maybe you should consider that you need to be more selective, look for women who are more mature (and by that, I don't mean Old) and have more going for them, like a career and interests and hobbies other than partying, etc. Someone more intellectual and more confident in herself. Girls who have to play 'games' usually do not have a very high self-esteem, even if they come across as thinking that they are God's gift to mankind. Date outside of your normal "type" and you just may find the woman you are looking for. Also, who says you have to jump right into a relationship with a woman that you date? There is nothing wrong with just going out a few times first with no strings attached (i.e no sex, which just confuses things) and see if you have anything in common, if she has a brain, a personality, etc. We aren't all crazy, I promise. I can tell you from experience, I am 34 and I am a whole different person now than I was in my 20's. I am much more confident, relaxed, happy, and "together" than I was a few years ago. Good luck too you! You will find that special woman without having to become a person you don't like:)

Answer 3

I think you are either dating the wrong kinds of women, or YOU are the problem. At what point do these ladies supposedly hurt you? What causes women to dislike you? Perhaps you are a whiner who doesnt let stuff go. Ive met really nice guys who would make wonderful party friends but fail in the relationship department because of a few character flaws. You must be choosing to do something incorrectly that causes people to feel a certain way about you. Examine what that could be, before assuming that every woman is out to wrong you some how.

Answer 4

I think it depends on the person you see. For me, I was in a similar situation, I was never treated good by guys, always seen as somebody who could be used for sex (I'm a big girl so most of the people I know didn't want to date me for that reason or felt that I'd be an easy lay).... I hated it but it was what I knew so I went with the bad relationships though I always found reasons to break up with them and then beat myself up over it. Then one day I found a guy who treated me well, though he didn't have a lot of money or much to offer financially, I fell in love with him for the simple things, like being treated nice and having soembody to tell me nice things and not have it be for sex or whatever....

I'm sure you'll find a girl who will love you for you and who won't be an airhead and hurt you. Perhaps a new year will bring a new change in your love life.
I know it's hard to change a way you become, as we're all creatures of habbit, but try to see these women as people not as objects anymore. Put up your wall and protect yourself but don't be mean or childish and stop doing things that are making you feel bad. Be patient and I'm sure you'll find a girl who wants to be with you for the right reasons....probably when you're not looking for it too!

Good luck.

Answer 5

Well,
Something isn't working for you. Your job is to find out why and make some changes. But before that you need to decide if all women are crazy or if you are either relating to them poorly or picking women poorly. Sounds like the whole process is wearing you out too - you like women, but your bad experiences are jading your view of them.

Answers seems like the place to come for all kinds of opinions, so hear is mine.

1. Get a copy of Boundaries by Drs Cloud & Townsend. The book will give you the tools to firmly and respectfully stand your ground, when necessary, when women act up and play games. It will also give you insight on your own behavior - how to be respectful, yet firm.
http://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Dr-Henry-Cloud/dp/0310247454/sr=8-1/qid=1167969261/ref=pd_bbs_1/104-6781016-9197524?ie=UTF8&s=books

2. Get a copy of Wild at Heart by John Eldridge. It will better help you understand the world from your perspective - a man's perspective. The book will make even more sense after you read the next book.

3. Get a copy of Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's Soul by John & Staci Eldridge. This book will help you understand the motivation of women. The book shares the secret that women will never come out and tell you directly. You'll understand women and their actions better than you ever have before. "Wild at Heart" will give you the contrast.
http://www.amazon.com/Captivating-Unveiling-Mystery-Womans-Soul/dp/0785264698/sr=1-1/qid=1167969955/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/104-6781016-9197524?ie=UTF8&s=books

4. Lastly, get a copy of The Personality Disorders by David J Robinson. It's a very short book. It will help you quickly recognize women with issues. All I can say is "who the h&*l needs that!" It's a very brief book and it will help you recognize and avoid women (and people) with issues that would ruin your life.
http://www.amazon.com/Personality-Disorders-Explained-2nd/dp/1894328264/sr=1-1/qid=1167969804/ref=pd_bbs_1/104-6781016-9197524?ie=UTF8&s=books

Lastly, women are too cute to give up on - so learn the game and then be the man!! Everything will fall in place and you'll be much happier.

Good Luck

Answer 6

I think the problem isn't you or your way of going about dating. It might just me the type of women you date. You might want to try getting to know each other before getting too emotionally involved. I know this might be hard to take because I'm a woman, but trust me. Also try looking outside your comfort zone and try a new type of woman, or a woman you already have written off just by looks or whatever other reason, You choose. Best of Luck!! And hope you find your " perfect woman " :)

Answer 7

you should have been this way earlier.you are a simp; trying to buy women's happieness is never the way to go. thats not what they want, that's not what women want, but only shallow gold digger types.

a women wants a strong, confident man, who has backbone. they dont want another girlfriend. i bet your "friends" who say you care about everyone are all women. let me tell you if you want to get further with women dont show them your cards. they need the reassurance of not really knowing what your thinking, keep the women on there toes and they stay. your 31 but at least your learning this lesson know.

i want you to take a challenge, next time you go out tell one woman she looks beautiful and tell one woman, i think you'd look better if you wore your hair up after a bit of conversation. see who responds to you better. you need to make these woman qualify there selves to you becuase you are the prize.

Answer 8

Unfortunately there are a lot of women who think that material things show them how much you care for them. You need to find someone who enjoys the simple things in life. They may be hard to find, but they are out there. Don't get me wrong, as all women like nice things, but you can do little inexpensive things to show them how you feel. If they don't appreciate it then they are not worth your time and trouble.

Answer 9

whatever u did to girls in the past its coming back to bite u in the a**! but u shouldmt worry about those females, its just taking u time to find a good one, but when u do find her u'll be glad that u went through all that trouble to get to her! Just give everyone a fair chance, yea u may come across some bad apples but dont let them stop u from finding a good 1. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 10

you probably get attracted to these type of women so you never find the right one. try going for someone who is the opposite of what you're usually looking for. and sometimes maybe its not them. i mean you may think you're like almost the perfect guy or a decent guy but i mean not all girls like that or can take that. maybe you don't offer them certain things you know? flowers, candies, gifts are nice but sometimes us girls just want some excitement and romance in our lives. take her to a hill and lay on the roof of your car and jes stare at the sky with her. woman are just as crazie as men are you just have to learn to figure em out

Answer 11

Each time a woman leaves you, do they explain to you why? If you have the answers, you will need to work around it so that the next time a woman comes to your life, it wouldn't be a repeat. You need to change your attitude towards women; they shouldn't be treated as objects. If you continue with this attitude, eventually you're be hurt more!