I'm 18 and a Senior in High School. My bf who attends my school dumped me on CHRISTMAS over the phone and I did not see it coming. I did everything I could to be a good girlfriend, I went to all of his basketball games and called him afterwards to tell him how well he played, I gave him his space when he needed it and I was always loyal and honest with him.
He told me I did all of that stuff right, but he thinks I'm about to be an alcoholic. I've been around him drunk ONCE and he has smoked pot a few times and I NEVER complain about it. He said he broke up with me because of this and I care too much about other people and not enough about myself. Now that we are back in school, everyone knows I was dumped and it's humiliating. I don't know how I should act around him! And today when I walked by him he grabbed my waist like he used to do , I don't know why. .Please help I don't know how to act around him and even after all the pain he has put me through, I miss being his gf.
2007-01-04 14:05:55 · 11 answers · asked by susie q 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm really sorry for what this guy has done.
His reason for leaving you sounds a little strange. Sometimes, relationships can get too much for people so maybe he had to search for a 'reason' rather than admitting his real feelings- i.e. that he's scared to fall in love, scared to have a proper girlfriend and scared of commitment (men are like that).
The fact he grabbed your waist could mean anything. I personally think this was really insensitive of him. He could at least acted humble in your presence to let you know he feels bad for what has happened. Then again, maybe he has his head in the clouds and thinks the two of you are just boygirl buddies again. You know, where the two of you flirt but don't have a relationship.
The next time he does this, just ask him in a playful way, "Hey, I thought you weren't interested anymore...?" and see his response.
I can imagine how you're suffering... it's probably because that his actions make you feel that it possibly isn't really over, and there isn't any closure to this.
Don't feel humiliated. You were too cool, too mature a girlfriend for this guy. I know you must miss him :-( But maybe what he said about you not caring enough about yourself was true. Cut the hold he has hold on you for a start. You're clearly a fantastic girl. Keep your head held up, enjoy life as a single lady (can be so much more fun!) and steer clear of him.
Maybe it isn't all over. But pining for him wont get him back. Prove him wrong. Look out for you and only you. Screw his basketball games. Screw him. Keep smiling, stay friendly- but unattached- and remember that this is just one of many relationships you'll have in your life. It may hurt now, but in a few years time you'll probably have the most incredible guy in your life who'll be head over heels for you.
2007-01-04 14:26:20 · answer #1 · answered by midsojo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he was your first. the first one is usually hard to get over. my ex girlfriend and i was dating for over three year since junior high. anyhow i joined the military and after i finished basic and tech school i thought that everything would be great and i could take her away. well i came home and things were perfect, but the last day of being home she came over to tell me bye and to end things. i winded up being stationed like 27 hrs away from home and then one sunday she left a message never to call her ever again. wtf, right and then i find out she gets a new man bout a week later. bull ****, anyhow its about a year later in a couple of weeks and im in iraq... i still cant get over her. she seemed so loyal and perfect. ****** astonishing. anyhow i think shes going to remain unless i can find someone better who can make me drift away from my once pleasant thoughts... maybe i can do the same for you, lol. bye
2007-01-04 14:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First just act normal when ur around him and stop caring what other people think about you make him notice what he missed out on and remember that hes not worth it try going out with friends and meet new people when the pain is gone try getting another guy who is gonna worship u .
2007-01-04 14:10:36 · answer #3 · answered by angel 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he's a horrible guy. You deserve better than that. As for how to act around him, he treated you like crap. Treat him like the scum he is. It's time to move on. There's plenty more men and women out there. Some of them will actually respect you.
2007-01-04 14:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1) it was a retarded reason for dumping you. the rule for retarded reasons is that there is always a good reason behind them that will make you hate him (most likely he has fallen for someone else).
2) do not, do NOT, DO NOT hit somebody on the rebound. you will "wake up" a couple of weeks later and think "ugh, did i really sleep with THAT guy?" and end up feeling worse, or used.
2007-01-04 14:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by John C 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Act like it doesn't bother you. Be strong. Take interest in someone else, go out, do things and be unavailabe to him and your pain.
2007-01-04 14:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa I 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
iknowilove unow get overit ut life is though mine is too i take all my misyakes and carry them on my shoulder but today i carry them no more i keep pushing
2007-01-04 14:08:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he's a **** anyways, go find someone who treats you right like this guy myspace.com/nicknorton
2007-01-04 14:08:23 · answer #8 · answered by Italian Stallion 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
get someone who isn't a loser
2007-01-04 14:08:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
why dont you talk to him
2007-01-04 14:08:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋