Vandalism--Help!!! What can i do to catch these creeps!?

Question

Ok so heres the story-

June 2006 - Sat. morning walk to car to get in for work and discover writing in pink lipstick all over the window, a heart drawn with an arrow through and my live in boyfriend of 5 years initials.

Nasty emails off and on throughout the rest of 2006..on myspace and no way to track them.

Dec. 31st/Jan. 1st- tires are slit on my new car so perfectly that they werent flat when i got in it, but blew out dangerously when i drove it. police took note of this and i told them about prior incidents.

Jan 2nd- hear a car door slam at 1:30 in the morning, so i run outside and see nothing, check my backup car (the one with slit tires is in the shop being safety checked), and now there another heart in lipstick all over the window.

Jan 3rd- boyfriend car gets a heart drawn on it in lipstick.

Cant figure out who it is, nobodys seen nothing, no tracks, no nothing. took pictures of everything and police wrote down incident with slashed tires.

What can i do?

ive ordered a night camera and we have motion lights already- these people come in my yard and do this with lights on!! what can i do else to catch them and get charges filed? new tires for my car were $600.00+ cost of camera $185.00, and my gosh the emotional mess!!! my boyfriend has no idea, thinks maybe an obsessed person, but come on slash my tires- that dangerous! the cop said i could have been killed or seriously injured. other who saw it said somebody wants me hurt!! what can i do? and how did they know i had a backup car from a friend?? are they watching me???? what should i do, im scared about this and tired of it. they are going to get what they deserve!! please help!!

no its not the boyfriend, hes in the house living with me, has born witness to all of this

ok so we staked out last night, and our neighbor, the cop, has taken a report of all incidences. nothing happened last night, but some big muscular friends of mine are staking out tonight since i have to sleep for work in the morning. the camera didnt arrive today, tracking shows it will be here tommororw...and we do have car alarms, but alarms only go off if someone trys to open the vehicle, messing with the tires and writing on the windows doesnt make it go off...ive got some suspects inmind, and are waiting to catch them in the act. no point in confronting people and asking around,i must keep this very private you know...thanks everyone for your help

Answer 1

Do you or your bf have anyone in your past who was the jealous type? It sounds like it would be someone like that, since there's a lot of hearts being drawn. Maybe someone who was in town for the holidays? Is this the town you or your bf grew up in?

Sit down with your bf and try to figure out who it might be. Once you can connect this without a doubt to a specific person you can report this as stalking.

You're doing the right thing to write everything down, calling the cops, and taking pictures. You will need that stuff when they finally catch the idiot.

You mentioned the security features you bought. Do you have a video camera pointed toward your driveway? It sounds like for now this person is satisfied with messing with cars. Put it up high, and find a place where it's not noticable. And if they're not afraid of the motion sensor lights, that's great for you. Your video camera will be able to see better while it's recording.

If those nasty emails had threats of bodily harm tell the cops. (I hope you saved the messages.) I don't know a lot about myspace, but just because you can't track the emails doesn't mean the company can't. If it gets bad enough, like threats of harm, I'm sure they can do something about it.

It sounds like you're doing everything you can do. Just stay aware of your surroundings and put in whatever security features will help you feel safe. Keep reporting incidents to the cops, and try to get this on camera. Hopefully this creep was only in town for the holidays and will be out of your life soon.

I'm sorry that there isn't much more I can suggest. But you've been doing the right things.

Answer 2

In some cities if someone is vandalizing your home or if you have a prowler you can ask the police to do random checks on your home.

I know it's tough, but ask questions of the police and ISP to see what can be done in your area.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Do you think it's possible that the lipstick and the slashed tires were done by different people? Because the lipstick seems recurring, but the tires were a one-time thing.

Ask the police their advice about this. They might be able to make a recommendation.

I'm so sorry. This is obviously bothering you and weighing heavy on your mind. I hope you find peace.

Answer 4

If your tires were slashed with the intention of getting you in an accident the police ought to be questioning this joker really hard.

You could try putting some motion detector lights in the yard so they turn on only when they sense motion. A loud alarm would not hurt either.

Bottom line is, if you really think he intends to hurt you, either move out where he cannot find you, or take steps to defend yourself should the need arise.

This is the sort of problem police have a very difficult time handling.

Some things you should not do:

1) Do NOT go out somewhere to meet him to discuss things.
2) Do not threaten him, or get anybody else to.
3) If you do take steps to be able to defend yourself, do not let any friends know what they are. You are going to be dismayed to know how much information gets passed. That back up car for example.

Good luck with it.

-Dio

Answer 5

A private investigator can make short work of this. Get out the yellow pages. This will be cheaper than getting new tires again. Once you have the proof, you can press charges and also get a restaining order.

Answer 6

Boyfriend? X-girlfriend of boyfriend? Neighbor?The camera is your best bet, but asking the BF to move out, or dissapear for awhile is good, too. If he is really a good guy, he'll leave for awhile.
Get a friend or a relative to stay with you, or go stay with someone yourself. Tell the boyfriend where you are going, and tell him everyone you know is aware of the change. But tell no one but him. If the craziness follows you, guess who it is.And for goodness sake, don't run out into the night to check the damage, or go after someone.
And call the police with each episode of creepiness.
Sorry, but I'm betting it's the boyfriend, too. Find a way to check him out. Look to his friends, not so xgirlfriends, somebody is carrying out his plans for him.
Maybe figure out some kind of motion detector, that makes light and noise. Maybe the neighbors will see something. anyone you know that will loan you a guard dog? Long chain, that extends to the bumper of the car will work as a deterent, too. Look for similarities in the creepiness, same nights, same times, and keep a journal. Things like, it is always a Tuesday, and funny how his brother is off work every other Tuesday.
Good luck, and be careful. the police are right someone may really wish you harm.

Answer 7

I think the boyfriend should hide in the bushes with a shotgun. He doesn't have to hurt them, but he can either scare them or capture them for the cops.

Answer 8

Other than the cameras, and maybe parking your car in the garage. ( I am only guessing that you have one) You are doing all that you can, you just have to wait.

Answer 9

I bet it's your boyfriend--really!!!

Answer 10

Sounds like your bf has a gf on the side, and she's p i s s e d - o f f !