he is two years older than me..we started dating when i was a freshman and he a junior (in highschool) now hes a senior...i still really care about him..we are really good freidns still but it hurts ... we have been broken up for about 2-3 monthes and i have gotten past the hardest part of getting over him ...but it still controls me to a certain extent and i need to get past this ..how?
2007-01-04 14:05:59 · 21 answers · asked by B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is very common because you are still young and your emotions are so raw and pure. You have so much passion and it's okay to feel like this, but it will get better. Here's a quick and easy way to get you to realize the greatness of relationships and it will also help you reflect on what the best things in life really are. Make a list of 10 things that made you feel happy about being with this guy. Make a second list of 5 things that really made you upset or unhappy about being with this guy. After you make both lists, throw the bad list away. It's a complete waste of time to focus on the negative things. Take the good list and appreciate the good times and move forward. Now imaging how many other guys there are in this world that can give the same things this other guy gave you and probably even more or maybe a little less. The important thing to realize is that now matter how much you fall in love with someone and it doesn't work out, there is always a chance that the next time it will be even greater than before and it will also teach you a lesson in love. The more lessons you learn the greater you will become......Good Luck!!!
2007-01-04 14:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it from the perspective of the law. Is he 18 yet? In most states ya'll really shouldn't be together (well, if any hanky panky is going on, that is). What do your parents think of him?
He's a senior and probably has had serious peer pressure from his boys. It's the last year and they want to have some fun, more than likely with older girls or girls in their class (same age).
As far as the actually getting over him, try your best to find comfort in the fact that you will find and meet 50 hotter guys througout your life. I know a year is a long time, but the rest of your life is a LOT longer.10 years from now you will look back on this in laugh. H*ll, maybe TWO years from now!
Don't worry. He's outa there after this year, and you got 2 years to turn that school out!
2007-01-04 14:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by gabound75 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is a healer. I know that don't mean a whole lot right now.
In a couple of years you will have trouble remembering the color of his eyes, get busy hang with those who love you. avoid him! Don't dwell on him. Get a project, get in shape! go to the gym. go to church ! Go talk to your pastor, Nothing like Little attention to cure a broken heart. I really was in love with this guy in high school and he cheated on me and broke my heart! Well i lived!
Thank God i didn't marry him! He has cheated only every wife he has had. I had a good man in my life now! Like that song! by Garth brooks! Thank God for unanswered prayers! It will get better i promise! Read this book ~ Boundaries in dating by John Mcloud! You will be so glad you did! Explains all the stuff i would like to tell you! One day at a time, one step at a time! Breathe in and breath out! Life is good and its gonna get better! You are a gift and a special blessing that God is saving for a special guy!
Till then, guard your heart !!!!!READ THE BOOK PLEASE @@@@
2007-01-04 14:16:47 · answer #3 · answered by tennessee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best cure for getting over an old love is getting a new one. Look around and see what's out there. Nine times out of ten, when you find a new one the old one will try to come back.
2007-01-04 14:08:43 · answer #4 · answered by robee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to accept this pain...this is part of love. I feel so strongly for you in this situation, as I am seperated from someone I love dearly. There is nothing we can do, people can act tough, say they get over people, move on with their lives, but then it diminishes what love is. So be proud, you are one beautiful lady who is going to grow, and meet someone who will be close for you forever, and it will be true!!!
2007-01-04 14:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by D Low 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my b/f just broke up on x-mas eve. we were together for 19 months. its still very hard on me, but you can do it. just dont talk to him a lot and dont look at pictures of him, read any notes he may have wrote you or anything. just to let you know, senior guys usually dont like to have g/f very long during their senior year of high school. i am a senior girl and i see couples that have been dating during most of high school break up this time of year. and its usually the guy that does all of the breaking up because they want to "play the field."
2007-01-04 14:14:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
time sweetie time, think about yourself before you were with him. how great it felt to have choices and the excitement of meeting that new person and getting to know them, that's you now, free to be with whomever you want when you want, no ones property.
ego makes people hang on longer than their heart does. you don't need to prove to him you don't still care. move on, it doesn't matter if he knows or not.
2007-01-04 14:16:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first and for-most the hardest part is over you say , then start dating another guy, go out and enjoy life, it wont Waite for you , take every day like it is your last , i am sure he is enjoying his so my dear you get out there and enjoy yours to the fullest.
2007-01-04 14:12:35 · answer #8 · answered by shirleylindsay1956 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well get theorpy and find a new guy. But what I don't understand is that you broke-up with him 3 months ago and now just talking about about it. Then that means that you still love him not like him. DUH! But wait. Why are you now just telling about this? Are you faking this?
2007-01-04 14:10:55 · answer #9 · answered by The Mermaid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a good friend that will take up some of your time, but not be upset when you talk about him. In time, you will heal.
2007-01-04 14:07:53 · answer #10 · answered by wanderingphotographer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋