since new years eve my ex hasnt said a word to me n hasnt messaged me on my phone, but yesterday, i saw him at the petrol station.... anyway he always says this phrase to people "what do u wana do with your life" as a joke so since i have the same hair as him sort of i decided to be a total smart *** and imitate him... anyway he got angry so i flogged his sunglasses n he chased after me into the girls toilets and he started hitting me...... everyone saw it, then the cops turned up... i didnt want to charge him so i told the cops not to and now my friends have ditched me because i didnt charge him and he still isnt talking to me... did i do the right thing by not charging him? im so confused! please help!
2007-01-04 14:33:16 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to make details clear im 16 hes 17 n we went out for 10 months and yes he has hit me before
2007-01-04 14:43:30 · update #1
does him hitting me mean he still has feelings for me... otherwise he wouldnt be so angry would he..?
2007-01-04 14:50:01 · update #2
first you got to understand that his hitting you was because he is still feeling the hurt from your relationship. You imitating him just shows that really and truly, he has made an impact on your life and you also miss him. this will probably be the reason why you didn't press charges on him either. I think what you need to do is just sit and think a little on this relationship and see if there is some way you can either get over it or get him back. You need to do something real quick so as not to lose out on what you really want in life. You also need to act mature and show him you respect him even if you don't want anything further to do with him. In any case you should not let any man hit you. It is wrong and you should never let it happen. Its the start for more serious actions including -HOMICIDE
2007-01-04 14:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by osito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, him hitting you does not mean he still has those feelings of love or anything like it. The only feeling he has is anger. He seems to have a lot of built up rage. He needs some help and you are not the one to give it to him. I have been there and speak from experience. I was there when I was your age. It is not fun. Just very confusing. You don't know what to feel and your friends have left you when you needed them most. The thing that concerns me most is you say he has do it before. Honey it doesn't just go away. You must not see him or speak to him. Let him get help and you should find someone to talk to about this. A trusted friend or adult would do. Maybe your parents could help. Just be careful. End the cycle while you still have a chance to.
Be well.
2007-01-04 15:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by Wicked Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. Remember, "No good deed goes unpunished." You need to avoid him as he may hurt you again. You have shown mercy to him in a way he didn't expect. He may be going through a harder time than you are right now. Men who hit women usually have a bigger problem and doesn't know how to solve it. You are a good person. You have done the right thing, however, if you ever feel the least bit threatened by him, get a protection order against him. That is the order that sends him to prison if he comes within 10ft of you.
2007-01-04 15:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by cardo11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he'll do it again! i actually ditched a friend for the same thing! if he did it there infront of all those cops imagine what he'll do if they werent there! he'd probraly kill u or close to it! u should've charged him that way u would be telling him that u arent afraid of him! if u would've charged him he might have called u and asked u to drop the charges! but u should never let a guy get away with hitting u!
2007-01-04 14:39:21 · answer #4 · answered by LC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let yourself be a victim. Allow yourself you get pi**ed off at people and let them get what they deserve (in your ex's case it's a ride in the back of a cop car). Let them know actions deserve consequences, and you are no longer going to be putting up with their crap. Let them push, and they are going to keep on pushing. Put your foot down and you aren't going to keep getting pushed around (not just physically either). Your self-esteem is getting trashed because of jerks like this. You can do better. If you see the ex again tell him to bring it on. You are going to grab your phone, dial 9-1 and wait for him to touch you.
Let your friends know that you aren't putting up with this crap anymore. Tell them you hope he DOES try that s**t again, because things are going down in a whole different way. They aren't mad at you just for letting the ex off the hook. They are having trouble being around you because they don't like watching you get your *** kicked by a guy and then not standing up for yourself afterwards.
I'm not sure if you can press charges against him after the fact, but you can make an incident report that will be on his record. If he does anything to you or anyone else in the future, the law enforcement will see that this isn't just an incident for the guy, but is becoming a history of violent behavior.
2007-01-04 14:51:13 · answer #5 · answered by sorcergeek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have pressed charges. No man should ever hit A woman. I mean i can see why your friends are upset. for the simple fact o one likes to see there friends in pain. So i could see why it hurt them. Girl never down grade yourself okay keep your head up and never let anyone do you like that again.
2007-01-04 14:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chillax. You could have poisoned the well along with her, so smash it off totally. It is going to by no means work with her for the reason that she already thinks you're whipped and you'll never recover from that. Gain knowledge of from this. Lesson #1, sack up!
2016-08-10 10:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be happy that he's your ex, you don't need somebody, who is hiiting you! As for the charges--it looks like you didn't feel like you should charge him, so you did what you thought was right, don't regret it and don't let your friends tell you what to do, it's your decision. Forget about the whole thing and move on!
2007-01-04 14:39:41 · answer #8 · answered by baby2007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how long you have known this person, but he sounds like a nut. Also, not a good sport. I would just let bygones be gone and that includes him. This may be the first sign that he is an abuser.
2007-01-04 14:39:14 · answer #9 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends shouldn't be mad at you for making a desicion about your own life. I feel you may not have done the right thing for yourself, but at that moment it may have seemed the right thing to do, so I wouldn't worry about the past, but if he comes at you again, next time he will know he can get away with it, so be careful. I wouldn't talk to him anymore or associate with someone if they wanted to physically hurt me.
2007-01-04 14:37:15 · answer #10 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋