I met this guy on net....He is good looking takes care of him self and has a career...He is 31 I am 28. We spoke for hours and several days beofre meeting. When we met for dinner I had a good time but felt I may be able to do better with a hotter guy...He kaept calling and I was kinda blowing him off for dates and his calls..He then left a swwet msg saying how much he likes me and wanted to be friends to see what happens...however I met this guy when I was out and went home with him and turns out the relationship was all about sex and not very deep. I want to call the other guy but I was really cold the last time we spoke and he was hurt..could hear it in his voice...I think I really lost out. What should I do? What are your thoughts ?
2007-01-04 14:26:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You lost a good guy.
2007-01-04 14:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So you got the hotter guy and had sex with him and it left you cold. But the first guy is good looking, seems well adjusted, and has a future. What's your problem here? Are you shallow and only interested in "hot" guys? Don't women come down on men for being shallow and not looking beyond the outside beauty? You're real problem is you don't know what you want. Leave Mr NiceGuy alone until you mature enough to know what you want. If that seems harsh, I apologize, but sometimes hard words need saying.
2007-01-04 22:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You gambled and lost. Would you want to feel 2nd best? Sounds like the first guy deserves better than the likes of you if you were actually cold to him enough to feel he was hurt. Ask yourself what you're really looking for before you go hopping into bed or giving someone the brush off. No offense, but your actions sound kind of immature for someone who is 28....
2007-01-04 22:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by bfwh218 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You made the biggest mistake of all...thinking you could find something hotter and then what happened? You got used and abused. Hope you learned your lesson that the grass it not always greener on the other side. I'm afraid you may have to chalk this one up as a lesson learned and move on unless you plan on lying your butt off to this guy which I dont recommend.
2007-01-04 22:34:49 · answer #4 · answered by perkadittle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first, get your priorities straight. then you need to get out this fantasy life you living and realize that you cant get everything in life. some men are nice while others are pretending to be nice (to get what they want from you-sex). of course this only means that you are being used and you dont even see it cause you are too caught up in what he looks like. If you are sure that you have levelled your head, then its time you call the other guy and apologize then see what comes next.
2007-01-04 22:32:47 · answer #5 · answered by osito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost say sorry but you lost your head there. Like the old saying goes " Looks aren't everything". My b/f likes to tell me "You give ugly guys hope". I can care less what a guy looks like it is how he treats me that is most important.
2007-01-05 00:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by Wicked Angel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like both are not satisfying for you. But you sound sort of superficial. Looking for "hotter", well that's ok but you need to have a sound and clear understanding of what your own "hotness" might make available and what it is that you are looking for.
2007-01-04 22:32:47 · answer #7 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are boned....you missed out on somthing good you shallow, shallow girl.....waiting for some one hotter when some one hot likes you and you blow him off for a hoter aand shallower guy.
you are out of your depth in a mud puddle
good luck you are going to need it
2007-01-04 22:35:03 · answer #8 · answered by oneadam12 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how much good it will do you but you could call him and see what happens. He might still like you, if he doesn't then find someone else. Good luck
2007-01-04 22:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well if you read what you said, its about you, you didn't think he was hot or anything, maybe just maybe you need to start thinking about "real feelings" and if you are ready to let somebody love you, he'll damn sure be ready to take you back!
2007-01-04 22:32:24 · answer #10 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋