I must know. I'm sixteen, my boyfriends is seventeen. He says hes waited too long to have sex (we've dated sixteen months), but that he loves me. How long would you wait for a girl you were truly in love with??
2007-01-04 14:28:04 · 24 answers · asked by Lindsay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she is still a virgin, 1 year.
If not, then 3 months max.
2007-01-04 16:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by zotzotzot 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, he's wrong. At the age of sixteen, you should not feel pressured to have sex, no matter HOW much you like the guy. If he truly loves you, he will wait until you are completely absolutely ready. If not, then he's not worth it. guys will often say "I love you" just to get a girl to put out. But if you do it before you're ready, it's not going to make the relationship any stronger. Trust me on this one.
If I truly loved a girl, I'd wait as long as she needed.
2007-01-04 22:32:24 · answer #2 · answered by C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if love really is the issue then sex shouldn't be a concern. He's proabably getting antsy about it because well hes a guy and in high school and that age, these days it seems as if it is important for a guy to be having sex. If you want to wait then wait, Mr. Right will love you and respect all of your wishes when it comes to sex.
2007-01-04 22:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by Lexy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just 6 months. Chances are you two wont be dating in the near future. Your in high school boyfriends will come and go. And after high school there will be many relationships. Your should respect yourself and wait till true love. Not high school puppy love/lust. Wait till your at least 18 out of your parents house and out of school. Give your self time to grow and mature. Wait till your ready.
IF HE WONT WAIT HE REALLY DON'T LOVE YOU! THAT IS THE HONEST TRUTH. HE MAY LUST YOU AND BE HORNY FOR YOU BUT NOT LOVE. NOT THE RIGHT KIND OF LOVE!!!
Your only 16 you have plenty of time to have sex when your older. If he pressure you into it then hes not worth it and you will regret it.
2007-01-04 22:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's truly in love with you he'll respect the fact that you're not ready for it yet. I can't remember how long I waited on some one. If it happens it happens, I don't think its really waiting. It seems like this guy has some sort of expectation that you're going to put out for him if he bugs you enough about it. Don't do anything you feel uncomfortable with.
2007-01-04 22:32:57 · answer #5 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy, but please don't be fooled. I'm not saying that he doesn't love you, and he has been waiting a long time. However, if you're not ready, he should respect that. If he truly loves you, he will respect your decision, even if it is hard for him to accept. Please don't give in just because he's putting pressure on you. If he leaves because of this, then he doesn't really love you, and giving in to him won't make him love you anymore.
I can understand his frustration. That is a long time to wait, but if he loves you, he'll wait as long as it takes for you to be comfortable.
2007-01-04 22:33:02 · answer #6 · answered by AK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until we promised each other that we would be together forever through the promise of marriage. If a guy truly loves you, he won't want to take away your purity. Wait until you get married. A guy that won't wait for you is not worth your time.
2007-01-04 22:31:58 · answer #7 · answered by rockran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he "really" loves you, like he says he does, then waiting for sex ain't a big deal! If he "loves" you, then he wouldn't be worrying about sex or tellin you that he's waiting too long! Wait longer, if he sticks around, then he's into you; if he leaves, he was into gettin in ur pants!
2007-01-04 22:32:14 · answer #8 · answered by lndsy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 more months then you gotta do something
let him give you oral and you should at least do the same
you've got to bring him to orgasm and blow jobs are the best way to start, then when you are senior in HS and your friends lose their virginity - that's when you should go all the way, he can wait so long as he gets some - you might also tell him it's OK if he can screw someone else here and there to go ahead - it would take some of the pressure off you for now
2007-01-04 22:35:48 · answer #9 · answered by sparetom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One thing that your bf has to think about is a child coming into this world.Is he ready for that kind of commitment or will he leave and stick you with the responsibility of raising a child. I think its best to wait and go for your dreams of college or whatever you want to do maybe just chill for a while.
2007-01-04 22:50:32 · answer #10 · answered by music man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truly in love? Then you wait until she's ready. No questions asked. But he's 17 and very very horny. If you aren't ready, don't give in to pressure. If he continues to pressure you then he isn't the one to lose your virginity to anyway.
2007-01-04 22:32:09 · answer #11 · answered by ur3minutesrup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋