I really think that you need to give a lot more information for this question to be relevant. How late was it? Did you have something that you had to get up early in the morning to do? What is your relationship with him like? How common is it for you to stay up so late? Contrary to everyone that wants to spout "abuse" as a catchphrase, I'm not convinced.
Your body needs sleep. If you don't get enough, then you are sluggish and more likely to fall ill. If your boyfriend cares about you, and I'm betting that he does, then he doesn't want to see neglecting yourself like that. A simple swat on the bottom to get you in bed to get the rest you need is not abuse, but you staying up late at night and not getting that rest is abusing yourself. Sit back and ask yourself which was worse.... what he did to you with a single swat to your backside, or what you were doing to yourself by denying yourself the sleep you needed.
I live in a domestic discipline relationship. For those that don't know what that is, domestic discipline is when one adult member in a household consents to another to be held accountable for misbehavior and breaking rules. Yes, that means that my roommate is spanked by me when she gets out of line. I don't mean a single swat, either. While I don't send her to bed, I have spanked her several times for trying to climb on chairs or countertops to reach things (she has poor balance, and is legally blind) and for leaving the oven burners on when she goes to work (which she did today, grrrrr.....).
In any case, regardless of the facts that we don't know, talk to your boyfriend. He knows why he did it better than any of us ever will, and you might find that he is concerned about some things that you do to yourself. If that's the case, and if you want to do better, you might consider that an occasional sore bottom is a fair trade for helping you to be a better person to yourself.
2007-01-08 05:47:24
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answered by baka_otaku30 5
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Should he have warned you? He should never have done what he did to begin with. I am assuming that you are an adult since you are sleeping with him, what he did was belittling you as an adult, and treating you like a misbehaving child, and he had no right to do that.
This was something minor that you did to obviously annoy him for him to treat you that way, what is he going to do if something major happens and you don't do things he wants???
Remember, NO MAN has a right to lay his hands on you in any way that makes you uncomfortable, EVER.
Definition of abuse:
Abuse is an attempt to control the behaviour of another person. It is a misuse of power which uses the bonds of intimacy, trust and dependency to make the victim vulnerable.
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Womens abuse involves the intent of the male partner to intimidate, either by threat or by use of physical force, the female partner's person or property. His goal is to control her actions or thoughts by inducing fear and inflicting emotional and/or physical pain. Underlying all abuse is a power imbalance between victim and abuser.
2007-01-04 14:45:21
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answered by slpkwp 3
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Ahhh are you an adult or a child? Is he your boyfriend or your father? You need to answer those questions right away. No man should ever lay his hands on you to hit you EVER. No matter what. And no one gets "spanked" after the age of 5.
2007-01-04 14:28:51
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answered by Barbiq 6
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Ok that's really strange. No guy should be doing this to you with or without warning. Confront him about it and tell him if he hurts you again it is OVER. No one deserves an abusive bf I'm sure you can do better.
2007-01-04 14:28:19
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answered by susie q 2
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It doesn't matter what you have done , he didn't have the right to spank you. If you let him do that he going to continue doing it for the rest of your life. Get rid of him he is not worth it. A man who hits a woman is a coward.
2007-01-04 14:30:19
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answered by teresita 2
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first of all he's not u mom or dad he's ur BOYFRIEND! if u are with him i'm assuming u r grown. That means that u go to bed whenever u want to go to bed. I bet he's contolling.... if he is then u need to end this relationship before it gets worse. But no man has a right to put his hands on a woman! REMEMBER THAT!! MEN NEED US WE DONT NEED THEM!
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2007-01-04 14:29:52
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answered by LC 2
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Just a single swat? You got off lightly, young lady. He should have put you over his knee, bared your bottom and spanked you thoroughly. And you'd have loved it, wouldn't you?
2007-01-04 21:20:50
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answered by Anonymous
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It sounds like your boyfriend likes to be the alpha male by what he did. If he hit you really hard like he was your dad punishing you, then HELL no. But if it was a not very stingy slap then it was just a reminder who's in charge, I might've done the same thing, but I would've been playful about it.
2007-01-04 14:28:42
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answered by shai brian 2
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That was kind of akward.
Was he serious? Or was he joking?
Did he really spank you?
Like I said, that was kind of akward.
But, yeah, he should've warned you, that was kind of quick.
Maybe you should talk to him about it, tell him what you feel.
Good Luck.
2007-01-04 14:27:37
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answered by Anonymous
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Of course not. You aren't a child! That's called assault. You'd better straighten his act up now or get out before that kind of treatment becomes commonplace.
2007-01-04 14:25:29
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answered by Anonymous
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