I need a mature point of view on this. Serious answers only please!
see the link:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=At.89C66QaKVwaoxO8U7iSLzy6IX?qid=20070104184717AA0Wnld
2007-01-04 14:30:54 · 12 answers · asked by Heartache 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i can't cut her off my life... the hatred and pain will eat me inside for the rest of my life...
2007-01-07 09:20:51 · update #1
Here's a copy of what I wrote for you on the linked page:
Sure sounds like a seriously difficult situation. Were there any other relatives who you could turn to for assistance and guidance. That's the first recourse. Secondarily friends and neighbors may need to be consulted. Your mother's case may have required therapeutic help, if not outright commitment, as she was a danger to you and possibly herself in this situation. The church would also have been a recourse for guidance and assistance as well.
There are situations in life where we may be called upon to just walk away from and this certainly seems like it must be the case for you.
2007-01-07 08:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by Peace W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the deal. You are all grown up now and don't need to deal with her irrational **** anymore. My mother was control freak too,but not to the extent of yours. I have found that it has made my relationships with women more difficult. They ***** and I'm gone. But seriously, what women do you know, that doesn't ***** and complain about everything? This is why their are golf and bowling leagues. Because dudes want to go to the country club or the bar and get served a drink and a nice meal from the hot young waitress that works there.They feel good when they have a girl smile and treat them like a person. Most women are angry creatures especially when they get older. It's just to bad you had to be stuck in the middle of her raging hormonal dischord. If she did that much to you, then just cut her off. Not everyone is meant to get along with each other and this goes for your parents as well. Just look for a good women to make you happy. They are out their, but they aren't easy to come by.
2007-01-04 22:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by Daniel R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your hatred is hurting you more than it does her. If you choose to stay away from her, which probably sounds like it would be best; then put your energies into good things for your life. Otherwise, dear; you still live with her even if you have moved 10000 miles away. It is not easy, but making your priorities important enough to work on is the thing to help heal yourself.
2007-01-04 22:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by hopflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im srry you had a bad childhood. you said you were on zoloft maybe your mom also suffered from depression when you were young and thats y she behaved as she did. no excuse i know but just saying its possible... ok you said you are an adult now so y dont you just not talk to her anymore? you have to make yourself happy and clearly she doesnt make you happy so stay away from her and if she ever wants to know why just tell her say mom i love you because your my mom but i am just better off without you in my life .. all we do is argue and you make me feel lousy.. and i just dont need that in my life.. and then tell her say if you ever decide you want to be mom and daughter and be close like we should be and not fight then call me and we will try it... that way you have done all you can to fix the situation so the ball is now in her court and you have nothing to feel bad about so live your life and be happy good luck
2007-01-04 22:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by crazyme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You certainly have good reason to dislike or 'hate' your mom.........she and your dad sound like horrible parents...boarding school and 2 visits all the way through school???????????? I would try to get some professional help to have someone understand and hear you. A professional i would think would help you go back and get all your feelings out, then help you to go on and not let your parents even have that much control over you. You give them the power when they can make you stay so angry even though no one blames you.
2007-01-04 22:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by tafttootsie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a young person who has lost both parents(car accident, and cancer). Ask yourself why you "hate" her. My mom told me that we often don't like other people because we see the same traits in ourselves. What don't you like about her, how is that thing the same in you? What do you like about her? Rather than focus on the negative try to look at the postitive. At least you mum is still with you to guide you and help you in life.
2007-01-04 22:36:29 · answer #6 · answered by snake eyes 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay...cut her out of your life.
Move, change your phone number and don't tell your Mum your new address or phone number.....if you tell your Dad require that he not tell her, or if he does, that she not call or write.
Why is that a problem?
Once she's cut-off, stop focusing on her and your negative memories of her...do whatever you can to make your focus be as positive as it can possibly be.
2007-01-04 22:36:54 · answer #7 · answered by raxivar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember this : Hounour thy farther and mother unless they choose not to honour you : A mother is a protector of he children if she cannot protect she does not deserve the title of mother Disown her you have no need for someone that weak in your life My father was a useless peice of crap I don't give him the time of day and never will and nothing could make my life happier
2007-01-04 22:37:00 · answer #8 · answered by harro_06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like her either. Does she still dance at that club?
2007-01-04 22:33:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you go to your mothers funeral when she is dead i doubt you will be hating her then
2007-01-04 22:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by TRACER 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋